Post by dewaltboy on Dec 29, 2006 16:21:19 GMT
Hi - first time on here. Hope i am in the right place!
I am wondering whether my girlfriend has PNI. Our gorgeous daughter was born 3 months ago.
My girlfriend and i only met 18 months ago. We both wanted kids but there is no denying it that when we found out she was pregnant in Jan 2005 - it was a shock. However, termination was never discussed and we were both delighted - if a little nervous!
My partner had a tricky pregnancy - morning sickness etc. The she got pre eclampsia and ended up with a 10 day stay in hospital with a c section. Her plan had always been for a water birth at a midwife led unit.
Our relationship has been under strain for some time. I am a builder and was tied up on a big job for longer than i thought. Money was tight - this was all before the birth. My partners mother has always been jealous of me ans took every opportunity to stir and cause problems (including calling me up and telling me that she was going to make sure that i was never a father - she was going to raise my child!) Basically things weren't easy - but then life rarely is.
During our 10 day stay in hospital i never left my partners side - i even slept in the car in the car park. This gave us time to build on our relationship - all good.
After the birth there were the normal problems with breast feeding, recurring mastitis etc. Basically though our daughter is one of those easy babies!
However - just lately my partner has been acting out of character. In November i said i would like to buy her a ring as a gift for having our baby. We aren't rich (not poor - but def not rich!). My partner only wanted a ring costing £2500, anything less was cheap and nasty. She has never been so materialistic before. Right now she is staying at her mothers and sending me texts castigating me and my family for not spending enough on her and our daughter this Christmas. Again - out of character.
Round the house things aren't easy. I do all the cooking and washing up - fine, i like it. I also help with the cleaning and laundry. But there is always something wrong with everything i do. Normally there is something wrong, (like putting a glass on the wrong shelf) buts its so minor that it doesn't even merit a mention. However i feel that i am always getting told i am wrong and i think my partner feels that i am useless!
Is this PNI? The symptoms seem so broad that virtually anything could be! If it may be - how do i broach it? If something does start going right soon - i think she will leave me. I am sure her mother will be delighted.
Any advice will be most gratefully received.
I am wondering whether my girlfriend has PNI. Our gorgeous daughter was born 3 months ago.
My girlfriend and i only met 18 months ago. We both wanted kids but there is no denying it that when we found out she was pregnant in Jan 2005 - it was a shock. However, termination was never discussed and we were both delighted - if a little nervous!
My partner had a tricky pregnancy - morning sickness etc. The she got pre eclampsia and ended up with a 10 day stay in hospital with a c section. Her plan had always been for a water birth at a midwife led unit.
Our relationship has been under strain for some time. I am a builder and was tied up on a big job for longer than i thought. Money was tight - this was all before the birth. My partners mother has always been jealous of me ans took every opportunity to stir and cause problems (including calling me up and telling me that she was going to make sure that i was never a father - she was going to raise my child!) Basically things weren't easy - but then life rarely is.
During our 10 day stay in hospital i never left my partners side - i even slept in the car in the car park. This gave us time to build on our relationship - all good.
After the birth there were the normal problems with breast feeding, recurring mastitis etc. Basically though our daughter is one of those easy babies!
However - just lately my partner has been acting out of character. In November i said i would like to buy her a ring as a gift for having our baby. We aren't rich (not poor - but def not rich!). My partner only wanted a ring costing £2500, anything less was cheap and nasty. She has never been so materialistic before. Right now she is staying at her mothers and sending me texts castigating me and my family for not spending enough on her and our daughter this Christmas. Again - out of character.
Round the house things aren't easy. I do all the cooking and washing up - fine, i like it. I also help with the cleaning and laundry. But there is always something wrong with everything i do. Normally there is something wrong, (like putting a glass on the wrong shelf) buts its so minor that it doesn't even merit a mention. However i feel that i am always getting told i am wrong and i think my partner feels that i am useless!
Is this PNI? The symptoms seem so broad that virtually anything could be! If it may be - how do i broach it? If something does start going right soon - i think she will leave me. I am sure her mother will be delighted.
Any advice will be most gratefully received.