jennie
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2 bubs,9 and 4,better though still struggle.
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Post by jennie on Jan 2, 2005 19:06:59 GMT
That Catatonia song..."Dead from the Waist down",that's me.... I know it's the extra 75mg since May I've been on as the higher dose of anti dees does take all libido away....but I don't care....
Appeaently we had sex at 4 in the morning the other night.....must have been goood...through the red wine haze there's a vague memory.
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Post by Veritee on Jan 2, 2005 20:13:55 GMT
I have to ask Fran - what is your hubbies problem with the condoms???
I have to admit that even I do not like them - just do not feel like real flesh - not as exciting even for me at my lowest ebb - but I would rather use them than not have sex at all and this is Barry’s opinion too - but they are an option and if their are reasons for their use - why not?
I still feel that when you need for whatever reason not to use hormones, or need the protectin they offer in addition to contraception - they are a real alternative
So if he wants sex, you are willing and condoms are the way to go – why not?
Isn’t he being a bit selfish in this??
Have you got to the bottom of his problem with condoms??
After all they are what we would certainly promote our daughters to use?
- mine is 15 and if she is going to have sex I would rather that she not get pregnant without wanting too -not bugger up her body with artificial hormones such as the pill
( I took it for years but we want different for our children )
until she is old enough to make this decision - I would like her to be fully protected against HIV and STDs. And the pill does not do this and it can much up
So my feeling is - if we expect our children to use condoms then as adults we should also be prepared to use them.
Sorry if I am being harsh to your husband - having been a youth worker and run HIV STD workshops for young people and having being trained by FPA on the use of condoms, this subject is one of my hobby horses I'm afraid.
So I am interested to know why adult men or women do not want to use them??? And to be honest many do not
If you want to use them in preference to using hormones whichc certainly is not advisable when you are experiencirng PNI - perhaps you should think about challenging your husband on this one?
Forgive me but I can not help to think he is being a tiny,weeeny bit selfish on this?
All the best
Veritee
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Post by lisa1234 on Jan 2, 2005 21:25:00 GMT
Hi Everyone, Is anyone else actually scared of sex? The whole thought of it just literally terrifies me. It has happened since having the baby but I find it all so scary. I'm really worried I might get pregnant again and would be devasted if thet happened whilst on medication. We are using condoms so it's unlikely to happen & it took nearly a year to conceive before but it just scares me so much. I'm also worried it's going to hurt, not sure if that's anything to do with my delivery or not (ventouse, forceps, episiotomy). I feel so bad because it's not that I don't want to it's just if he comes close I just freeze. I feel so bad about it. Does anyone else have this? Was gonna go on the pill but given what you all have said, not sure it's such a good idea.
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Post by lisa1234 on Jan 2, 2005 21:33:35 GMT
U ok about this Fran?
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Post by lisa1234 on Jan 2, 2005 21:50:49 GMT
Oh I'm Ok ish
My mind's just full of all kinds of thoughts. I've started to have really vivid dreams again (I had them last time with these ADs) and they just make me worry about stuff. Just put a new post up with all the stuff that's going on for me at the moment. Bit down again but I'll be ok. Got a bit drunk new years eve and had my first hangover for 18 months or so, so that probably brought me down.
I'm sorry to hear about your argument with your hubby. At least he's willing to have the snip, I guess. I know I am very lucky with mine as he is a very calm person. I do wonder why the hell he's with me quite often though. It really can't be that much fun.
Lisa xxx
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scrumpy
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I'm 34 and have a 3 year old daughter
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Post by scrumpy on Jan 2, 2005 21:54:29 GMT
I was also terified of sex after Erin was born. Partly cos I was terrified it was going to hurt (I couldn't even pee for weeks afterwards without screaming in pain) but also cos I was terrified of getting pregnant. Things aren't so bad now although i'm not as keen as I used to be. I've also just come come off the mini pill, as I thought it was making my mood so much worse. Seems I may have been right, as I feel so much better now. So I also have to contend with the condom issue. Hubby is good about using them, but never gets round to going out and buying them. Oh well his loss, there's no way I'm running to the shop for him. I'd rather have a good night's sleep Love Toni
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scrumpy
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I'm 34 and have a 3 year old daughter
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Post by scrumpy on Jan 2, 2005 22:10:49 GMT
No intention of turning my back Fran. Love Toni
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Post by lisa1234 on Jan 2, 2005 22:15:42 GMT
Fran,
Leon looks like such a cutie on your pic. Wish i could see him a bit better though, the picture's so small. How are his teeth?
Lisa xxx
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Post by lisa1234 on Jan 2, 2005 22:19:51 GMT
To teething or turning your back on someone? ??
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Post by lisa1234 on Jan 2, 2005 22:26:23 GMT
Oh ok ...... careful or I'll get really confused
Just been back to look at your pics of him. Aw bless he's a cutie alright.
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Post by lisa1234 on Jan 2, 2005 22:31:38 GMT
No that's fine Fran I need to go soon too.
Thanks again to you all. I feel much calmer now.
Night to you all. Sleep tight & sweet dreams. May tomorrow bring you all a little sunshine.
Love you all xxx
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Post by lisa1234 on Jan 2, 2005 22:35:38 GMT
well me for one ... but I'm working on that!!
Night hun
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Post by annag on Jan 3, 2005 11:20:49 GMT
I'm no expert Fran but keep to your guns offer nothing at all and he'll change his mind.
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Ryn
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Post by Ryn on Jan 3, 2005 20:55:07 GMT
Hi Fran, I think you do right sticking to your guns.... It's his loss. Sex is non-existant in our house. I am alway too tired, and would much prefer sleep! We too need to sort contraception out (baby nearly 8 months now). I am really scared of getting pregnant again... so abstenance seems the best solution. Took months to pregant when I wanted to, so you can guarentee the condom would burst and I would get pregnant first time around!! LOL.
Good luck Kathy
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Post by lisa1234 on Jan 3, 2005 21:33:41 GMT
Hi Kathy
Welcome back How was Christmas & New Year for you??
How are you today Fran?
Lisa xxx
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