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Post by cheshire on Mar 16, 2006 18:48:58 GMT
oooo, nothing like a girl's night out is what I say!! It could make the headlines, lol!!
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Post by netty on Mar 16, 2006 20:41:43 GMT
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Post by sarajay28 on Mar 16, 2006 21:14:57 GMT
robbie has asked if he could come? lol, i said he can't come to the 'meet' but he can come away for the night with me (a night away on our own with NO kids!!!) Anyway any serious suggestions for where to meet and when? I would prefer in the school summer holidays and as for where? it's upto you lot as you'll know where's reasonably central for you all.....
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Post by netty on Mar 17, 2006 0:40:12 GMT
Hiya if the kids and hubbys are coming..how about going somewhere for the day...chester zoo, drayton manor, alton towers then stopping in a travel lodge or inn keeper (they often are attached to toby carverys) Only a thought..cant sleep. Im off into hospital next week and Im getting really stressed and worked up about it nettyxx
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Post by susanneb1984 on Mar 17, 2006 10:03:58 GMT
Hiya Netty and Sarah, I know I must sound awful, but would be ok to keep it us girlys? I could do with a break! Susanne xxxx
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Post by Veritee on Mar 17, 2006 11:44:24 GMT
Hi Everyone
I know I may come over as a bit of a killjoy but I felt there was a few things I need to mention if you are considering meeting up.
If you did successfully arrange a meet, I am not against it in principle at all and I would be willing to come along if I could get there and of course if you wanted me to?? - but as I could not possibly drive very far and for at least a year I am not supposed to I would have to bring my husband and hide him in a hotel!!
I have always wanted to get funding at some point for an 'official' but informal meeting/conference for PNI.ORG so we could actually hire a centre somewhere central and as well as get to know each other we could discuss how we could issues - not personal issues - but stuff like what the needs generally are for women with PNII and how we could raise the awareness of them etc - Perhaps this is still something we might do eventually.
I was also thinking though, that I know myself how difficult it can be to arrange a group meeting of people far away and who need over night accommodation.
So as there are a few of you who live quite close - within and hour or so of Birmingham why not as a start consider organising a 'regional' meeting to start with, perhaps as Netty suggested a day out in the area?
This is what a similar American PDD support site does – they arrange regional meetings at least once a year when there are enough women in the area to justify it.
Of course the US is a much bigger country and they have far more members than us , but I think this would work for us too. They also do not have the international members we tend to have.
So that no one felt excluded it could be left that anyone who could make it under their own steam and arrange accommodation, could go to, but that it is a meet up for a specific area - as this would keep it simple and avoid any necessity to book accommodation (as you really would have to book during the summer and especially if anyone was to bring children - and this is another point that has to be worked out - as well as the decision about if the partner/hubbies/bf come - is this a meeting just for us or does it include our children??
Also when I tried to arrange a meeting I soon realised that places like Centre parks would be out as we would be paying for ourselves and people have such differing incomes – we range from both partners working to single parents, so it would have to be relatively cheap - but also places like Butlins were out as this would not be the sort of place to be if one person became very upset – a possibility you have to consider
There are also a few things that it is best to be aware of especially if it may be more than two of that meet Which is meeting in a group when we have had such emotionally charged/related conversations can sometimes leave one person feeling that they do not belong or have emotional repercussions for some you simply do not expect.
I have to continue this later as I have someone come to talk about something personally.
So I will continue later
Veritee
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Post by sarajay28 on Mar 17, 2006 14:30:31 GMT
Hi Everyone,
Susanne of course you don''t sound awful i know how you feel, its just that i'd be travelling a long way and i think i would prefer it if robbie came along for the ride to keep me company although i wouldn't want him to come when we all meet up. Sorry for any mis-understanding there. Next thing, Veritee, i think the general idea was for us to have a 'girls night out' instead of an actual formal 'meeting'. I don't know what others think? but this was the impression i got? I know we have all formed friendships through this site and this has been a big part of our lives but i for one would like to meet the girls 'underneath' the PNI? does that make sense? I feel like i've made some very good friends from here and although none of us really know each other it would be nice to put faces to names.
I don't know everyone thinks about my ideas??? please let me know
Loadsa Love
Sarah.xxx
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Post by Veritee on Mar 17, 2006 15:59:47 GMT
Hi Sarah and all
I do understand what you mean totally about what this meeting might be and it not being formal wanting to
As I so very much share this and I too would love so much to do this. Living where I do I have seldom met anyone face to face - the last person being our patron Elaine when she visited Cornwall this summer
and I would love to do this so much more as I feel quite isolated at times.
I do not think we are talking about different things - I knew you meant informally, a sort of girls night out ...
it was just that while I am really happy if people want to meet ( and it is not really my business anyway) and would actually like to join in if at all possible..
I do however feel I have a responsibility also as you would not have 'met' virtually if it was not for this site and therefore would probably never meet in real life otherwise.....
So it was just my sense of responsibility feeling that I should point out some of the issues that have happened around meeting up in the past.
As I have to say that I have found it quite emotional when I have met women from the site and so have others .
In my experience it can go two ways - you either come away form it feeling great and that you have spent your time with others who truly understand and have been there and so even if you just had a fun time you feel you have known them for years ..
Or you come away in tears and upset - this has happened both to me and others .
On my part it happened when I had pre existing expectations of how it would all go and what the people would be like and how we would get on.
I then found that if I just went along to have a bit of fun, with no expectations - all went fine
So I think your idea of a 'girls night out' would be be great and just the way to approach it, as this would be a bit of fum for all. I did not mean to suggest a formal meeting , just wanted to explain that we have spoken about a semi formal meeting before as well as a womans caravan holiday in Cornwall before and I wish they had worked out .
As to whether men, husbands partners ( we might not all be heterosexual it has to be considered ) should come on the night -
- I realize that some wanted partners to come some wanted partner free and both I understand -
and I was serious about hiding Barry in a hotel, I doubt I would want him to come along to the whole thing - I would just need him to get me there. perhaps this is a solution that partners could come to drive or be with us in the hotel if we had to stay overnight as we lived too far to do it in a day...
But that out partners husbands etc say hello to us all but we then left them to their own devices and we women go of together - how would that be ?? But any way I just felt that I should pass on a bit of previous experiences of this and then it is completely up to you all. And as so many live so close it might be fairly easy to arrange to meet unlike me in far Cornwall and not being able to travel much.
So all best wishes to this venture to meet up
All the best
Veritee
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Post by Veritee on Mar 17, 2006 21:56:46 GMT
Hi Netty
I just wondered what you were off to the hospital for?
Is it for a procedure or operation - if so can we help I get very wound up before and op. However many times I have them I never get used to the m in fact I think its worse.
Are you OK?
Veritee
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Post by cinders on Mar 19, 2006 10:43:29 GMT
Hiya Nat,
Just wanted to let you know that I think its terrible that you cant make it here so maybe we should come to you!!!! Holiday in the sun....would certainly make me feel better LOL!!!
You'll certainly be with us in spirit flower and we'll send some photos....love n hugs Cinders xxx
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Post by susanneb1984 on Mar 19, 2006 11:58:30 GMT
I love your thinking Cinders! lol xxxx
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Post by cheshire on Mar 20, 2006 0:32:41 GMT
Hi Netty
Are you in hospital this week? Are you ok?
Hopefulxx
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Post by cheshire on Mar 20, 2006 0:36:05 GMT
p.s get together sounds great, but the travel is a worry for me...sorry girls BUT, if any of you are ever in my neck of the woods (ie. Chester Zoo) then I'd be happy to put some wine on ice and make a lovely tea XX
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Post by susanneb1984 on Mar 20, 2006 11:09:16 GMT
I love the zoo! I love elephants and have lots and lots of pics of them, paintings of them, cuddly toys of them, statues of them, ornaments of them, wooden ones, incense burner holders of them! Lots and lots! lol xxxxx
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