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Post by winegirl on Jun 3, 2009 6:38:52 GMT
Well I have run out of ideas so am asking you guys for any you may have!
My LO is 3 now and her tantrums are getting worse. I have tried everything from ignoring it to, to no treats, to a reward chart etc.. but it just isnt working!
This morning has been the final straw where I realise I have no control over her whatsoever.
She says no to everything you ask of her. You try distaction, making it fun, getting cross but she still refuses to do what you tell her to do!
This morning, yet again, she has refused to get her clothes on and get in the car. Screaming, fighting the lot. In the end my poor husband who is worried about being late for woar again because of it has carried her kicking and sceaming half dressed into the car. But we are all upset and angry now and this cannot go on if it is going to make him late and stressed for work.
Any ideas guys please? This morning i threatened the pride chart (reward thing) but she didnt care, no treats, telling staff at nursery (where she is the most perfect child would you believe?) But to no avail.
Help!!
A much stressed WG x
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Post by chica on Jun 3, 2009 7:43:20 GMT
First just a thought.... does little one get to choose what she wants to wear, or do you just get clothes out for her? Is it that she just doesnt want to wear what you have chosen?
Second... there was a mum at school who had exactly the same problem, from a very fiesty little lad, and she had bruises and bite marks to prove it. In the end, she had a word with the headmistress, and agreed things with her, so the next day, when little one kicked off again, she just said okay then, go to school like that. He thought he had won the battle, but obviously when he got to school still in his PJs the children in his class laughed, and he couldnt do PE cos he was in his PJs, (I hasten to add this is a very tiny village school with only 25 pupils and only 6 in the little lads class) so it may not be practical for you if there is hundreds of children that could see her in her PJs. But it definately did the trick.
Third.... this is one I have done.... I have thrown a tantrum myself, whilst they were in full flow!! a bit like the advert on the telly with the mum in the supermarket.... the kids were so shocked, they stood there with gaping mouths, then very quietly just got dressed themselves...probably thinking mummy has flipped her lid, (which actually I hadnt, although you may think differently) but the shock tactic did work.
Hope some of the above helps GOOD LUCK !!!!!!
xxxxxxxxx
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Post by cheshire on Jun 3, 2009 12:02:17 GMT
Hiya xxx Feel for you as have had similar issue with DS in the mornings (as you know) ...I'm not sure why it is improving but have to be honest and say that I too did the supermarket advert where I freak out completely (rare for me to do this, so children in utter shock when I do). Also have smacked his bum - and whilst I am not proud of it - I'm afraid it does seem to have worked   I know you can't do this as it's mornings...but if at other times of day, mine go to bed, light off, door shut. Hell, what a tyrant I am  xx |
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Post by winegirl on Jun 4, 2009 11:52:03 GMT
Right, decision made - I am going to try the adult tantrum thing... Nothing to lose!
I am just getting at my wits end with everything being `no' all the time. Come and get changed? No. Try to go to the loo? No. Eat your dinner? No. Lets go out now? No. Time to go upstairs? No. Time for a bath? No..... the list goes on... Hoping its just a phase!!!
Thanks guys, I really appreciate your input xx
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Post by cheshire on Jun 4, 2009 13:50:18 GMT
LOL - good luck x
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Post by nicola1712 on Aug 5, 2009 15:01:34 GMT
How is this going WG? I have only just seen this thread.....have you thrown any adult tantrums lately?!
It could be that she just likes the word 'no' at the moment - I read somewhere they like testing you with it. My LO says no back when we tell her off and then carries on with whatever it was telling herself no!
Not easy to do when you need to get out of the house but I tend to ignore my LO when she throws a tantrum - just leave her somewhere safe and walk off. This makes her worse to start with and then when she stops or calms down I return for a cuddle. She kicks up about getting dressed too and runs away from me trying to go downstairs so we simply 'don't go down until she is dressed.'
xxx
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