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Post by monica on Mar 15, 2021 21:27:40 GMT
Hi Justmommy
You’re amazing - I really understand how tough it is. It feels like nothing works. I don’t know much about the sleeping pills. I do remember I was prescribed diazepam which is a muscle relaxant to help me sleep and it didn’t work for me . In my case my anxiety was so high the feelings I got with the diazepam just heightened my anxiety further. It did take 2-3 weeks for the medication to start working. It started that one day I noticed I hadn’t cried, then the next I actually laughed and slowly slowly things improved day by day.
I imagine dr wants to give it a bit longer?
I’m sorry your husband is struggling with what’s going on too and feels he’s had enough. Could you show him your posts? It might make him understand how you’re feeling ? X
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Post by justmommy on Mar 18, 2021 14:49:27 GMT
Hi Monica, it’s been tougher I can’t show him my posts. I tell him a bit but he doesn’t want to dwell in my thoughts in order not to make himself depressed as well. Hope lorazepem wears off me soon, waking after 1 hour of sleep with heart racing and hot flashes is really bad. Also my baby is teething or something, very fussy at nights and not sleeping. My husband looks at her because i take sleeping pills, still i cant sleep When i feel bad i call a friend when i am outside and feeling anxious. Otherwise, i don’t have any outlet much to share😔 Thanks for your posts again
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Post by monica on Mar 19, 2021 11:57:07 GMT
How are you today? I really hope it’s a better day. The suns shining so hopefully that’ll help you feel perkier.
It’s so hard that you’re alone. Have you been offered support from health visitor ? Could you can meet someone for a walk today? X
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Post by justmommy on Mar 20, 2021 20:04:00 GMT
Hi Monica, Yesterday weather was nice. Today it was ok. Nights are really hard with hot flashes, tingling hand heart racing. Not sure if it is the withdrawal or something else. In weekdays, i can’t see a friend but call them when i am out. Yesterday i realised i am not ready to hear how things get harder and harder when talking a friend. Today i tried to rest at home while husband took the baby outside. Couldn’t sleep but was little drowsy on the couch etc. And later for stupid reason i argued my husband. He doesn’t believe i can’t sleep. He thinks if u r really tired and sleepy u should be sleeping.
I hope that i can continue with very little 1-2 hours or almost none sleep😞
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Post by justmommy on Mar 20, 2021 20:06:04 GMT
It’s been a while i talked with my health visitor. My cbt therapist referred me a therapist when she heard i couldn’t sleep etc but they didn’t call back to set an appointment.
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Post by monica on Mar 21, 2021 18:47:03 GMT
Hi
Glad you enjoyed the nice weather. The sleep is a huge issue, isn't it. Probably your husband has never had this problem and therefore, finds it hard to understand. Men, in particular, can have difficulties in empathising.
It's impossible to function normally on 1-2 hours of sleep per night. I think I mentioned that I have intermittent sleep problems. it got so bad I was referred to a sleep clinic. Next time you talk to your doctor perhaps ask if they could refer you, too. Mine was run by an occupational therapist who was amazing. the clinic wasn't about necessarily looking at specific problems, so if mine had been depression, they would not treat that but give you advice on how to tackle that type of sleep problem if you see what I mean. Just having that support, and someone who acknowledged my problem plus gave me ideas on what to do made a huge difference. I would really recommend it. Maybe google nhs sleep clinic in your area ? It does sound to me that if you got more support generally you would feel better. AGain, if you can push to be re referred to the perinatal mental health team by your doctor. You feel worse than you did so hopefully they could take you on as a patient.
In spite of all of this, don't lose hope. I remember feeling so awful when I had pni but things will improve.
Monica
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Post by monica on Mar 24, 2021 16:09:50 GMT
Hi Justmommy
I’m just checking in with you to let you know I’m thinking of you - no pressure to reply. I hope you’re doing well and are seeing improvements.
Monica
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Post by justmommy on Mar 28, 2021 14:34:46 GMT
Hi Monica It’s been same with no sleep I went friend’a house to sleep two nights. With sleeping pills i was able to sleep until 4 am, last night woke up at 12am. I am very tired and not sure what to do. My baby wakes a lot, dr thinks we should start weaning so we tried carrot since yesterday My dr increased antidep dose last friday. I was able to go day by day previously. It’s becoming hard. My husband was already kind of understanding but now he’s supporting more. Thanks for keeping touch/thinking of me.
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Post by monica on Mar 29, 2021 15:37:57 GMT
Hi
I’m so sorry the lack of sleep is continuing. Glad you got to your friends. It seems like the first night was quite good sleep wise.
I’m just thinking if things that might help. Could you do any exercise? That often helps me mood wise etc. There’s the couch to 5k app which is brilliant for beginners .
How’s your daughter doing with the weaning? I hope she sleeps better x
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Post by justmommy on Mar 30, 2021 10:35:00 GMT
Hi, yes first night was ok and second night was depressing waking up at 12 am It seems like i can’t manage my time wisely,so not sure if i can do exercise. The problem is she naps on me so i am with her all the time. For weaning we are trying vegetables if she likes it or not. In Easter hopefully it gets little easier with my husband not working. I am still not sure how to turn things to a positive direction.
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Post by monica on Mar 31, 2021 7:54:47 GMT
Hi Justmommy Sleep probs are tough but you can get over them. I’m guessing it’s stress triggered and the little one awakening irregularly doesn’t help. I thought the link below was good - have a read. www.helpguide.org/articles/sleep/insomnia-causes-and-cures.htmAs a sufferer myself , I know how hard it can be and the stress of not sleeping can make it worse! But you can break it! It’s great to hear your husband is so understanding - that really helps. It’s so difficult to book and plan your time if your little one is tied to you. My youngest was the same. During the day he would only sleep on me or in the pram/car so I never had a rest myself which was exhausting at times. Some kids slip into a routine more easily than others! Try not to look into the future - take each day as it comes. You’re doing brilliantly weaning the baby and fantastic your husband will be about over the Easter hols to help out. Hopefully you’ll have a little more time for you x
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Post by justmommy on Apr 1, 2021 12:32:31 GMT
Hi Monica, I will read your link, thank you. What nhs therapist suggested was to say myself “it’s ok not to sleep, i can get through the day still” Weaning is exiciting but also extra challange of course. I am trying take day by day; my worry is if i can’t solve my problem it wil get worse Hopefully in Easter, it gets easier The problem with my sleep is i feel like my baby can wake up any minute. Last few nights, she woke up when i was just getting to the bed, just like she felt it. Because of my ppa and not much support from myfamily i like missing the good parts and just like taking care of duties of my baby😞when she smiles i love it of course.
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Post by monica on Apr 2, 2021 11:47:42 GMT
Hi
I loved weaning - probably because I love food so much! But yes, it does require organisation and it's more to think about. It's great you're enjoying it. What is your baby doing now? It's a lovely but demanding age for sure. it is tough for you right now. But you're doing such a wonderful job you really are.
I remember the lady I saw for insomnia saying something similar to what your therapist said. Keep positive and don't dwell negatively on the sleep issues - saying positive affirmations like the ones she suggested - it gets the synapses firing in your brain and you will start feeling the positivity. Also try to focus on the here and now and not look into the future worrying - I know that's easier said that done ..
Happy Easter - I don't know if you celebrate it but if you do, enjoy!
Monica
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Post by justmommy on Apr 4, 2021 19:15:21 GMT
Hi Monica, I love food too☺️ Its quite challenging for her to try new things. We started with vegetables. I just bought steamer/blender; hopefully it will make things little easier😏 she doesn’t get full with formula i think and wakes up during the night. I talked with my old therapist last Friday. Told her about my sleep problem, hot flashes etc she told me its just like you are having menapouse- i finished breastfeeding 1 month ago and still didn’t get my periodi. It made sense. Or let’s say i like this explanation better than having panic attacks. My baby’s hands is always in her mouth. She likes to cuddle and be with us always. Happy Easter
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Post by monica on Apr 6, 2021 13:29:08 GMT
Hi
Most people love food - it's one of life's greatest pleasures. The steamer/blender sounds great and will make weaning easier. It common in babies of the age of yours, that milk doesn't fill them up and they start to wake during the night. Your baby sounds adorable!
I have no doubt that hormonal changes can bring with them a whole range of horrible symptoms as I discovered when I had pmt. I'm going through perimenopause and that's brought insomnia, low mood, exhaustion, weight gain too.
How have you been feeling in yourself? Any changes over the past couple of weeks moodwise?x
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