Is this really all my hormones?

[stevensmummy]

Hi guys,

9 months is such a long time! I keep thinking I'm only half way and already I'm at my wits end at least 2x a week. Can you imagine me by the end? I'll be a pathetic wreck!

My body is knackered, I'm so sore. I ache by the end of the day and cant wait for bedtime. I have such a low oppinion of ppl just now its terrible. I lose my patience with everyone and end up offending ppl. Just this morning I turned and blurted out to a so called freind that she was being pathetic and if only thats all there was to worry about. I cant control myself. I feel bad about it. Even if i manage to keep my mouth shut i find myself making this face as if to say so what!

My kids are driving my mad. My eldest, 3 past june, is mega intense, really hard work just now. Majorly playing up at the slightest thing. i fall out on him and then feel terrible after. The youngest, 1past june, is at that menace age. Constant tantrums. Its very wearing. Everyone seems to know how to handle them better. My Dad is annoying me most of all. He keeps commenting on how the eldest is getting away with too much as he has a real attitude problem and demands eveything. So thats my doing is it? Yes of course it is coz i asked him to be such a little brat! How silly of me to forget!!! He thinks the youngest has a tantrum only when I stop him doing something coz it means he usually gets away with it. Yet again of course thats my fault too, coz I normally let him run the house, he is afterall one and capabale of doing so!

I'm totally overreacting arent I?

I'm just so exhausted and the slightest thing pisses me off. i cant even get a secs peace on the comp without one of the kids pulling me or throwing something or shouting at eachother.

I just want a little bit of help.
Is it too much for me to ask for some support?
Am i being selfish expecting help?

My parents have now taken the kids a few times for a night so i can have a rest but that doesnt seem to help much. Ok i get a whole nights sleep and I can catch up with housework but it doesnt seem to make a diff. I feel like I need support to cope with everyday. Is that wrong?

I think I'm just being a moan now, I'm sorry

Sarah xx

[winegirl]

Hi Hun

Of course you are going to feel like this! Honestly, I am shattered spending the day running around after my one child, let alone 2 and a pregnancy! I dont know how you do it!

Is there anyone that could give you a bit of a break during the day? Night time is ok but daytime is the stressful bit!! Get yourself a day or so away a few times between now and the end of your pregnancy?

Perhaps a list of jobs for hubby to do too?

I am sending you huge hugs mate, if you didnt live 7 hours away I would come and give you a hand!!

WG xx

[monica]

Hi

Being so tired ishugely draining. I found I was totally exahausted whilst pregnant and my patience would go really quickly. I found I'd resent people for nothing, be ratty with the kids which would make them play up even more. And I had quite a large gap between my eldest two. Two little ones are v hard work.

Hav eyou told your parents straight you need help. Say to them when you'd liek to take them off your hands eg. 2 ams per week or 2 afternoons or whatever. If they moan try to ignore it, just get them to do it. You're not selfish you're tired and it can be so overwhelming when you feel like this day after day.

Hope you get some help and a much deservedbreak.

Love

Monica

[stevensmummy]

Hi

Thanks for the replies. I think I was in a moaning mildred mood!

Thanks WG I wish you did live closer love, not for the help but it would be great to go for coffee.

Yes Monica I think I will say that I'd like a bit of a hand. I havent actually asked straight out. Anytime i say anything like what you doing whatever afternoon, its 'oh I'm far to busy so dont think about coming round, i cant get anything done with the kids there'. I also get well your mum managed, and such and such manages without help so why do you need it. They said they accepted my pni, and were happy to support me thro it. But really so far they havent, they maybe think they do but I get no support from them. I dont actually think they understand it to be honest. To them its just a label the doc gave me and now I can get fixed coz we know what it is. They do that alot, the 'we' part of it, esp when talking to others, esp doc etc when really its only ever me. They like to think they can support me and it sounds good but really they arent there emotionally or physically. I guess I've learned to deal with it.

I do worry about the response when I ask tho. I'll get told I'm selfish this is their time now, they have done their bit, we were their kids. They dont realise I still need help. I wouldnt want any of my kids to suffer the way i have and to be honest, this sounds really terrible as I wouldnt wish this on anyone, but I wish they knew how it felt so could even understand a little bit.

I'll try asking, I cant imagine I'll get to this week. Dad has a week off work and mum has managed to get time off alongside him but they are doing alot. When i asked if he could collect a dishwasher for me it was like I'd asked for blood. It was really a big issue. I'm afraid to ask lol.

So last question! Promise lol
Do I just go all out and ask, when confronted tell them how i'm feeling. I had the doc last week, I slipped into the convo about 3times that i had been and not one of them asked, oh what for how did you get on etc. That hurt. I had to ask my dad about blood pressure etc b4 he asked about mine, even then it got shrugged off as normal pregnancy. never mind the fact that its under 100 and the doc says I have to slow down or pass out! (sorry there i go again)

So all out and ask, with the risk of a brawl or what do I do?

Thanks again
xxxxx

[winegirl]

Hi Sarah

I think you should just tell them out right but just really nicely. Explain how you are feeling and that the doc has told you to slow down and you are really appreiacitive of all the do but could they help out a bit more etc etc...

How you feeling this week mate??

WG xx

[stevensmummy]

Cheers WG, think I will say something, just a case of when really

I'm not feeling too bad. I'm struggling with my mood to be honest, but thats not something I went with unexpected. I'm so tempted to tell the doc as sooon as its born I want ADs but I know they wont let me. The fear of having to go thro all this 3rd time is always in the back of my mind and I think its not helping. I'm tempted to start in my Diary again which shows I'm not feeling good as I left the feeling of needing that let off but now I feel it might help.

preg ways i'm ok, blood levels are low and BP is too low but other than that all is ok. So in that respect its a weight off my mind. Have my last, well hopefully last, scan last wk of the month, so will be relieved when its all over. Its nice but you also think to yourself, why so much stress about it, its been checked, its spine and its skin covering are fine, what else can they poss want to check over and over. it says this is a cardiac scan so I'm guessing the heart, surely at 24wks you get a better look at it.

On subject of the scan i have a cunning plan. Well maybe! lol, no laughing!!!!
We get the 3d and sexing scans here in the local hosp at the weekends, a team comes from edin to do it. I am tempted to have it but at this time of year £100 is alot to waste. So i'm thinking, I'll ask my mate who has had one if they write in you notes, which i dont think they do. My thinking being at my scan I ask what the chances are of them getting the sex wrong, saying something along the lines of, they said it was a girl but I was convinced it looked like a boy. My idea being that they might say they could have a little look. What you think?

No laughing!

xxx

[winegirl]

Hell yeah!! I would do the same! Its definately worth a shot...

I had to pay rivately for a 4d scan down here - cost about 70 quid for dvd and pics to keep - well worth it!

I am sorry you have been struggling a bit again, but you are right about one thing, whilst i am sure you will be fine, if you are in any way worried go back to your go and explain how you are feeling - you know the drill - nip it in the bud and all that xx

WG x

[stevensmummy]

Hi hun,

U reckon its a good idea then. Its worth a shot like you say.

You are right tho hun, I am worrying about it already and i dont think thats helping to be honest. But like you say I know the routine, hopefully I can sort it out b4 it gets that bad. Heres hoping anyway

cheers xxx

[winegirl]

Hey Sarah

How has the weekend been for you mate??

WG x

[monica]

how r u? Feeling any better. Did you speak to your parents?

If you can try get the 4d scan. i had one done and itis amazing. not cheap tho!

love

monica