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Jul 8, 2005 7:03:54 GMT
Post by rick on Jul 8, 2005 7:03:54 GMT
hi im really lost.i feel im livivng a nightmare.iv been with my fiance nearly 2 yrs i always thought wed be happy.we have a 7 month old son who i love to bits.my partner has changed towards me we argue all time over silly things an she cries alot over nothin.i try to be there for her but i dont think im helpin..even when i try to comfort her she pushes me away.we used to be able to talk now we dont like im not here somtimes..things gettin worse shes havin trouble sleepin shes restless all the time.our son teething at mo so its bit stressfull time but i look after him so she can sleep maybe feel better in mornin but in never works..any advice would help i dont want to lose my family i love my fiance dearly we were even gona get married. but now everthing changed somtimes she just seems like a stranger to me..i dont know what to do.im starting to feel dpressed to pls help
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Jul 8, 2005 15:14:22 GMT
Post by Vikki not logged on Jul 8, 2005 15:14:22 GMT
Hi Rick
I'm sorry things are hard for you at the moment.
I'm sure my husband could relate to your situation.
You must remeber that your partner will get better, PNI is a TEMPORARY illness, its so easy to lose sight of this.
Has your partner beem diagnosed with PNI? If not could you encourage her to see her GP, PNI really needs treating and then you can all begin to get better.
If you feel you are becoming depressed you you should see you GP too, my husband became very depressed due to my illness, but things are easier since he started taking ads and saw a counsellor.
Maybe you could encourage your partner to come and post on the site too.
Best Wishes
Vikki xx
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Jul 8, 2005 15:47:09 GMT
Post by rick on Jul 8, 2005 15:47:09 GMT
thankyou for your reply..helps to know thats im not alone.i have introduced my fiance to this site she her self has wrote on the forum..she hasnt been doctors yet to be honest think shes scared as its big thing for her to ask for help.but she knows she has a problem...im sure she will go when she feels ready till then all i can do is be there for her even though its hard somtimes..but i wont give up i love her i promised her id always be there..thank you again
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Jul 8, 2005 16:27:56 GMT
Post by yorkslass on Jul 8, 2005 16:27:56 GMT
You are such a great guy to be as suportive as you are for her. You are doing all the right things to help her, but like Vikki says she dose need to see her Gp but like you say she will go when she feels ready but until then please both of you use this forum as much as you feel you need to.
I have replied to a women on the general part which I think is your partner.
Melx
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Jul 9, 2005 21:33:30 GMT
Post by rick on Jul 9, 2005 21:33:30 GMT
All id like to say is thank you for the support we had so far.finding this site was best thing Ive done its helped me an my partner understand each other more an feel little closer an that there is light at end of the tunnel.i glad to say she going to see the GP on Monday which iv said i can other go with her for support or ill be here when she comes out.i just want her to know that I'm here for her an that i still love her one reasons i ask her questions all the time just my way of showing i care.i just want her to know even though this is a hard times i will never stop loving her no matter what we go through.we will get through this together..
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Jul 9, 2005 21:48:01 GMT
Post by Veritee on Jul 9, 2005 21:48:01 GMT
Dear Rick
I am glad you have found this forum of help to you.
Good luck on Monday whatever you do - whether you go with her or wait outside - you still care.
It is very hard for partners and husbands - all we can do is be supportive, offer what help we can , and be consistent and be there whatever.#
I understand the questions thing - I did not do this what I did and still do is try to fix things - always doing DIY making things nicer - I know sometimes it gets on her nerves , bu tit is my way of offering something.
This is very difficult - I do know - but the person you love will come back - you will get the woman you love back. She will get better!
Let us know what happens?
Barry
Vertiee's husband
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Jul 10, 2005 21:58:01 GMT
Post by karl on Jul 10, 2005 21:58:01 GMT
hi rick sorry it took me so long to get to your thread its great that you have sort help from the GP and now the real work starts. you will get good day with the bad but as you said there is light at the end of the tunnel but you have to remember it does take time that is not ment to dis -hearten you also remember that if thing get too much for you get help for your self, you can't help if your ill. please continue to use this site and if you need a partners point of view on anything you can contact me on here
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Jul 10, 2005 22:23:39 GMT
Post by yorkslass on Jul 10, 2005 22:23:39 GMT
I am so pleased that there are men out there who do try to understand and that are willing to support there partners.
My partner is just begining to suport me.
Just remember to look after yourself as well your family
Melx
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Jul 11, 2005 20:05:30 GMT
Post by kathryn1 on Jul 11, 2005 20:05:30 GMT
My partner an i went doctors today i was so proud of her i know how hard it was for her to go an talk to the GP.trying to explain how she felt.the GP was great I'm sure it helped i went to give support an to be there if she needed me.in way it was good to hear that i wasn't the problem that it wasn't my fault.at first i wondered if i was the problem maybe i wasn't there enough or when she needed me that id let her down in any way.but even though i know it wasn't me i still wonder could i have done more. i know that even though she was put on tablets that it will get worse before it gets better..i promised her ill be there for her but sometimes it is hard when she pushes me away i fell unloved not wanted that maybe I'm in the way.i miss talking to her like we used to.i wish i could explain to her how I'm feeling but i cant Incas i say wrong thing or make her worse.as i always seem to be putting my foot in it.i just want us to be a family again,
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Jul 11, 2005 20:16:07 GMT
Post by karl on Jul 11, 2005 20:16:07 GMT
the best thing you can do is be there and don't push it, it takes time I do know how you feel i have been there and we are still going through it, i have found by using this site we are able to let each other know how we are feeling, it's a great way to communicate with out talking to each other and saying the wrong thing my wife still post on here and so do i ever now and then it's a great help and i'm sure it's help to keep us together strenth and blessing to you
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