PNI with 2nd baby?????

[marion]

I just wondered if because you had PNI with your first baby you would get it with your second?
At the moment I cannot face ever having more children as I could not go through what I;ve endured over the last few months ever again.
However, in a few years, once recovered, I may start to think about having more I will have to buy all new baby clothes though as I've already given most of Chloe's outgrown clothes to charity!!!) and I just wondered if anyone had suffered badly with their first baby but then gone on to have another with no (or fewer) problems.
Thanks
Marion.

[francoise]

hi marion

its not necessarily the case im sure , i didnt have it with my first two and had it with my third and hope i dont get it after this one , ive gone straight into another pregnancy while still with pni and yeah i gave everything away as i thought no way would i have another , mind you this one wasnt planned but anyway ill let you know what happens , im sure theres been pni and then no pni by some of the girls

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[monica]

Hi

I got PNi after my second but I have a few friends who only got after their first and were fine after subsequent kids.

One friend was saying that she has so enjlyed having her second child as she's felt normal. She felt very down after the first, didn't really bond with her daughter. Cant rmemebr what you wrote if you did, but do you have any idea why you got PNI?

Time is a great healer and in due course maybe the prospect of havinga second will be quite appealing.

Monica

[hannah457]

hi marion.
ive had pni with all my children but have know friends to get pni only with there first and not with there second.
it different with all women.
if you decide to have another child youe midwife will monitor you closely for any signs of you getting it again and will put you straight on the tablets as soon you given birth.

[marion]

Hi Monica
Think I have PNI for a lot of reasons including things from my past/my dad passing away which I;m really not over/very little support or imput from my mum eventhough she only lives 5 mins away/bad pregnancy/history of depression/lack of support from my husband in the early weeks and the list is endless!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I could analyse endlessly as to why I have it - just wish it wold go away!
I know the signs to look out for but I was so busy looking after Chloe I ignored any symptoms - I told myself that Ididnt feel down so I wasnt depressed eventhough when I look back I;ve shown dreadful anxiety symptoms ever since having Chloe.

Marion

[susanneb1984]

Hiya Monica,

I got pni after Thea, but got prenatal illness with GJ. I think this was because my pni was never dealt with, I didn't actually get pni after GJ, although I was convinced it would get me. I've said before, when she was born, I was scared to sit down in case pni got me again.
We got home at 6pm, she had been born at 00:43am that morning, and I started hoovering and washing, not a clever move! It's really affected me physically!

It's not necessary going to happen again, although the chances are higher, I am sure you'd recognise the signs in order to catch it early, and I know in Liverpool, if you've had pni, you get more support when your pregnant and in labour.

Take care
Susanne
xxxx

[angel]

Hi Marion

I had PNI with my first child althought it went undiagnosied. Maybe i should say that i wouldn't go to the doctors or tell anyone that i was feeling bad. I have now gone on to have a second child and to be honest i don't feel that i have suffered this time round i do have some bad days where i feel that i can't cope but they are nothing like it was when i was suffering the first time.

I think if you want to have more children the best thing to do would be to tell people like the midwife and doctors that you have suffered after this child and then you may well be able to get more support.

Take Care

Angel