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Post by lisa1234 on Jan 28, 2005 11:02:08 GMT
Hi Everyone, Just after a bit of advice really. It's my first day back with my baby today after 3 days at work & I just feel a bit low & panicky. She seems unsettled & I had a nightmare getting her breakfast down her. We've been getting her up at 7 in the week and she's at the childminders at 8.20ish. Do you think she's a bit out of sorts cos she's back with me? Am I feeling a bit edgy cos I havn't had to deal with her for 3 days. Do I feel a bit threatened that the childminders better with her than me?? Is she feeding off my mood? For those of you that work, do you have the same routine on your days off as when the kids are with the childminder? Think I'm just a bit unsure of my ability as a mummy again. Love Lisa xxx
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Post by annag on Jan 28, 2005 11:08:53 GMT
New routines always take a bit of getting used to. Give it a week or so and it will settle down. Yes I have always done the same everyday as far as routine is concerned I think it makes life easier. Dont be hard on yourself everything will be fine honestly.
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Post by wendabell on Jan 28, 2005 11:14:41 GMT
well my mum looks after my kids to let me sleep after nightshift, i try to keep to a routine but to be honest when i worked days and now nights i just give up as its too much stress.I try to go with the flow and see what happens the only thing i do do is stick to regular meal times.....Corse your lil un playing up shes actually pleased to see you and it is a bog up heavel for her too but she will settle honest . And oh my gosh yes you are super mum and the childminders not better even if my mum can get my kids to do things for her that they dont do for me i know im still mum and shes still gran. Yes she might try to play one off against the other but thats just kids and not a personal jib at you for not being with me mummy. She does different things with the childminder i bet that she doesnt do with you and visa versa. Just try to step back a bit and not to cram it allin the time off you have with her.Its hard being a working mum full or part time but please give it time .Your doing a fine job and your lil un loves you. Try having a bathtime together that might help.
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Post by scrumpy on Jan 28, 2005 11:38:53 GMT
Hi Lisa, These things do settle with time. It's been a big week for both of you, and you will both need time to adjust. I try and stick to the same routine as regards mealtimes, bathtimes etc. it gives them a sense of security i think. Just try and be as relaxed as you can with her. I'm sure that in a few weeks time she will be back to her old self. Babies are very adaptable, and pretty soon this new way of doing things will be the norm for Maisie. Take care Love Toni
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Post by lisa1234 on Jan 28, 2005 16:44:02 GMT
Thanks Anna, Wendy & Toni,
She seems more settled now. I think maybe being here with her was as much of a shock for me as her!
Think all the stuff going on on the forum has affected me as well & made me a bit down.
Lisa xxx
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Post by jezabel on Jan 28, 2005 17:13:27 GMT
hi Lisa you and me both,
Hey it's your first week and you had a tough weekend last weekend.Take it easy and enjouy your days off......this is still early days for you.....
And you've enjoyed being back at work..haven't you?..
I've just been looking past all the old threads and seen how much the site has changed and that is mainly because it has grown....that can only be a good thing as more and more of us are seeking support.
I noticed that a lot of people who have problems with the site seem to be old members who are knocked because they don't see familiar names on.....
I'm trying to gain my own perspective here and recognise the main reason we come on here......
Be gentle with yourself.....
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Post by lisa1234 on Jan 28, 2005 21:55:05 GMT
Thanks Jennie
So, glad you're back. ;D ;D
Yes, you're right I'm being a bit hard on myself. Maisie was also a little whirlwind of trouble today. Very cute but very feisty!! I love that in her but it can be very tiring!! I had a good sleep this afternoon which helped me see things a little straighter.
Lisa xxx
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Post by wendabell on Jan 29, 2005 20:06:23 GMT
how is maisy this weekend?
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