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Post by bean on Jun 28, 2009 10:10:38 GMT
Hi
Bit embarrassed about this but last night after sex i bled everywhere, this has never happened before and im not due on period.
Thing is i was trying my best but he wasnt really pushing all the buttons if you know what i mean, so maybe was just not ready, but try telling that to a man when he is.
Oh and another thing why do they never take a blind bit of notice about what you want??? even when you try telling/showing them, or is it just me??
Basically I dont think its worth all the trouble, or is it just my marriage thats in trouble, i dont know, i did try to make an effort but why bother if there's nothing enjoyable about it for me?
confused bean x
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Post by winegirl on Jun 28, 2009 10:18:50 GMT
Im right behind you hun, I am ok with it all right until the point of entry, so to speak, and then its just plain painful these days.. Yes, I have had a bit of bledding in the past with it, and I have also assumed it is just because i wasnt really `ready' if you know what i mean...
You might need to do the whole sit down chat thing with him about what you like etc etc and that it is important for you to enjoy it too.. Men usually like to feel they are good at sex so you might be able to talk him into paying attention?
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Post by gizmoracer on Jun 28, 2009 10:19:40 GMT
Hi Bean.
I know the feeling. Problem is when you don't feel upto it and you just go along with things to keep the peace, you generally feel worse afterwards. On the other hand they don't seem to notice. The bleeding could well be due to you not being ready. I have had this a few times in the past. I checked everything was ok with my nurse once and she couldn't find a problem.
Most of us have found that our drive has returned as we get better.
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Post by bean guest on Jun 28, 2009 10:47:50 GMT
I dont really think the problem is mine anymore, things are more complicated than that but obviously cause we're women it must be our problem, they could perform at the drop of a hat. My drive has actually improved greatly, i just dont want sex with him at the mo. I dont have any problems when its just me lol  Actually i think this is something i would like to talk about more, but cause its personal i think i would like to do that in relationship section, but dont have a password. I asked for one last week but havent heard yet, i know veritee is very busy though, is this something you could help with WG? Oh and i have tried the sit down and talk, last night i tried "guiding him" as to what to do, but he just did it his way. You would think after 19 years together, we would know each other inside and out, so to speak! Maybe thats the problem!! I need a young toy boy stud with a washboard chest mmmmm yum lol ;D Ive even had a couple of dreams about being with another woman  maybe thats where we go wrong, we know our bodies better than they do, does this mean im weird? Does this mean Im changing sides halfway though the game??? Im so confused. Has anyone else ever had these dreams? Is it normal or should i be worried? bean x |
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Post by winegirl on Jun 28, 2009 16:47:31 GMT
Will get the password to you hun. Check your pm's x
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Post by monica on Jun 29, 2009 14:06:04 GMT
Hi
I bled after sex once and the nurse said I had cells on the outside of my cervix .w hich was common. If it's a one of I would guess ( although good idea to get it checked out) it's nothing major, but if regularly best get it seen to.
I sometimes have vaginal dryness, and that can make it quite unconfortable. In my old age it can take time to get well lubricated - that and grey hairs, achy joints etc etc where did it all go?
Monica
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Post by FloBob not logged in on Dec 2, 2009 21:19:44 GMT
Hi
I'm kind of glad you've written about this, because this is happening for me now.
Every time after having sex I have a period. This started in October. I'm sure the bleeding is a period because it lasts so long (13 days was the longest, 7 days the shortest). It's a shame as we were just getting back to having a sex life and now I'm put off the idea because it seems such a hassle afterwards.
Any ideas why this is happening, anyone?
Cheers, FloBob x
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Post by winegirl on Dec 4, 2009 13:35:27 GMT
this is very strange...
Without going in to toooo much detail, we `did the deed' last night, and woken up this morning bleeding. This is very unusual and i am not even certain if it is my period as I hace PCOS so can go months without having one, very confusing. I am going to look this up
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Post by monica on Dec 4, 2009 16:11:14 GMT
Hey get yourselves down the doctors - it really might be nothing serious but any bleeding should be investigated.
Monica
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maybe thats where we go wrong, we know our bodies better than they do, does this mean im weird? Does this mean Im changing sides halfway though the game??? Im so confused. Has anyone else ever had these dreams? Is it normal or should i be worried?
