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Post by jessibella on May 3, 2015 11:36:42 GMT
Hey all, just looking for some reassurance really.
Does anyone else find they worry that they are causing the depression anxiety? When I'm in a dip, like now, I always question if I am somehow causing this feeling/thoughts but don't know how to stop it. It's so annoying as I have had some good days and now feeling anxious and worrying it won't pass. Why do the bad moments tell you it's your fault and your stuck like this! Grrr
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Post by monica on May 4, 2015 19:55:09 GMT
Hi
Hugs. Blips R pants . I think when ur in that low place everything is bleak. Your confidence plummets , you blame urself for anything and everything incl the illness. The reality is often we can't avoid feeling the way we do.
Do be kind to urself. Do nice things, take it easy, and talk about how ur feeling. Exercise can boost u massively. I remember having the mother of all blips once which seemed to linger. I went to an exercise class depressed and came out feeling normal. I know it's not always this simple but worth a gox
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Post by jessibella on May 6, 2015 10:47:19 GMT
Thanks Monica. It just makes me worry I'm doing something wrong xx
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Post by monica on May 6, 2015 18:27:25 GMT
No ur not! Do u know what caused this blip?
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Post by frogface on May 21, 2015 12:17:19 GMT
I was convinced I was doing it on purpose for attention. Except I didn't want any attention, I wanted everyone to leave me alone! Nothing about PNi makes sense and no one would choose this. It's not your fault in any way b
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Post by monica on Dec 22, 2015 22:05:52 GMT
Hi
How are you doing? Hope life is treating you well!
Monica
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Post by lauragray on Mar 17, 2016 9:06:07 GMT
Hi , since I've had my daughter there has always been something that's nigging at me I had a misscarriage 2 years ago and the. Had beautiful daughter last sept now don't no weather recently two of friends have had babies and triggered something that I think I locked away in my head no I just feel so so angry and guilty I couldn't do much with my daughter at first as I lost a lot of bloody during birth but I think I got on and put it away but now seeing these new mums being able to hold thier babies and have new born picks has brought it up and I've got to a low point and feel so helpless don't know what I can do feel no one will understand or they will judge me xxx
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Post by monica on Mar 17, 2016 11:40:05 GMT
Hello and welcome to the site
Well done on identifying that you're not feeling ok. This might sound strange but many ladies including me, don't always realise there is something wrong until much later. As mums we carry a lot of guilt - if you've suffered some type of trauma and feel you couldn't do things as you should have done, it can make you feel a failure and often seeing other mums who seemingly have perfect lives and are perfect mums, wives can compound this. Often mums like this hide similar feelings to you though.
No one will judge you I promise. It's worth going to see your gp and or health visitor about how you feel. There's a lot that can be done to help you - talking therapies and or medication if you chose to go down that road. Offloading to someone close or gp can really help too.
It sounds as if you're doing a brilliant job as a mum. Try to look postivly at everthing you do. Perhaps at the end of the day, instead of focusing on things you feel are wrong, write a list of good things that you did - perhaps taking baby for a walk, singing to baby, even cooking dinner are all positives. I think you need to build up your confidence as a mum and rid yourself of the guilt that you carry. This takes time but willhappen.
Please keep talking - we really do understand on here.
Monica
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Post by lauragray on Mar 17, 2016 14:46:27 GMT
Thank you for your kind words, I just find it hard to go to the docs or health visitor as I feel like now my daughter is 6 months it's too late like I should of done something sooner I've had counciling before whilst I was pregnant as my anxiety got bad with having misscarriage previous but I feel a lot of guilt like I shouldn't feel like this I have what I want or wanted so why can't I be happy and enjoy it I battled for while now but I got to low energy x
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Post by monica on Mar 17, 2016 15:50:07 GMT
Hi
It's never too late to get help. Pni often creeps up several months after the birth. Mine started when my baby was four months old and it wasn't until he was 8 months that I got help. Why should you feel this way? You deserve to feel good and enjoy life. PNI is an incredibly cruel illness - and it's an illness just as if you had tonsillitis and you'd need antibiotics. You don't ask to get tonsillitis but it's there and with treatment you'll get better. Have you spoken to anybody about how you're feeling?
Exercise can also help you hugely - the rush of endorphins can give you a massive lift. I found it hugely helpful when I was ill. Even a fast walk with baby round the block can make a difference. Do keep talkingx
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Post by lauragray on Mar 17, 2016 19:19:02 GMT
Yeah it did creep just hit me like a bus even though I know it's been underlying , I know no I admitted it I need to see a doctor I know just find it hard to take that step I do try and go for walks and it helps both me and her bless her ! , thank you for your kind words just all a lot at the min yes I Have my husband hard to talk to friends as they wont understand xx
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