Post by mammy on May 21, 2009 7:46:34 GMT
I often wonder if my pregnancy and birth have anything to do with what is happening now to me.
I was always told I could never have a baby due to my heart issues, however had a fifth heart op november 2007 which made me a bit better so we decided to have a baby, fell pregnant, the medication i take although does not cause abnormalities can lead to early labour or miscarrige so not the most stressfree of times. My cardiologist decided I would be much safer with an elective section for safety.
I was admitted at 39 weeks for my section, I was under spinal but the morphine made me incredibly sick so my bub was brought out and given to her Dad who fed her and changed her I got brief holds between throwing up which lasted for 6 hours post section.
Got up to the ward was in a side room, my bub was very sick following the section, brought all her milk back which I later found out was reflux. I asked the ward staff for help during the night the brought me clean sheets and left me to it. at 5.30am they wondered why I was sobbing with my bubba in my arms, having been up since 6am the morning before, major surgery and being left to my own devices with a sicky newborn is it any wonder!
I self discharged the next day as it did not get any better in the ward they were no help at all, didn't even give regular pain relief to me.
Got home and my family were incredibly crap my husband didn't break off work until the following monday as I was supposed to be in for 5 days not 2, my mum didn't come near till the following wednesday the rest of my family and friends thought I would need time to bond so left me at home alone 2 days after a section with a new baby, I have never felt so alone and lost in my life.
My husband now says he should have never gone to work but I told him I would be fine, course I said that didn't want people to think I was a bad mum or couldn't cope but truthfully I can't cope its getting better but only on some days.
Reading some of these posts its really no wonder we end up so lost, the medical profession can be an embarrasment to the country and they really should be ashamed to say they care for people.
Thanks for listening it does help to let it all out, my poor husband is fed up listening to me I'm sure
I was always told I could never have a baby due to my heart issues, however had a fifth heart op november 2007 which made me a bit better so we decided to have a baby, fell pregnant, the medication i take although does not cause abnormalities can lead to early labour or miscarrige so not the most stressfree of times. My cardiologist decided I would be much safer with an elective section for safety.
I was admitted at 39 weeks for my section, I was under spinal but the morphine made me incredibly sick so my bub was brought out and given to her Dad who fed her and changed her I got brief holds between throwing up which lasted for 6 hours post section.
Got up to the ward was in a side room, my bub was very sick following the section, brought all her milk back which I later found out was reflux. I asked the ward staff for help during the night the brought me clean sheets and left me to it. at 5.30am they wondered why I was sobbing with my bubba in my arms, having been up since 6am the morning before, major surgery and being left to my own devices with a sicky newborn is it any wonder!
I self discharged the next day as it did not get any better in the ward they were no help at all, didn't even give regular pain relief to me.
Got home and my family were incredibly crap my husband didn't break off work until the following monday as I was supposed to be in for 5 days not 2, my mum didn't come near till the following wednesday the rest of my family and friends thought I would need time to bond so left me at home alone 2 days after a section with a new baby, I have never felt so alone and lost in my life.
My husband now says he should have never gone to work but I told him I would be fine, course I said that didn't want people to think I was a bad mum or couldn't cope but truthfully I can't cope its getting better but only on some days.
Reading some of these posts its really no wonder we end up so lost, the medical profession can be an embarrasment to the country and they really should be ashamed to say they care for people.
Thanks for listening it does help to let it all out, my poor husband is fed up listening to me I'm sure
