Post by becm on Oct 15, 2015 3:21:34 GMT
Hi All, I'm new on here and just need to tell my story to people who understand.
I have 7 month old twins and at around 3 months I was diagnosed with pnd. I am on antidepressants and also doing a course on anxiety (4 week course on Thursday evenings).
I was starting to feel a bit better but had to reduce medication due to night sweats and generally feeling ill and got worse again. On other tablets now but not really kicked in.
Nights are my hardest. My little boy wakes a lot for cuddles or I just wake and can't get back to sleep. So then I am exhausted in the day and feel I can't enjoy my day with the twins. I get to the end of the day thinking woo, I made it, but then hating myself for wishing the day away. I've wanted babies for a long as I remember and now feel I am not coping and don't enjoy it. The guilt is awful.
On top of it all my husband is very insecure and wants all the attention. If I don't hug him enough then I must not love him. It hurts so much to have someone say you don't love them. The problem is I am just not attracted to him anymore. I don't have the energy for hugs. He doesn't help much and that is a big argument. He is the bread winner now but that is all he does. He has own business so works so much. I feel we are just an inconvenience to him. Some days I consider leaving him. Then feel awful for thinking it. He is getting bad headaches at the moment so it is like having 3 babies!
To top it off I have 2 step daughters 7 and 10 with us 3 days a week. I end up usually taking full responsibility.
I feel so sad. So anxious. So guilty. I don't know what to do.
From a sad Bec xx
I have 7 month old twins and at around 3 months I was diagnosed with pnd. I am on antidepressants and also doing a course on anxiety (4 week course on Thursday evenings).
I was starting to feel a bit better but had to reduce medication due to night sweats and generally feeling ill and got worse again. On other tablets now but not really kicked in.
Nights are my hardest. My little boy wakes a lot for cuddles or I just wake and can't get back to sleep. So then I am exhausted in the day and feel I can't enjoy my day with the twins. I get to the end of the day thinking woo, I made it, but then hating myself for wishing the day away. I've wanted babies for a long as I remember and now feel I am not coping and don't enjoy it. The guilt is awful.
On top of it all my husband is very insecure and wants all the attention. If I don't hug him enough then I must not love him. It hurts so much to have someone say you don't love them. The problem is I am just not attracted to him anymore. I don't have the energy for hugs. He doesn't help much and that is a big argument. He is the bread winner now but that is all he does. He has own business so works so much. I feel we are just an inconvenience to him. Some days I consider leaving him. Then feel awful for thinking it. He is getting bad headaches at the moment so it is like having 3 babies!
To top it off I have 2 step daughters 7 and 10 with us 3 days a week. I end up usually taking full responsibility.
I feel so sad. So anxious. So guilty. I don't know what to do.
From a sad Bec xx