Wife has left us

[adam]

Hi

I have never done this before, but have read things on here

My wife was diagnosed was PND 3 months ago after 2 and half years, our marriage has been under strain when we found out I was relieved and so was she as neither of us knew what was going on, why there was no intimacy in our relationship.

She was given a prescription of Prozac and after 2 months the Dr upped the dose.

That was 5 weeks ago, and she was saying how good she felt just the other day.

This morning she has got up and said she didn't want to be with me and it had been going on since our daughter was 4-6 months old, and she had been denying the way she felt and hoped it would be OK.

She is leaving me and our 2yrs 9mths daughter and it feels like my world has just fallen apart, she says she needs time on her own......

Is this "normal" after taking medication or is this part of PND, prior to the birth of our daughter we were so happy, then within 2 months the changes started to appear in her.

I have tried to talk to her suggesting we see a Dr for 2+ years but she said she was OK.

Our Dr suggested getting pyhsco-sexual therapy through relate, we had 3 sessions, 1 together and 1 each history taking, she was due to on Monday for further history taking.

I am just in shock and she wants to get out of her as soon as possible, I have asked is there someone else she promises me that there isn't.

I just don't know what to do my only real concern right now is that my little girl is as unaffected as possible my parents will give me as much help as I need.

Sorry this has gone on so long but I just wanted to give as much background as possible in the hope someone identifies with me.

Adam

[beverley]

Hi Adam,

I'm so sorry you're having such an awful time. It's almost impossible for someone else to say whether this has happened because of the PNI or whether it would have happened anyway. I wish I could give you a pearl of wisdom that would solve it for you.

My only advice would be to keep your daughter's welfare as your priority (never, ever use her to punish your wife and never, ever say anything bad about your wife to your daughter - trust me on this!) and try to keep up the communication with your wife. Hopefully she does just need some time to come to terms with being a mother and having PNI - it's a very traumatic illness for both the sufferer and her family - and it affects different women in different ways.

I truly hope that everything works out for you all
xx

[cheshire]

Hi Adam

I completely agree with everything LA has said.
It is a tough time for you and your family - but it is hard to say whether it is PNI that has caused the rift?

PNI does affect women differently - and for me, it did affect my relationship with my husband - almost to breaking point and I believe this is the case for others too.

Hope this supports you in some way - there will be some other men around, I'm sure, over the next few days

Hopefulx