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Post by winegirl on Aug 31, 2009 9:21:11 GMT
Well Isabelle is 3 years and 3 months and has been in pants since about 2 and half or something like that..
The thing is she is dry all day at nursery, but wet all weekend with me! I channged her pants and trousers 6 times yesterday and twice already this morning..
She does not do it anywhere but here! I have tried all tactics, reward chart, ignoring it, screaming like a banshee, treats for using the loo.. Bu am now drawing a blank.
It makes me sooo cross because i know she is perfectly capable of going to the loo but just wont! But I have no idea why!!
Help anyone??
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Post by sianyc on Sept 1, 2009 15:20:50 GMT
Nursery is just one big long toilet trip which may explain why she's dry all day there. From what I can remember from when my two were at a nursery, they take all of them to the toilet at set intervals as well as when they ask to go. She's probably weeing every half hour there :-)
My youngest leaves it right til the last moment so still occasionally wees herself (she's 4 in October). Does she tell you she doesn't want a wee when you ask her and then wee herself or are you waiting for her to ask you? Only checking as I have to ask R all the time as she seems to just forget!!!
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Post by tabbysmum on Sept 1, 2009 19:57:15 GMT
Hi WG
I know nothing about toilet training but will do very soon as we start tomorrow! Anyway think sianyc may have a point, when I was discussing the potty training with the nursery today I was told they put them on the potty every ten minutes so suspect as they get older they probably do cart them off every half an hour or so, nursery is much more regimented than at home.
Sorry not much help!
Love L x
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Post by winegirl on Sept 2, 2009 8:21:18 GMT
Thank you ladies xx
No at home with me she has stopped asking to go altogether and just does it. I spend all day trying to persuade her to go and she just tells me she doesnt want to. She does not do this when with hubby or my parents or any other time just at home with me!! So clearly I am the issue here I just have to figure out how... Perhaps its to get attention? I dont know.
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Post by monica on Sept 2, 2009 12:39:57 GMT
Hi
My eldest did this when about 3 - he started wettinghimself at home only. My bf caught him doing it once and smacked him and that stopped it - not necessarily the best way forward.
As you say it does sound like an attention thing with you. Have you tried offering rewards if she doesn't do it? Perhaps say if she doesn't do it all day with you you'll take her to the playground?
it will pass for sure but it's frustrating tho'!
Monica
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Post by winegirl on Sept 2, 2009 13:07:24 GMT
Thanks Monica..
Yes I have started offering rewards for staying dry but still no luck. I think maybe I need to stop making a big deal about it with her and then just offer her rewards as and when she does it. Yes very frustrating - lots and lots of washing too!!
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Post by Bookwormprincess on Sept 2, 2009 20:09:12 GMT
Poor you WG. That would really test my patience.
I'm not looking forward to potty training but we're a long way off from that yet.
Although I have to say that after yet another poo in the bath tonight I was wishing he could hold it in and go in a potty already.
Hope things improve soon for you.
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Post by sianyc on Sept 3, 2009 7:13:08 GMT
How annoying that she only does it for you. Bet you just want to scream. What a little monkey!
Found this on the supernanny website - It's a reply to someone about her little boy an sounds as if it's worth a try.
"First, rule out any medical reasons for this. It’s rare, but possible. Likely your son just isn’t willing to stop his play to use the toilet and has no problem with you changing his trousers. Get him involved and make him responsible. Show him where the clean clothes are kept and where the dirty ones are to be put. When he has an accident direct him gently to go take care of his problem. Don’t let him get on with playing until he has properly changed and put his wet clothing where they belong. When he tires of this process he’ll likely make it to the toilet on time! To make success even quicker be sure to give him some praise and encouragement when he uses the toilet on time."
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Post by lizcreed on Sept 6, 2009 18:50:20 GMT
Another way might be a star chart for every time she uses the potty she gets a star then every time she gets X amount or reaches the top of the ladder etc she gets a small treat, this could be anything, trip to park, sweets, whatever you fancy.
I agree with the make as little fuss as possible but make them do it all approach.
Let us know how it goes x
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Post by wkmmum on Sept 13, 2009 8:56:10 GMT
I remember my son doing this - not just at home like your LO, but wetting himself when I knew full well that he was capable of going to the toilet when he needed to.
My HV advised me to ignore it and leave him in his wet clothes for a while - not so long that he got sore but long enough for him to a) not like it and b) realise it wasn't the best way of getting attention.
So, he'd wet himself and I'd just say 'You're going to have to wait until I've finished doing the washing up/putting dinner on/whatever'. I'd then finish what I was doing before taking him upstairs and getting him sorted. But I'd sort him out without talking to him. So again, no attention for it (ie. no chat - not even a telling off).
Once I started this approach it got a lot better. He still did it occasionally for a while but much less frequently than before xx
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