Words we cant say

[Veritee]

I found this on an US web site
http://beyond_angels.tripod.com/pnd/id8.html

It says a lot of the things I wanted to say to my husband but just could not find the words.

Personally I would substitute the words 'Post Natal Illness' for 'clinical depression' as I just can not understand PNI in terms of depression at all, it just does not fit - but the rest fits so well.

I hope they do not mind me using it?



Another site www.postpartum.org/dads.html

Joan Stauffer, assistant co-ordinator of Calgary's Post Partum Support Service.says that dads can do the following to help:

Encourage her to talk about her feelings and show that he understands or is trying to understand.
Set visitation limits by telling friends 'no' when she doesn't feel like company.
If friends or family offer help -- such as volunteering to clean house - accept.
When friends offer to babysit, say 'yes'. Parents need time away from a baby.
Tell her he loves her, don't assume she knows it. Many women feel unsexy and unlovable and need to know their partners aren't going to leave them.
Pick up the slack with chores.
Be physically affectionate without asking for sex.


Stauffer adds that men also need to look after themselves. She says they should:

Take time for themselves other than at work.
Find someone to talk to.
Continue to follow some of their own interests.
Be aware of their own needs.

I can not disagree with her on anything


Veritee

[francoise]

veritee , aint that the best advice and the most true words ever

fran

it is like that though isnt it , like it says , depending on how we r feeling sometimes things like that have a huge impact eh