jennie
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2 bubs,9 and 4,better though still struggle.
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p-n-d
Nov 11, 2004 15:02:18 GMT
Post by jennie on Nov 11, 2004 15:02:18 GMT
hi john, wife and twins, hope things are going well for you all. My sister had twins 12months ago(she'd had pni after her other child) both her and her partner have been ill in the last year with depression and stress.It has been a great strain on them. it must help your wife to have such a supportive husbund. Just though I'd send you a private message to congratulate you on being open to advise and support, sounds like you're all doing the right things to recovery.Shame there's not more men like you who'll take advise and act on it. Take care and your lady,yourself and don't forget to enjoy those babies too! jennie
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p-n-d
Nov 12, 2004 6:31:59 GMT
Post by Veritee on Nov 12, 2004 6:31:59 GMT
Hi John
How is it going?
I am really sorry I have not been there for you - if you look on the main board you will see why it has proved almost impossible for me to go on the forum for the last couple of weeks or so. I am only typing this just before they all get up and it becomes impossible!
You have had a bit of time however to adjust and see if things are going to settle down into a workable routine for you and your wife with the twins, so has this worked? Has your wife coped with the panic attacks?
You must remember that being discharged from hospital is only the first step in any illness physical or otherwise. It does not mean you are well - only that you are well enough to convalesce at home in your own environment.
With a physical illness you may have to continue medication, physiotherapy, etc and with this illness medication and perhaps psychotherapy.
Does your wife have psychotherapy or the gentler counselling? I guess you have visits from a CPN who is there to talk to and monitors her?
If she is not yet having therapy I would recommend it later as even if she does not feel she needs it for the original illness, being admitted to any psychiatric unit has after effects in itself which you may need to resolve.
However although I am convinced PNI has a hormonal trigger I know there are social and personal factors which affect the severity and length of the illness and how a sufferer responds to treatment so I feel that after such severe PNI psychotherapy would be a good idea.
Did your wife ever get to the bottom of what is/was driving her fear and leading to panic for example?
However this does not have to be with the NHS or even mainstream therapy. Anything that gives you a chance to resolve or come to terms with any issues and perhaps to have a weekly slot which is just for you and where you feel supported and cared for will help.
I have known many at this stage chose alternative therapy or Christian church based counselling, private psychotherapy or that which is offered by the health authority – all with good effect depending on family culture and values.
I have to go now as I can hear the other 7 people currently camping in my house getting up – but I will try to come back to the forum later.
All the best
Veritee
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