Post by Carmen on Dec 4, 2004 0:32:18 GMT
Hi Jigsy
Firstly I wanted to agree with Jennie - I'm sure your sister does care but because she hasnt had PNI before cant understand it at all. My sister has had PNI before and the first thing she said to me when I told her is "Did you tell them that you dont want to take antidepressants". So I lied to her in the beginning and said yes. We talked about it later and she said she just didnt think - and we can be overly sensitive alot of the time (I have paranoia big time!). I know now that I said alot of insensitive things without meaning to as well when she had PND. I dont know about anyone else but since I've had PND there are some people, (even people I was very close to before this) that just really get me down and I read too much in to everything they say. I have one particular friend that I love dearly (luckily though she has moved away now so its easier to avoid telephone conversations) but she always seems to make me feel really low. She's a beautiful person but is quite like a man in the way she always tries to give you advice on how to fix things. I loved this about her before PND but now she just manages to make me feel like crap. I think its because she simplifies everything and we all know recovering from PND is just not that simple! I know we will go back to being just as close (I'm her sons God Mother!) when this is all over and I'll probably tell her how I was feeling as we always used to tell each other everything but for the time being it's easier for me to just avoid her phone calls. (I hardly ever answer the phone anyway - I just listen to the messages and phone back the people I want to when I'm feeling well enough)
O.K enough about that....back to the sex.............
(Fran dont worry about being too open - wait until you read what I've got to say!)
I have to say Jennie...........I'm so jelous of you being able to reach the Big 'O'! Before taking the A.D's I nearly always had an orgasm when we had sex. My hubby is very thoughtful in that way and isnt really happy if I dont. (He usually lets me go first!) There was always a reason if I didnt - too tired etc - but I would always tell him if I knew I wasnt going to - "Sorry hon, its not going to happen tonight" So the first 2 times we had sex after taking the AD's I told him it wasnt going to happen. But now the last couple of times I've pretended that I have(quite embarrassed about this). I'm feeling really guilty about this but I know he's not going to really enjoy it as much if I dont but I've never lied to him about it before - never had to. And if I didnt pretend I think he would want to go all night!
Sorry about telling you about that girls, just needed to get it all out
Take Care
Love Carmen
Firstly I wanted to agree with Jennie - I'm sure your sister does care but because she hasnt had PNI before cant understand it at all. My sister has had PNI before and the first thing she said to me when I told her is "Did you tell them that you dont want to take antidepressants". So I lied to her in the beginning and said yes. We talked about it later and she said she just didnt think - and we can be overly sensitive alot of the time (I have paranoia big time!). I know now that I said alot of insensitive things without meaning to as well when she had PND. I dont know about anyone else but since I've had PND there are some people, (even people I was very close to before this) that just really get me down and I read too much in to everything they say. I have one particular friend that I love dearly (luckily though she has moved away now so its easier to avoid telephone conversations) but she always seems to make me feel really low. She's a beautiful person but is quite like a man in the way she always tries to give you advice on how to fix things. I loved this about her before PND but now she just manages to make me feel like crap. I think its because she simplifies everything and we all know recovering from PND is just not that simple! I know we will go back to being just as close (I'm her sons God Mother!) when this is all over and I'll probably tell her how I was feeling as we always used to tell each other everything but for the time being it's easier for me to just avoid her phone calls. (I hardly ever answer the phone anyway - I just listen to the messages and phone back the people I want to when I'm feeling well enough)
O.K enough about that....back to the sex.............
(Fran dont worry about being too open - wait until you read what I've got to say!)
I have to say Jennie...........I'm so jelous of you being able to reach the Big 'O'! Before taking the A.D's I nearly always had an orgasm when we had sex. My hubby is very thoughtful in that way and isnt really happy if I dont. (He usually lets me go first!) There was always a reason if I didnt - too tired etc - but I would always tell him if I knew I wasnt going to - "Sorry hon, its not going to happen tonight" So the first 2 times we had sex after taking the AD's I told him it wasnt going to happen. But now the last couple of times I've pretended that I have(quite embarrassed about this). I'm feeling really guilty about this but I know he's not going to really enjoy it as much if I dont but I've never lied to him about it before - never had to. And if I didnt pretend I think he would want to go all night!
Sorry about telling you about that girls, just needed to get it all out
Take Care
Love Carmen