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Post by stevensmummy on Sept 12, 2007 20:15:09 GMT
I have just recently had a coil put in as due to my epilepsy meds i cant take the pill so they convinced me the coil was the way to go. After an hour they finally got it in, I was almost ready to tell them where to stick it! I was and atill am tender and i apparently have to put my hand in here and check for threads! With all this carry on I'm a little worried about the idea of having sex. Am i being silly?
Sarah x
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Post by cazfletcher on Sept 12, 2007 20:37:21 GMT
oh poor you! i remember having mine put in-little scratch MY ARSE!!! lol sorry, anyway, yes it is perfectly normal to feel battered for about 4 days afterwards, and also to have a little spotting. you need to check for the strings every month after your period (or if they stop altogether like mine did, just do it once a month on a set date so you remember). however, if we are talking weeks and you are still tender, have a funny discharge (thrush-like etc), or if you have a lot of fresh blood loss, go back and they will check it out for you. finally, if you dont feel comfy having sex, dont feel like you have to do it ok?
take care
caz x
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Post by stevensmummy on Sept 13, 2007 7:02:56 GMT
Thanks Caz. I feel a little more relaxed after hearing that. As for the dont have sex part I'm not sure I'll get away with that! We have always had a very active sex life and since this recent pni crap and the epilepsy I have been totally off the idea and now this bloody coil, I'm not relishsing the idea at all! When we do do it I do enjoy it at the time but its the thought of having to do it that gets me. It feels like a chore just now, and thats terrible, i have never ever seen it ike that b4 and I feel quilty. is this normal?
Sarah x
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Post by winegirl on Sept 13, 2007 8:26:53 GMT
Hi Sarah
Me too! The thought of it is terrifying! Have been like this since my daughter was born 16 months ago and still petrified. I think we have managed the deed a handful of times, and as you say, wasnt so bad, but still really not liking the idea!
I think it is a common thing with PNI to feel this way, and I am hopeful that we will get our sex drives back soon!
I dont know much about the coil, have considered it in the past but felt a bit squeamish about it.
Winegirl x
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Post by stevensmummy on Sept 13, 2007 15:34:57 GMT
Hi winegirl
At least i'm not a freak then. We had a very open and dare I say without being frowned upon, more than just us 2, sort of sex life b4 the kids and I think since the kids and me getting this he finds it odd. He would never cheat on me and our relationship is very good in other ways but it is a touchy subject and I'm beginning to feel guilty about it. I also hate the idea of having sex while my baby is asleep in the same room!
I am still tender from gettin it put in but mum has it and I asked her today and she said at one stage she was ready to get it taken out but its well worth the wait its no periods and very little side effects. So I might just have to grin and bear it!
Sarah x
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Post by winegirl on Sept 13, 2007 18:58:18 GMT
Hi Sarah
Crikey that is open! Cant say we were that open ourselves, but we had a good and very regular sex life. We both used to love it so I am unsure what part of this illness made it so repulsive for me. Be interesting to find out if this had happened to many other women?
Hope things settle down for you with the coil. Certainly sounds like its worth sticking out to have no periods! Good luck with it x
Winegirl x
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Post by stevensmummy on Sept 14, 2007 6:58:44 GMT
Hi Winegirl
Yeah ure right it would be interesting to see. I wonder if its a common symptom. My mum also suggested it could be due to a low self esteem, I'd never thought of it like that b4, she could be partially right. I was a very self confident and outgoing person b4 all this. I took pride in my appearance and would never ave left the house without my hair or makeup done. Now I'm lucky if I get a chnace to think about it half the time.
Have decided i'm going to stick it out with the coil, ure right it is worth it, imagine no periods!
xx
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Post by carol on Oct 9, 2007 15:54:23 GMT
Hello Stevensmummy - I had the coil in April and had stomach cramps, bleeds and spots! even had a scan to see if it had moved causing the pain. All settled now (except spots) and no periods. I know what you are both talking about re: 'the deed' Hubby and I had a very active sex life but my 'urges' have all gone away. Carol xoxoxo
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