How to help???

[worriedcousin]

Hello to everyone.

I am really worried about my cousin and do not know how to help her From what I have heard from her mum she is having a hard time coping with the change the baby has brought to her life. I don't know if she's suffering from PNI but it seems like it... She doesn't want to see her GP or anyone else about it.

Here is some information about her:
She's quite young and has a two month old son from an unplanned pregnancy. She lives with her partner but their relationship isn't going very well (basically they got back together for the baby). She doesn't have a good relationship with her mother and will not discuss anything with her. As far as I know her friends are also young and just want to party so she doesn't get any support from them.

I live abroad so don't have the opportunity to see her as often as I would like. What I thought was asking her to come and stay with me for a month or so to give her the opportunity to get away from things and maybe bond with the baby. Do you think that is a good idea or would the problem be there when she gets back??? I really don't know what I could do...

Thank you for your help

[marion]

I think that sounds like a good idea inviting her to stay with you for a while. May give her the chance to get things together.

Love
Marion.

[worriedcousin]

Thanks for replying marion. Glad you think my idea could be good, I really feel helpless being so far away from her.

PS. Your daughter is lovely

[marion]

Thanks.
Your cousin sounds like she's struggling right now without much support. Althoguh you are away from her at least you are doing what you can to support her.
Love
Marion.

[worriedcousin]

I just hope she can get through this, for her sake and for the baby's.

Thank you!

[marion]

Couldnt you email her a link to the website and get her to come on herself? SHe may find it useful to read the posts on here even if she doesnt think she has pni.
Marion.

[sianyc]

You sound like you could be very supportive of her which from experience I can say is very much needed. If your cousin is willing to come to stay with you then it could really help her to relax

If she does have PNI then I would say that a break is unlikely to be the magic 'cure' but that doesn't mean it isn't worthwhile. Just being around someone who cares about her and will help her with her son should be a huge support to her.

I would ask her and see what she says.

[caterina]

Hiya
That sounds like a good idea. She needs love and support at the moment so she's lucky to have you! Just be there for her, that's the best thing you can do. xx

[worriedcousin]

Thank you for all your answers

My mum is going to try and have a chat with her and after that I will probably suggest she comes over to stay with me. Hope it works!

xxx

[helenr]

Please let us know how you get on, and if we can support you in any way at all.

love and hugs x.

[cheshire]

Good luck - let us know how you get on? x