Tribute to a special baby

[stevensmummy]

Hi Ladies,

I'm looking for some ideas please. A friend of mine has recently suffered the misfortune of a sillborn baby. There are a few of us who are all friends and we would like to give some sort of tribute to her in memory of the baby.

Does anyone have any suggestions or ideas?

xx

[Weeble]

Hi

What a terribly sad time for you all. My mother lost two babies at birth and one of closest friends first son died during delivery. What they both say is they just need people to talk to about it over and over again. People who mention the Childs name and talk about him with them. My friend says I am one of only two people who mention her sons name and acknowledge his existence and absence. My mum says people used To cross to the other side of the road to avoid saying anything. That's what I would suggest, work to keep him real for her, cry with her, and talk about him with her.


Be kind to yourself too, your a mother of young children yourself who has had a tough time recently, this must be really distressing

Kat

It must

[wanagetoverthis]

Hi babe

How very tragic, I am so so sorry for your friend, I can't even imagine what they must be going through

Have you thought about naming a star after her baby?

As part of the various packages, you can get an engraved keyring and / or paperweight / ornament so then she could hold it and think of the baby or have it with her at all times.

She could also look to the sky at night and know she is up among the angels.

www.universal-star-registry.com/acatalog/

So so sorry, all my love
Nat xxxxx

[wanagetoverthis]

That sounds really true Kat. People so often avoid talking about a loss because they think it will 'upset' that person when really, that said person should have the choice whether to talk about it.

Thinking of you
Nat xxx

[stevensmummy]

Thankyou guys,

A close friend of mine lost her baby at 4 days old, we talk about her regularly. Shes part of our everyday life. Her husband wont talk about her and as a result she feels release talking to us. There are only a few of us who do talk about it with her, so I can relate to what you are saying Kat.

Thanks Nat, we did think about naming a star after her. its was one of the suggestions. I thought maybe some sort of necklace, a birthstone or something with her name engraved. Then it could b held close to her heart. Its so difficult. I cant imagine how it feels, its your worst nightmare

Thanks again girls xx

[juppster]

Such a difficult time for her and for those around her. This recently happened to a good friend of mines sister....her husband is the same, wants to forget, won't talk about and all she wants to do is talk about...so tragic. I think the star thing is a lovely idea, we did this for my FIL when he passed but equally the necklace would be lovely to. Will be thinking of you all on Monday hun x

[stevensmummy]

We're meeting up tomorrow afternoon to talk about it. I'll let you know what we decided on xx

[monica]

Hi

What a kind thing to do. You are a wonderful friend.

I lst a baby boy at 19 weeks gestation, not quite as horrific as what your friends have gone through, but I bought a keepsake box in which I have photos, cards, a little blanket my baby son was wrapped in and a little diary. It's something you can look back at. It's always painful yet at the same quite a cathartic experience and I always feel better afterwards.

A necklace with birthstone is also a lovely giftx

[juppster]

Hey, have been thinking of you all today...i hope it was bearable for you and your friend xx

[stevensmummy]

Today was difficult, Ive spoken more about it in my diary. Im just so drained now. It was hard for Gillian too, brought back all the memories of Rebecca.

We havent decided just what to get her yet. I think we are going to meet upand discuss it again soon.

Thanks for the support, ure all so wonderful xx

[Veritee]

I know I am commenting a little late on this, but I have miscarried but quite early so not the same, however a good friend of mine her baby was full term but stillborn. And we found there is a really useful charity, run also from Cornwall where I live but can be used from anywhere in the UK online, called Forget Me Not www.forgetmenotcharity.org/background.php

It supports women who have lost a child at any stage of pregnancy or birth or shortly afterwards.

It is also on Facebook too www.facebook.com/pages/Forget-Me-Not-Charity/121092241247209

Perhaps your friend would be interested and it may be useful to other women as well.

Vee xx