So fed up

[Holl14]

Iam trying so hard to stay strong but I just don't feel any connection to my little girl even though I know I love her as I constantly check on her I just don't feel that strong bond I constantly get strange thoughts poping into my head and I don't know why ? I would never do anything like that ever so why are they there am so frustrated I feel like am loosing my mind I just want to enjoy my daughter

[Kirsty]

You sound exactly like me. It's horrible. I too have horrid thoughts and I don't know why. I also don't always feel the connection to my daughter. I'm sure all your symptoms are PNI as all of them are common. Are you on any meds? Big hugs xx

[monica]

Hello and welcome

It's alwAys assumed that the mother and child bond is formed naturally - it isn't ! If you're suffering from PNI then struggling with bonding is a very common symptom which can make this illness feel so much worse.

Have you spoken to your health visitor ? Or gp? There are things that can be done to develop that bond - hv can help hugely. Baby massage - in a class or simply at home - can help . This is something you can both really enjoy. Other things like giving you and baby 10 mins daily where you really focus on interaction / playing with bricks etc . Try not to pressurise yourself .

You do love your baby that's evident. Having a baby is tough. Your whole life changes you don't have anything for yourself you can feel a bit isolated and even bored. At the end of the day you meet with this little person and it can take time to get to know them and adjust to the new role . Do you keep talking to us - you're not alone x