Carmen
Senior Member
2 boys - 5 and 23 months - recovered(but still on AD's)
Posts: 484
|
Post by Carmen on Dec 16, 2004 23:27:22 GMT
Hi Fran I'm glad things are looking up for you. Hubby and I are getting along really well at the moment but hoping it will last as hes not getting any action - think it must be the whole Christmas thing - hard to feel like it when your constantly freaking out so much Take Care Love Carmen
|
|
jennie
Full member
2 bubs,9 and 4,better though still struggle.
Posts: 59
|
Post by jennie on Dec 17, 2004 0:45:33 GMT
mY HUBBY HAS GOT TO USED TO NO RESPONSES OR NO DON'T FEEL LIKE IT.WE HAVE NO BALENCE ANYMORE!i HAVE FITS OF A TOTAL SEX OBSESSEED AND WE HAVE SUCH A CLOSE TIME...... THEN I GO DON'T TOUCH ME!!!!!EVER AGAIN...I BECOME SO REPLUSED BY SEX... I HAVE NO SEXUAL ABUSE IN MY PAST..... I CAN'T HANDLR BEING A BODY JUST FOR SOMEONES SEXUAL RELEASE.... I SUPPOSE I'M A ROMANTIC,IF I FEEL HE JUST WANTS TO SHOOT HIS LOAD THEN HE MAY AS WELL GO FOR A WAKE...IF HE WANTS TO LOVE ME AND CHREISH ME THEN I'M A WILD WOMAN.... THAT SONG DEAD FREOM THE NECK DOWN -THAT'S ME!!!
WE WERE 8 TIMES A DAY WHEN WE FIRST MET NOW ONCE A MONTH IS GOOD-TWICE IS PASHION!!!!
|
|
|
Post by wendabell on Dec 17, 2004 2:54:28 GMT
Once a month, gee its been months for me. I still can stand being touched sexually,but crave cuddles.I feel i will just be used to for him to offf load his sexual tension.I love him so much and i dont want to think like that. I want sex so bad,i want our relationship to return to normal whatever that is! One day eh one day!
|
|
Carmen
Senior Member
2 boys - 5 and 23 months - recovered(but still on AD's)
Posts: 484
|
Post by Carmen on Dec 17, 2004 11:07:31 GMT
Hey Jennie I'm exactly like you - there is no happy medium - its either full on or dont touch me at all. I cant really understand why I'm like this either. When we're having a good few days, or even sometimes a week, I want our relationship to stay like that forever and then suddenly I change and I dont even want a cuddle - no contact at all. I have no history of sexual abuse either but I even before PNI I had moments, more so for the first half of our relationship, where I found it difficult to show my hubby affection. I wasnt brought up in an affectionate household. I've explained a bit about my Dad but my Mum wasnt very physically affectionate as well. It's odd, I think, that I only remember my Mum actually giving me a "real" cuddle twice before I left home. (I get cuddles now because we dont see each other often) Once was as I was leaving to move up North and the previous was when I was a teenager and having a clothes party (you know - where they bring clothes for you to buy at your home). Dad came home drunk from the pub really abusive and kicked everyone - including the sales lady - out of the house. He also kicked me out as well so mum drove me up to my hubbys place to say - she gave me a big hug and told me to ring her the next day and she would have sorted Dad out. I remember the first time Mum said "I love you". Maybe she did say it earlier but I never remember her saying it until I think it might have been when I was pregnant with Jay. I was talking to her on the phone and when we were saying goodbye Mum said "Bye - I love you." I was so shocked I just said "OK bye". How horrible is that. I got off the phone and said to hubby - "I think Mum just said "I love You" and I just said bye!" But............since then we always say I love you and she does to all of us kids (we've talked about it) now and is so much more affectionate when they see us. Actually Dad is too - never says I love you though. My sister says its funny because she always says it to him to see what his response is and he always says "OK - bye herb" (he calls everyone herb - and I think he probably calls us that because he forgets which one of us is which Actually we laugh about that too) But we've broken the cycle - my sisters and I all hug our kids so much and I tell each of them I love them so often that Jay says now - "I know Mum, you dont have to tell me anymore" (he's nearly 5 and thinks he knows everything!)....................sorry............. I've gone completely off track - really rambling tonight arent I. But........ my point was that I wonder whether my difficulty in showing my hubby affection is because of the lack of affection I received as a child Dont know - now that I've written it, it sounds kind of like crap to me.............mmmmmm not sure Take Care Love Carmen
|
|
jennie
Full member
2 bubs,9 and 4,better though still struggle.
Posts: 59
|
Post by jennie on Dec 17, 2004 12:57:54 GMT
it doesn't sound crap at all. my mum said you know we love you,don't you? And I said no I don't know that...(it had definitely never been said) the first bloke who told me he loved me I dragged him into bed.... ummm,kinda says a lot Anyway I've never really been without a relationship with a bloke since the age of 14/15....and not always treated them that nicely....though I've wasted lots of tears over them too. my best lover is definitly Andrew,maybe I should say my only lover as all the rest was just practising .Also I never really agreed with sex before marriage as we were brought up in a strict catholic house! Can you see my confusion.... When we do comes together(what a lovely way to put it)it is so fantastic and I wonder why we left it so long. I know it's kids and not having the energy to bother.... I'm trying to be a bit nicer to Andrew...and make time for him as it would bea shame to look at him when the kids have left home and wonder who he is.... got to go to pick the grls up...
|
|
jennie
Full member
2 bubs,9 and 4,better though still struggle.
Posts: 59
|
Post by jennie on Dec 20, 2004 0:12:25 GMT
Honey have you been drinking?Ahhh reading your thread had me giggling...you are an abulute star!!!!!Hey only did it twice two weeks ago,and thought I was an nymphomanniac....all urges left...no wonder I went down...
Hey I sung my little socks off in the carol concert tonight...how can some one who gets such a buss out of singing not be brilliant'I imagion the peacher coming up to me and saying your just what our choir needs...
Always imagioned myself as nancy in oliver,well i have the clevage..... I need to celebrate my cleavage! that's where I've beeen going wrong.
|
|
|
Post by annag on Dec 20, 2004 13:55:19 GMT
I can't put anything here as I am refusing any action untill he makes the appointment for the snip. I couldn't actually be bothered with it in any case but those are my terms. Actually he heard Jonathon Ross say it makes everything swell up so I think he's waiting for our summer holiday so he looks good on the beach.
|
|
|
Post by annag on Dec 20, 2004 15:30:50 GMT
He's in for a bit of a wait then.
|
|
jennie
Full member
2 bubs,9 and 4,better though still struggle.
Posts: 59
|
Post by jennie on Dec 20, 2004 15:59:03 GMT
I had myself done as I was opened up when I had Dylan...Still think I'm pregnant every month...!
Must see to Andrew before we go to Wales...As We definitely don't get up to anything in my parents house....!!!!!
|
|
|
Post by francoise on Dec 20, 2004 22:05:36 GMT
everytime i reply to you jennie on this i delete it , im going to force myself to stop deleting most of what i write , its so annoying me now , its getting like a habit ,i keep thinking i been to rude or cheeky or something or someone will get offended , helppppppppppp stop this
|
|
jennie
Full member
2 bubs,9 and 4,better though still struggle.
Posts: 59
|
Post by jennie on Dec 21, 2004 12:12:17 GMT
ilove you rude ,cheekness,I grew up with 5 sisters...how crude do you think we could be.sometimes Andrew goes quite pale when we all get together! You remibnd me of my sister Chris when she's on form.She's had pni twice,she has a 5 yr old and 1yr old twins and a hubby struggling with depression himself which he self medicates with whiskey...
She she a wicked,dark humour....she's not just my sister but my best friend and I wish we lived closer... She's doing well,dyed her hair pink and had a beautiful tatoo of a godess on her back based on a neckless she bought whilst pregnant with her first.
We swop art work a lot and we inspire each other really talk and really laugh!!!!!not quite so easy since having the twins to talk on the phone like we used to,so text daily.
|
|
jennie
Full member
2 bubs,9 and 4,better though still struggle.
Posts: 59
|
Post by jennie on Dec 21, 2004 12:18:11 GMT
by the way fran the opened up when I had Dylan was the CESARIAN!Just realised never actully said that!sounded quite wierd reading didn't it...
being done...have you had your bitch done yet?She'll be much calmer afterwards!Does the same happens with human's ,no more rubbing themselves on curtains...
|
|
|
Post by annag on Dec 21, 2004 13:46:55 GMT
urr it must have smelt kind of nice in your house don't do the curtains thing myself but if thats your thing.
|
|
|
Post by francoise on Dec 21, 2004 15:17:52 GMT
you lot kill me i swear ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
|
|
|
Post by annag on Dec 21, 2004 16:00:31 GMT
have you noticed that this thread gets more views than any other so that just shows what women with pni want more info on the sex thing and can't mind light heartedness that much. Is it thred or thread?
|
|