Post by jonny on May 30, 2010 20:59:10 GMT
Thank you ladies.
Today has been tough. Weekends always are, but every other saturday, wife works nights so I have the children much more to allow her to sleep. (She is a nurse. Interestingly, I have been told by my therapist as well as the HV that nurses are the most challenging in terms of getting through the layers of denial. Another hurdle for me to deal with.)
With our 1 yr old having a bad cold, I was up most of the night so could do without wife's hurtful comments when she got home.
I had written a loving message on the kids blackboard (my name loves wife's name), which wife took an instant dislike to. She immediately took a photo of the message and told me she would send it to her solicitor as further proof of my controlling bullying behaviour.
Then she announced that she is taking the children on a picnic tomorrow - BH monday but that I am not invited. Even the kids pleading for me to come fell on deaf ears. (Who is the controlling bully readers?)
Why is she so bloody nasty to me all the time? There is no respite for me. I made a great roast dinner today and all she could do was moan that she had too many potatoes. I am a pretty good catch by most peoples standards yet I am treated like a bloody alien.
I take your points WG and Juppster but I cannot imagine us reconciling after we divorce. I need to retain some dignity - that is what my therapist is advising. I have put up with an abusive relationship for long enough, so a divorce would be the end.
I am truly at the lowest ebb this weekend. I have tried for months now to be the best husband and father I can. All I get is trodden on. It isn't what people do to each other - no matter how ill she is, she knows that.
Thanks for listening ladies.
Jonny
Today has been tough. Weekends always are, but every other saturday, wife works nights so I have the children much more to allow her to sleep. (She is a nurse. Interestingly, I have been told by my therapist as well as the HV that nurses are the most challenging in terms of getting through the layers of denial. Another hurdle for me to deal with.)
With our 1 yr old having a bad cold, I was up most of the night so could do without wife's hurtful comments when she got home.
I had written a loving message on the kids blackboard (my name loves wife's name), which wife took an instant dislike to. She immediately took a photo of the message and told me she would send it to her solicitor as further proof of my controlling bullying behaviour.
Then she announced that she is taking the children on a picnic tomorrow - BH monday but that I am not invited. Even the kids pleading for me to come fell on deaf ears. (Who is the controlling bully readers?)
Why is she so bloody nasty to me all the time? There is no respite for me. I made a great roast dinner today and all she could do was moan that she had too many potatoes. I am a pretty good catch by most peoples standards yet I am treated like a bloody alien.
I take your points WG and Juppster but I cannot imagine us reconciling after we divorce. I need to retain some dignity - that is what my therapist is advising. I have put up with an abusive relationship for long enough, so a divorce would be the end.
I am truly at the lowest ebb this weekend. I have tried for months now to be the best husband and father I can. All I get is trodden on. It isn't what people do to each other - no matter how ill she is, she knows that.
Thanks for listening ladies.
Jonny