Post by stevensmummy on Nov 14, 2008 8:38:22 GMT
My eldest son, is 3 1/2 and causing me a nightmare. I spend my day screaming at him and am looking for any advice as to how to help. Anything is welcome as I'm gettin desperate!
Background: Has a younger bro, 18m, hes a bit of a handful, into everything. Constant tantrums and attention seeking. I'm preg, about half way and have epilepsy, which has now been controlled for over a year, ie seizure free so he hasnt seen anyting like that in a long time.
My main issues with him are his attitude and temper. He has an attitude like a teenager. I can ask him something and he screams back, no, get away etc. I think at times he plays up for attention. His bro is a handful and gets attention as a resuly of being bad so I do wonder if he sees this as a way of getting attention too. The youngest goes to bed b4 him so he gets time with us, also during the other ones nap time. He is looking forward to the baby, he doesnt want another stuart (his bro)! We spend time rubbing my tummy and talking to the baby, he talks to it and rubs in cream asking if he can feel it etc. As the two of us we spend time cuddling, although I say more just now than perviously, he seems to always want to bosie as he calls it. he is also at Playgroup 4x weekly and has anpther group on the 5th morning.
We have a reward chart, which i just started yest afternoon. i'm making it easy to get stars so he sees his progress quickly and gets the rewards. I have also just started removing toys from him when he misbehaves. This worked previously, but this time its much worse. I'm starting with the smaller ones hotwheels and monster trucks etc and will move on to the larger if need be.
Any other advice?
What am I doing wrong or could i change something?
Is it attention?
Am going to talk to HV today as clinic is on in same place as toddlers which I take younger one to today.
Sarah x
Background: Has a younger bro, 18m, hes a bit of a handful, into everything. Constant tantrums and attention seeking. I'm preg, about half way and have epilepsy, which has now been controlled for over a year, ie seizure free so he hasnt seen anyting like that in a long time.
My main issues with him are his attitude and temper. He has an attitude like a teenager. I can ask him something and he screams back, no, get away etc. I think at times he plays up for attention. His bro is a handful and gets attention as a resuly of being bad so I do wonder if he sees this as a way of getting attention too. The youngest goes to bed b4 him so he gets time with us, also during the other ones nap time. He is looking forward to the baby, he doesnt want another stuart (his bro)! We spend time rubbing my tummy and talking to the baby, he talks to it and rubs in cream asking if he can feel it etc. As the two of us we spend time cuddling, although I say more just now than perviously, he seems to always want to bosie as he calls it. he is also at Playgroup 4x weekly and has anpther group on the 5th morning.
We have a reward chart, which i just started yest afternoon. i'm making it easy to get stars so he sees his progress quickly and gets the rewards. I have also just started removing toys from him when he misbehaves. This worked previously, but this time its much worse. I'm starting with the smaller ones hotwheels and monster trucks etc and will move on to the larger if need be.
Any other advice?
What am I doing wrong or could i change something?
Is it attention?
Am going to talk to HV today as clinic is on in same place as toddlers which I take younger one to today.
Sarah x