Post by Anon07 on May 14, 2008 7:49:31 GMT
Girls - Please help and be as honest as you like!
I feel terrible but really need to off load and want to know if I am blowing things out or proportion as my family, counsellor and a close girlfriend think I am.
Anyway, while on holiday later last year with my DH and DS a mutual friend (male) came to stay for a few days. One nightafter a few drinks, and my DH & DS had gone to bed, me and this friend stayed up chatting and had a laugh dancing and clowning around. I cant remember much of the details but do remember feeling incredibly guilty and going to this guys room and having an argument. I remember saying that I couldn't believe I almost threw away my marraige and things - I was really upset and angry. I slept in the spare room and had a terrible dream about what I thought happened - this happens quite alot when I'm drinking ! Hence, why I dont drink that much!
The next day, I felt awful, not to mention dealing with PND but the fact that I had no idea what gone on and my DH and DS were up in bed oblivious - some mother and wife eh! I did speak to my friend who said we were just having a laugh and ended up doing a hollywood type kiss (you know a big over exaggerated peck!) while dancing, which is nothing at all. He said I was taking things way too serious and my DH wouldn't believe the story if I said anything. He said there was nothing to tell.
At this time he was actually secretly seeing a married woman, her marriage was over and no one knew about it, and was besotted with her (they're now together). He's a really good guy and has tried to reassure me! Also, he said that he would not have let things go further, but they weren't going to anyway. Do you think he was covering his tracks? My family who know him said he's not like that & wouldn't do that to me, but all sorts are going through my head. We're all still intouch and still good friends. I'm not sure if its the depression thats making it stick with me and making me think something has gone on? I think he may have told be about this girl when we were chatting cos he was pouring his heart out (I remember this) and maybe this is what I was dreaming about and put myself in her place - oh god I dont know!!!
What I'm wondering is though - why did I react the way I did? My girlfriend said cos I'm loyal to my husband (ha what a joke!), but I am and would hate to think anything happened. I was, and still am, feeling really insecure.
I want to tell my husband, but its quite awhile a go now and he's quite jealous and we have different views on things. I wouldn't mind him doing a "hollywood kiss" with someone but I'm not sure how he would be.
I'm so confused - sorry for long post! Please be honest though and if you think I'm a tart just say. P.S. My husband was my first proper boyfriend and we have been together for 15 years and the only person I've slept with - surely I would know if something untoward happened? I just feel a terrible mother and wife..........
I feel terrible but really need to off load and want to know if I am blowing things out or proportion as my family, counsellor and a close girlfriend think I am.
Anyway, while on holiday later last year with my DH and DS a mutual friend (male) came to stay for a few days. One nightafter a few drinks, and my DH & DS had gone to bed, me and this friend stayed up chatting and had a laugh dancing and clowning around. I cant remember much of the details but do remember feeling incredibly guilty and going to this guys room and having an argument. I remember saying that I couldn't believe I almost threw away my marraige and things - I was really upset and angry. I slept in the spare room and had a terrible dream about what I thought happened - this happens quite alot when I'm drinking ! Hence, why I dont drink that much!
The next day, I felt awful, not to mention dealing with PND but the fact that I had no idea what gone on and my DH and DS were up in bed oblivious - some mother and wife eh! I did speak to my friend who said we were just having a laugh and ended up doing a hollywood type kiss (you know a big over exaggerated peck!) while dancing, which is nothing at all. He said I was taking things way too serious and my DH wouldn't believe the story if I said anything. He said there was nothing to tell.
At this time he was actually secretly seeing a married woman, her marriage was over and no one knew about it, and was besotted with her (they're now together). He's a really good guy and has tried to reassure me! Also, he said that he would not have let things go further, but they weren't going to anyway. Do you think he was covering his tracks? My family who know him said he's not like that & wouldn't do that to me, but all sorts are going through my head. We're all still intouch and still good friends. I'm not sure if its the depression thats making it stick with me and making me think something has gone on? I think he may have told be about this girl when we were chatting cos he was pouring his heart out (I remember this) and maybe this is what I was dreaming about and put myself in her place - oh god I dont know!!!
What I'm wondering is though - why did I react the way I did? My girlfriend said cos I'm loyal to my husband (ha what a joke!), but I am and would hate to think anything happened. I was, and still am, feeling really insecure.
I want to tell my husband, but its quite awhile a go now and he's quite jealous and we have different views on things. I wouldn't mind him doing a "hollywood kiss" with someone but I'm not sure how he would be.
I'm so confused - sorry for long post! Please be honest though and if you think I'm a tart just say. P.S. My husband was my first proper boyfriend and we have been together for 15 years and the only person I've slept with - surely I would know if something untoward happened? I just feel a terrible mother and wife..........