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Post by Weeble on Oct 9, 2014 21:07:16 GMT
Good luck remember you feel yuck thats a good sign
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Post by brach24 on Oct 9, 2014 21:10:03 GMT
How far on are you? Hope today a bit easier xx
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Post by sarajay28 on Oct 9, 2014 21:13:56 GMT
Yes kat very true! I'm 12 wks tomorrow going by their dates but I have my proper dating scan on Monday so should get definite dates then. Today's been ok, took it easy as I had a day off :-) although did a bit of cleaning as hubby home today lol x
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Post by willo on Oct 18, 2014 10:55:39 GMT
How did the scan go? Thinking of you.
With the practicalities of a home birth... My waters went with a woosh when my bump had a big hiccup as I lay down on the bed before even the hint of a contraction so I have never legged it so fast to the loo! Hubby thought I was going to throw up. After that I wore pads to catch the constant leak with contractions. I had a home box of bits ready and a just in case hospital bag.
I set myself up with a comfy floor zone. A rug and duvet under a plastic ground cover then an old bed sheet on top. That was soft enough to lie and rest on and I wasn't stressing about the floor and hubby just binned the plastic sheet and top sheet. That meant that all mess was gone in the time it took me to get from the floor to the sofa so I never actually saw it! I had on standby and will again, but never used, plenty of towels that could be thrown at any unexpected gush and a bright lamp in case stitches were needed. I had an extremely long and really liked being able to do whatever I wanted, and found it lovely to use my own shower and going upstairs helped settle pain from when the baby kept wiggling into bad positions... Little sod was trying to twist and kick his way out so they were constantly digging around with the Doppler to try to find him! I also felt far less pressured for any medical interfering. For example I've had friends repeatedly encouraged to take epidurals because they said they were exhausted or c-section just because pushing phase was prolonged even though no signs of distress. They seemed more willing to offer once then let me do my thing because any interfering would require an ambulance! On the safety point of view though, home births statistically have far less complications than those considered equal risk attending for a hospital birth, and even worst case scenario, an emergency c-section would require at least half hour to prepare theater and get surgical team ready. You are considered same priority as someone not breathing if you need ambulance and midwife would phone ahead so there would be no delay in care if your half hour ish away when being rushed by ambulance! x
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Post by sarajay28 on Oct 18, 2014 15:47:06 GMT
Thanks willo for all that :-D
My scan was really good, baby looked great and definitely growing lol. So I'm now 12 weeks + 5 days. It feels like it's going so so slow though. After my scan I saw the horrible consultant who didn't really say much and I didn't Want to talk to him. I'd made an appointment for weds with my midwife as I wanted to discuss some things wirh her. Spoke to her about the glucose tolerance test, she agreed that even though I am overweight I'm not in an at risk category, my bmi is under 30. I said I didn't want the test if it wasn't medically necessary, she said that's perfectly ok so felt happier about that. Also told her about my experience with the consultant and she agreed he was rude and should never have spoken to me the way he did, we discussed why I am consultant led and it's because of my previous pni. I told her I don't want to see a consultant again as if ever I was feeling like I was slipping then a complete stranger would be the last person I would talk to! She also agreed that if this is how I feel then maybe it's better if I'm midwife led. We also discussed home birth and she's very pro home birth which is lovely, I feel like she is on my side. We discussed the emergency situations which could arise and she is confident that us being half hr away from our nearest hospital is not a problem.
Today I feel like crap! I feel fat, not pregnant, I'm knackered as I'm not sleeping well due to the hip pain (I've been referred for physio) and all in all i feel fed up of being pregnant. My 15yr old is doing my head in, she's been away for a week with her friends family and got back yesterday, whilst she was away we'd got some stuff we needed, a bigger wardrobe for one, but it's left us pretty skint until pay day and she has done nothing but whinge today because I told her if she wants to continue to go to parties (in the next village so a return bus ride everytime) and have new make up/clothes etc then she is gonna have to find a job to which I got a barrage of abuse where she basically said that if we weren't having another baby we would have more money!! That's really upset me as I feel like us having another child is now detrimental to the kids weve got :-( I know I'm just tired and hormonal but it got to me. X
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Post by rochelle121 on Oct 18, 2014 21:34:10 GMT
Congratulations! While I've been looking around this forum I'm pleased to see there's a couple of other pregnant ladies so i don't feel so alone with my hormones now xx
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Post by sarajay28 on Oct 18, 2014 21:36:22 GMT
Thank you, Yes unusually there are a few of us in the same place! It's nice to have this space to write down your real feelings and to know that others here really do understand. This site has helped me no end over the past 9 yrs. I hope it does the same for you xx (oh and congratulations to you too) x
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Post by brach24 on Oct 18, 2014 22:49:07 GMT
Congrats on the good scan and on having a good chat with the midwife. Sounds like she's really supportive and will help you make the decisions that are best for you. You've got me wondering about home birth myself now! Been having similar thoughts about the next baby being detrimental to my other kids and them doing without. I'm reminding myself that a new wee sibling is such a gift to them too. Extra family to support them in their future, extra relationships to encourage them. Ok so they maybe have less money and time spent on them but isn't that also important for them too sometimes? I'm glad my girls have had to share attention and belongings - it's surely a healthy way to be. Getting a job at 15 might be the making of her too. I learnt a lot from my first job! Hope you get a good chat with her soon xx
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Post by sarajay28 on Oct 19, 2014 21:30:26 GMT
Yesterday wasn't a good day! I haven't been sleeping due to the pain in my hips, I'm wondering if I've actually got a trapped nerve as when I lie on my side the opposite side leg goes numb?! But is painful at the same time?? I know spd/pgp starts earlier with each pregnancy but I've never had these symptoms before.... Will wait for my physio appointment. My daughter......ugh!! We had a massive row last night as she'd come downstairs in this absolutely awful dress that left nothing to the imagination!! Usually she looks so nice, maybe more revealing than I'd like but mostly respectable but that dress!!!!!! Woah. She takes after me and is a busty girl.....well that is all I could see! so I ended up saying she wasn't going to the party unless she changed. Which she did eventually and hasn't spoken to me since! Lol. I can cope with that, it's nice and peaceful right now :-D Yes my midwife is lovely, really supportive, she said we might be met with some opposition from the consultant re the home birth due to my spd but said it's my choice and it's obvious I am able to make an informed decision! I said I was aware of the situation and was ready to fight my corner if needs be, she said she'd back me 100% as long as it was safe :-D I wish every midwife was like her!!
Am back to work tomorrow after a weeks holiday, am looking forward to the return to routine although not looking forward to the physical side of it :-( will try and take it easy though x
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Post by sarajay28 on Oct 20, 2014 22:13:14 GMT
Sleep deprivation really is the devil in disguise have had a really crappy day today but am positive it's the lack of sleep coupled with a hard going, full on day at work!! So much for taking it easy :-( I was left in charge today (I'm not meant to be for health & safety reasons) and we had a delivery, a big delivery with just me and 2 other staff!! I was quite peed off at this as my boss is well aware I'm not meant to be left in charge but she cannot say no! So when she's told she's being sent elsewhere it's always yes sir, 3 bags full sir!! It just really irritates me. My hips have been ok today, better than I feared they would it being my first day back after a week off. I hope I get some kind of decent sleep tonight x
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Post by sarajay28 on Oct 22, 2014 21:31:29 GMT
Managed to get a relatively decent sleep last night, despite waking at one point with a dead leg! Managed to get up for a pee and then go straight back to sleep :-D Can't get my head round just how different this pregnancy has been so far compared to my other 3! They were all horrible lol. I was sick from the word go with them, I had low blood pressure which caused fainting episodes, I had horrendous heartburn from day 1 too but so far this time I've had a few sporadic days of feeling a bit nauseous, my BP is lower than normal but not too low and have had no heartburn (yet!) obviously the spd/pgp is increasing as time goes on but I can cope. What about the rest of you? Have all your pregnancies been the same? Or different? X
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Post by rochelle121 on Oct 23, 2014 19:03:57 GMT
Hey Sarah. It's good to hear you managed to have a good sleep finally! My pregnancy so far seems to be exactly the same as my last oddly! Except with way more anxiety and depression too. But I'm sick as a dog most of the day and craving margarita pizzas like mad :/ lol I wish I could crave something like apples or something healthy for a change! Lol Take care xxx
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Post by sarajay28 on Oct 23, 2014 19:15:59 GMT
Aww that sucks hun, I've already been there 3 times! Lol so glad it's different this time :-D I'm more laid back this time I think, definitely more irritable! But at 37 I kinda feel if I want to tell someone they've peed me off then I will! Haha I've not really had any cravings as yet, I get a fancy for something but then that's nothing new! I have heartburn today but it's my own fault for drinking 2 cans of coke lol Hope you feel better soon hun xxx
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Post by monica on Oct 23, 2014 20:19:22 GMT
Hey it's great ur feeling better in this pregnancy. The others sounded pretty awful. I was opposite - felt worse with each one but with my youngest I Took progesterone for 15 wks so that can exacerbate pregnancy symptoms . With the last one I also had bad nausea for 16 weeks and dreadful insomnia from about 20 weeks.
Hope u carry on feeling well and can really enjoy this pregnancyx
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Post by sarajay28 on Oct 23, 2014 20:43:25 GMT
Yeah I hope so too! Lol xx
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