Well I do not think you are not normal at all, nor is your husband for not needing to look at porn or oggle etc.
We did not have sex hardly ever, for years when I had PNI, and my husband missed it a little - but he missed it with me, not sex just for sex
and he has never bothered to look at porn etc or even masturbated ( maybe this is too much information, sorry
- but really no, he did and does not hardly at all, or look at porn, we have been together almost 25 years married for 20 and we really do share everything about ourselves!!
In fact as he is a seaman who is away for up to 3 months at a time and with some very frustrated men who talk about nothing else sometimes on board ship and there is lots of porn on board, I actually worry that I know he does not even masturbate much if at all when he is away - and never has .
As I know that it is good to practice as it can make it better when you are with someone, and more likely you will want it when you do have a partner.
But when I had PNI and a young child to look after, I was not interested hardly at all - and as I was not on medication it was not this, and many couples I know who did not have PNI say that it was like this for them when their children were young. Barry was also concerned for me and did not want to do anything I would not want as he knew how much I was struggling. We did have a bit of an argument one time when he first got home from months at sea , more because he was so much a stranger I did not even want to cuddle him at first, but mostly it was fine
However before I had Caja I loved sex and do again now even though I am 54.
Barry is less likely to want it as often as me in fact - and I do put this down in part to the way he puts sex right out of his mind when her goes away to sea, as he feels if it is not with me he just can't be bothered ( but he has always been lazy and laid back about sex)
But he understands I like it and so does he when we do it so its fine for us now.
But when I had PNI and I was not interested and if he was it did not bother him enough to make any sort of issues about it
I too used to worry too that we were not normal
But we of course are - and in fact although it is against how most people view sex I have found that now we are older it is much better and many of my friends in their 50s and 60s have said the same too!!
Now that their children are grown up and they are less stressed and have more time for each other - they have more time for sex and enjoying each other.
So I really would not worry about it at all.
As long as you both are OK with it, then it is fine.
You say you are still intimate
'we cuddle and we are affectionate snuggling and stuff'
This seems very healthy to me and no need to worry at all.
If you do actually want to have sex now and again yourself ?
You may have to be a bit more assertive with him as she sounds like Barry- happy to cuddle if that is all you want.
When I was mostly 'off sex' on the very rare occasions I did want it i did have to make it very clear to him that tonight I wanted sex and not just a cuddle!!
So if you do want to persuade him , maybe try being quite direct about it? It worked for me
But otherwise you are fine
Love Veritee