Are we mad to think about this?

[stevensmummy]

Hi everyone,

Firstly, hello, I'm back lol. I've had connection issues since moving house and have missed the support. I'm thankful of being back!

Right, tell me the truth now. My oh and I have always wanted 4 kids. My eldest is 5, next one 3 and little one 18m. I have always wanted a girl. They are all boys. I feel i have one last chance to try. When I was a little girl, my great grandmother was what I thot the most wonderful woman in the world. She had an uncanny habit of telling what would happen. Prediction if you like. As a child I thot this was amazing. She told me when I was about 10 that when i grow up i must remember that finally I will have a little girl like me. I dont feel like this is my reason to want more, only that if i dont try i will regret it.

We are thinking of trying again. Our ideas being falling pregnant within the next 6-8m. I dont want too big a gap. hes already 18m, he'd b nearly 3 by the time I have it. I have suffered twice and am currently on ads but for another reason. A very small dose, what my doc has called a pick me up. Alot has gone on lately and I was feeling a blip, and with 3 kids I cant risk it. I would like to be on the meds for about 6m, although the doc said 4 should be enough. In truth i feel better already and it may have been a little premature of me to ask for more. The stresses have now left and I have found other methods of relaxing. I am painting again and get great relief from this.

Am I crazy to even think about more? Considering my meds at present is it a mad thot? However its something I have been thinking about for the last 8m.

Advice would be very much appreciated

Sarah x

[Weeble]

No you are not mad. Despite my pni with all my children, the children are worth it

Kat

[sarajay28]

Sarah,

I totally empathise with you - its such a hard decision to make isn't it? I have 3 chilren (2 boys & 1 girl) and i always imagined i would have either 2 or 4 children (this may seem a bit strange but i never wanted only 3 - it had to be 2 or 4!?) i had 2 with my 1st hubby then went onto have another child with my 2nd hubby. Now my hubby would love us to have another child (like yesterday!!) but i am so terrified of suffering again that i just can't do it right now. I would never say never but right at this moment i can't. I would say to you though that if its what you want then go for it! Your gp and midwife will be well aware of your situation and you'll have the support round about you so if you truly feel that you'd regret it then go for it!

Sarah.xxx

[juppster]

Hey, great to hear from you!
I too can empathise, as although i only have one child, we are currently in the same predicament. although i am far from recovered i have such a strong urge to have another one for a whole host of reasons.
Unfortunately only you and your oh can make this decision and i know how hard that is x

[stevensmummy]

Hi guys,

Thankyou for the replies. I did wonder if I'd get any what with it being so far down the forum, ppl dont always look down this far.

It is something we have been thinking of for some time. I feel like I want another. My oh wants another. i feel like this is my last chance. If I wait any longer then it'll b, well in my oppinion, too late for more. I know I'm not that old but I cant go from school kid to baby again. My eldest is 5 and I think that he would be very good and helpful. He is really helpful already with my 18m old.

Like you say sarah, my gp and midwife will know my situation. And hopefully that will help. I'm not really worried about suffering pni again. its more silly things. I guess to b honest I havent got any serious reason not to.

I have already started to look into ovulation etc and am going to track my ovulatory cycle for 2m before trying. As I really want to get a girl and I need to know exactly when I ovulate to do that. If its my last shot then I want to make sure I do it right lol.

Thanks guys, its nice to have the support! xxx

[monica]

Good luck wiht the baby making and enjoy the trying. Just wanted to add that I think it's a brill idea. if I were younger and probably in relationship where I felt that it was more of a partnership than it is, i would love to try again. I do get so broody. In my position it really wouldn't be a good idea but I think you would probably regret not doing so.

I read somewhere that women who eat healthily are more receptive to 'x' sperm to coneive girls.

Monica