I'm in the same sad boat as all you poor buggers

[PJ]

Hi, been reading all the sad stories on this page and I'm in the same boat.
My Partner has PNI very bad ,We have two kids one is 5yrs and the other 6mths she has left our home to try and sort it out .But now she says she does'nt have any feelings for me like she use to[we hav'nt be intemit for some time now] and she doe'nt want to live in our home anymore,I just hope its the illness talking .
She did suffer from it with our first child but nothing as bad as the 2nd child ,I know she felt it bad after losing 2 babys in between our second child .
I always try to be strong in life ,I lost my mother from depression when I was young, it was and still is hard trying to comprehend that your mother killed herself because of depression ,and years later I find myself in a very similar situation that will probably go on for years Like it did for my dear Mother, I certainly hope not .
I really want my dear lady back the way she use to be ,But some how I doubt thats going to happen,you can only put in so much ,and if you don't get any back its hard to carry it on because you will start getting depressed your self .
The sad thing about all this is kids are always involved,so fellas Just wanted to tell you all be strong we are all in the same sad boat.
CHEERS P.J

[bobbism]

PJ
its good to know other blokes are out there. MY wife had PNI since the birth of our first, she is coming up to 2 years old now and my wife went through it pretty bad, she contemplated suicide and she cut herself. she too has told me she is not sure that she loves me anymore and that the lack of support i gave to her when she was at her lowest has contributed too it. I feel at an all time low when talking about this the thought of losing her as she feels she has "changed" is driving me to lose sleep and is pushing me to the point of emotional breakdown. I know what you mean when you say you can only put so much in, but im willing to fight for us till the bitter end.

[sarah as a guest]

Hi guys

I had, and sometimes I think still have PNI and I, like you're wives, went thro a stage where I felt I didnt have any feelings for my partner any longer. He too described what you both describe. But I wanted to say that I dont feel like that now, I think in my part it was looking for someone to blame, someone other that yourself or this child that you are afraid to admit u think has caused it. Be strong guys, hard I know, but do try to support her, all I wanted was him to take me in his arms and hold me, but I wasnt prepared to admit that at the time.

It does get better!

Love and best wishes Sarah