Post by SamP on May 27, 2005 13:07:09 GMT
Hello, I hope it is OK for me to post here. I guess I am almost recovered from PNI and can really relate to so much I have read on this site. It sounds so clichéd to say but my experience has been that it really does get better and yet I know if someone had told me that at the time I would have never believed them.
I am living in Scotland (but all my family are in England) and I think the lack of support contributed to my PNI. I had my son nearly 5 years ago and had a horrible first 2 years – had traumatic birth , couldn’t breastfeed (no milk was coming through) and was bullied by the nursing staff to keep on trying. I knew breast was best but I just couldn’t do it so felt I had failed at the first hurdle. My son had colic and cried non-stop for the first few months and had feeding difficulties. He would scream when we were out and women would ask if I had fed him, changed him etc…really helping my confidence (not!!) I really thought I had lost my mind and just couldn't cope. I had very little help and put my child into childcare as soon as I could – which I do feel very guilty about now.. I remember my HV telling me I would laugh about how I was feeling in years to come – I certainly NEVER will – can’t believe she told me that. Also a ‘friend’ who was also a HV told me at the time ‘this was the easy bit’ – REALLY did not help in fact sent me into a spiral of despair.
However I have been gradually getting much better although stressful events still get to me and I still have some anxiety issues. Also it hasn't been easy for my generally supportive partner although he is obsessed with work and sometimes I feel family comes second with him.
However, in general, I think I enjoy life and appreciate most things more after having been through it all. I’m sorry for going on but it feels very good to be able to get it all out here. I wish I had known about this site back then and hope I can still post here.
All the best,
Sam
I am living in Scotland (but all my family are in England) and I think the lack of support contributed to my PNI. I had my son nearly 5 years ago and had a horrible first 2 years – had traumatic birth , couldn’t breastfeed (no milk was coming through) and was bullied by the nursing staff to keep on trying. I knew breast was best but I just couldn’t do it so felt I had failed at the first hurdle. My son had colic and cried non-stop for the first few months and had feeding difficulties. He would scream when we were out and women would ask if I had fed him, changed him etc…really helping my confidence (not!!) I really thought I had lost my mind and just couldn't cope. I had very little help and put my child into childcare as soon as I could – which I do feel very guilty about now.. I remember my HV telling me I would laugh about how I was feeling in years to come – I certainly NEVER will – can’t believe she told me that. Also a ‘friend’ who was also a HV told me at the time ‘this was the easy bit’ – REALLY did not help in fact sent me into a spiral of despair.
However I have been gradually getting much better although stressful events still get to me and I still have some anxiety issues. Also it hasn't been easy for my generally supportive partner although he is obsessed with work and sometimes I feel family comes second with him.
However, in general, I think I enjoy life and appreciate most things more after having been through it all. I’m sorry for going on but it feels very good to be able to get it all out here. I wish I had known about this site back then and hope I can still post here.
All the best,
Sam