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Post by winegirl on Apr 15, 2010 18:42:02 GMT
Its not old mate!! My LO is in bed and I am waiting for her to nod off as wont be far behind her! LOL
I understand the panic over the heaving (just like you, emetephobe), I only have to feel a bit quesy and i can have anxirty that lasts for about a month after! So you have my total sympathy and big hugs (((())))
I hope you have a restful night mate and shout if you need an ear?
Much Love
WG xx
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Post by gizmoracer on Apr 17, 2010 8:40:53 GMT
Thanks WG. I'm feeling a bit better today, still coughing like mad but generally more human. Going through another 'don't feel pregnant anymore' weeks again though It's a couple of things, firstly I've not felt any movement for a while but it was only slight anyway and I've been feeling so ill recently that it has probably just distracted from it. I have also got back into my comfy PJ's as my bump seems to be shrinking but I have lost 2kg and the bloating has calmed down. Also the sickness seems to be subsiding, at the moment I only feel sick through this virus. I saw on the baby site that 13 weeks is a common one for feeling like something is wrong, just like 9 weeks is a common feeling depressed week and that was definatly me then. I suppose to be fair I've been on edge ever since buying that crib. With Jason and Jodie I never bought anything baby related til I was about 30 weeks but with the baby I lost I had just bought a double buggy 2 days before misscarrying. How stupid is it that all these things get amplified when you're pregnant. Anyway. The survayer did turn up yesterday and he was really shocked at how bad the damp was, he couldn't figure out how it has got on the celing but has a theory as to the main bit in the kids room. He rekons its the guttering leaking as there is a join just above the kids room. We're not convinced coz in nearly 7 yrs we havn't seen any leakage at all. So he is going to send someone round to put up scaffolding and clear the gutter. That's gonna be fun coz to get to our garden they have to climb over a 6 ft fence from the park into my neighbours garden and then over our fence into our garden. The only other access is through our bedroom Then they are going to clean up all the damp for us (so I've been told again not to touch it, they had better hurry up on this one) treat it and re decorate both bedrooms. If this works it will make living here a hell of a lot easier. The walls are a seperate issue and that has to go through the cowboy builders who built these stupid places. He thinks the walls are metal and therefore attached with clips so they will drill a hole in walls put a camera in to see where the clips are and try to re attach them but the builders will argue the gaurentee etc etc. We have dealt with them before and they are terrible. The survayer is also going to look into getting the tree cut back that over hangs from behind our garden. That should be fun it comes from a posh and expensive private house. Personally I doubt they even know the tree exsists. On top of all this I have finally had my transfer forms through and printed out a medical assesment for the doc to do as well as the letters we already have. But this is where we have a problem. Now they are doing something about the damp it's going to be difficult to move on medical grounds and the survayer said we won't need to move out while they do the work so that doesn't help either. Basically we are stuck here til Jason is 10 unless we want to move into another 2 bed place. He is only 7 now and having the baby won't make any difference, next door to us has 3 children 1 boy and 2 girls they are 8, 5 and 3 respectivly and they are still in a flat the same as us. On the plus side we do have a very big 'L' shaped living room and when we decorated once we moved the whole of our bedroom into the living room for about a month, it was quite comfortable. So we could in a few years do that again and give the kids the bedrooms, not ideal but it would probably be better on the kids and less stressful on us.
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Post by Weeble on Apr 17, 2010 18:43:17 GMT
Good and bad news hey Giz, at least getting rid of the damp will help Jason. They recently had to completely re-do my sisters lounge after a major leak and did quite a good job of the plastering etc, so fingers crossed its ok for you too, it is the same LA i think.
I really admire you, reading this entry I thought you cope with so much rubbish and you do it so well, it must feel shit, but you sound so strong and sorted.
I know we are different but I have not felt my baby for a few days either, and week nine was a crap week too and week 13 was horrible and I was knackered. Your anxiety about the baby is understandable, I am the same with S I did virtually nothing, anything anyone brought had to come with a bag, wrapping etc and a receipt so it could go back. I hardly had anything for him. With T he came and my oh had to go home and get everything out of the roof because I was totally unprepared.
Hopefully the lack of noisy aeroplanes and the lovely sunny weather have helped you today.
hugs and all the stuff
Kat
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Post by gizmoracer on Apr 20, 2010 18:47:37 GMT
Thanks Kat that really helped. I'm still feeling ill, got that horrible dry cough that makes me heave and have been wheezing too. Think I have felt a couple of movements since last posting.
Not sure when the HA are going to start the work here, hopefully fairly soon, have to admit I don't hold too much on it being done before summer or properly if I'm honest. We are under Origin housing previously known as SPH. Do you know what your sister is under Kat?
Jason had an asthma check up today with our local nurse. She commented on how she had heard the damp story from us before and was really shocked when she looked back at his notes to see that the last time she saw him was over a year ago. She has said the same as the last GP we saw, in that he can up his turbo inhaler for a few days to avoid the need for oral steriods and has also agreed with my diagnosis of perennial rhinitis. He now has tablets for that too. This should be fun coz he's never had to swallow tablets before.
Thats about it really for now.
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Post by winegirl on Apr 20, 2010 20:02:21 GMT
God they really need to get that damp sorted NOW!! I remember having a client who was housed by the HA and suffered really bad with asthma. I went to his flat one day and mate, it wasnt just damp, the walls were black with mold! Turns out the health service had been trying to get the landlord to do something about it for months with no joy!
So I appeared at his office with an armful of legislation relating to housing and neglect and refused to leave until he signed to say he would sort it or else I would call environmental health out. It was sorted within a month.
Sad that we have to kick off so much though to get basic tenancy rights sorted though!
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Post by gizmoracer on Apr 23, 2010 8:32:29 GMT
Its rediculous isn't it. Both our bedrooms are black with mould and its driving me nuts that they won't let me clean it up. It's been a week now since the survayer and not a single phone call. I was going to ring the HA today to find out whats going on that way I've given them a chance but OH rekons I should leave it til Monday. I'll see how I feel later, got bills to sort out today and feel like crap. If you have any legistation stuff kicking about that might help please send it my way. Kids have been back at school a week and seem happy enough, Jodie got told off for doing handstands the other day and showing her knickers off so she now has to wear tights or trousers to school lol. OH and I went out earlier in the week and bought a picnic bench (that was fun to build), sorted out a load more grass seed and generally started to clear the garden a bit. We might actually get to use it for a few months this year been as one next door isn't here and the other is still allegidly moving. This has always been a bad trigger with me in the past as some of you more long running members will know from my original diary, there just isn't any privacy out the back. The fences are low and one side can se right through our bedroom almost into our bathroom. So I have spent years stuck inside with all the curtains pulled (on our grand total of 2 windows that we have in the whole flat) which really doesn't do anything for my state of mind. Fingers crossed it will be different this summer. From what I can gather everything seems to be ok with baby. Have started feeling movements again so thats good but have now developed a really bad back/hip/thigh. Started getting bad about a week ago and it sounds like it could be that PGP (pelvic girdle pain). I do remember getting something like this before but it was much later on. It's just on the left side at the moment but is causing me alsorts of problems. It hurts to bend down, get in and out of the car, walk, and it is near impossible to sit up in bed. Gets worse in the evening and wakes me up at night especially when I want to turn over. I know I should go to the doc but to be honest I can't be bothered and I have an appointment with him in 2 weeks anyway, so I'll mention it then, assuming I'm still able to walk. Taking Jodie to the hairdresser tomorrow, she badly needs something done, she's looking like worzle gummage now. I've reluctantly agreed to get my hair done too. Not into all this girly stuff but I suppose it does need doing. Gives the boys time to compare pokemon Then Jason has a party Sunday, I'm quite temped to find somewhere to hang out so Jodie has to spend some time with OH, really feel they need some bonding time together, she'll probably want to help out in the garden anyway. You can really tell it's st.georges day round here. Our estate is full of flags and I drove through South Oxhey this morning and OMG the whole town is drapped in them, you'd think the queen was visiting. lol. Quite sad actually because round here people are just so narrow minded and st. georges day is like christmas to many of them. No wonder we have so many BMP supporters here. Right better get something done.
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Post by monica on Apr 23, 2010 9:45:54 GMT
Hi
If you feel up to it, do hassle HA - it should be a priority esp with kids' asthma and you being pregnant.
Glad you are starting to feel movements - how many weeks are you now? Again it'shassle but try to see your dr. I dont' know much about the pelvic girde pain Iie nothng!) but know physio can do alot for similar complaints and youcan get this belt which supports you but as will most things you have to be referred and that takes time, so the earlier the ball gets rolling the quicker you can get help.
Let us know what your haricut is like - I ususally love the whole hairdressing experience!A bit of time to myself!
Love
Monica
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Post by gizmoracer on Apr 24, 2010 20:04:28 GMT
Well I did hasstle the HA and bloody good job I did as well. They have no record of our 'jobs' on the system I told them what was said by the survayer and they are supposidly 'looking into it' and giving him 'a nudge'. So we'll see. On the plus side the HA have finally approved us to the homeswapper site, not that it's much help at the moment really but at least it's done. Had a nightmare today. The hairdressers we go to is over by my mum which is the other side of town (the actual hairdresser herself lives right by my kids school). I didn't relise the football was on today and so a 15 min drive took us 50 mins. Luckily they weren't busy. We both have much the same cut. Just above shoulders and layered. Joey's is graduated at the sides and they straightened mine so it looks really nice today but will no doubt puff out like a mushroom in the morning as per usual. While we were over there I went in to book my 3D scan. Going at 24 weeks been as we already have hospital scans booked for 20 and 28 weeks. Have decided not to ask the gender, much to the kids disapproval. Thing is I have heard now of 4 babies born in the last 2 months that were different to what they had been told. Oddly enough they had all been told girls and had boys. I can't take that risk with the kids both being so set on a sister. So have decided they will have to wait and see, that way it's here and Joey especially won't be able to decided she wants nothing to do with it if it is a boy coz she'll be too wrapped up in the cute little baby thing by then. I'm 15 weeks now. Have been feeling movements since 10/11 weeks but since having this horrible virus the movements seemed to stop. I guess thats just where I was feeling so rough. Now they are back I'm alot happier.
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Post by monica on Apr 24, 2010 22:14:51 GMT
Hi
Well done on calling the HA otherwise you would have been waiting somuch longer! Your hair sounds lovely - I know what you mean - looks fab coming out of hairdressers then foloowing day defaults back to its natural style!
You'll really enjoy the 3D scan. I had one begrudgingly as I hate scans but it was amazing - you see so much. I too didn't want to know the sex and it wasn't obvious to me at all (not sure if sonographer could tell though!)
Hope you are finally starting to feel better post virus - enjoy rest of weekend!
Love
Monica
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Post by Weeble on Apr 27, 2010 20:13:10 GMT
I am in awe, you are amazing, just read your bit on my symptoms thread. The more you tell me the more in awe of you I am, you certainly fit the description that strong capable women get PND. I am proud to know you.
On the movements do not worry my midwife said that lots of women on there third plus pregnancy struggle to feel movement as everything is so loose compared to the first time. Makes sense. I am on the want to know what flavor it is too, this time, three and a half weeks to go but understand your concerns. My sis was told she was having a boy and had a girl same healthcare trust i think. My kids are younger so the risk is worth taking.
Keep well and looking forward to hearing how the pregnancy continues.
Kat
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Post by gizmoracer on Apr 28, 2010 9:47:57 GMT
Thanks for reminding me. I was going to copy part of that symptoms thread into here. Just so it makes sence. We were talking about memory loss and this is what I posted. My PNI came on at about 20 weeks pregnant with my first born. I have 1 memory of feinting at 28 weeks, 1 memory of going on holiday at 30 weeks and the birth. Then a few very vauge memories of doctor visits when he was a few weeks old and 1 memory of his first smile which had me collapse in tears at the time. From then on I remember moving into a hostel when he was 6 mths old and loosing a baby at the same time. My next memory is when we moved to our current address he was 11 mths old and I was 8 weeks pregnant with my daughter. I have no memory of decorating or laying carpet etc and my next real memory is of me running away in the snow 3 mths before my daughter was born. I remember her birth and a few bits of her being small but to be completly honest other than relying on photos nothing is a real memory until I did my magazine articals back in Feb 07. So above is ALL my memories from . June 02 to Feb 07 other than my husband having meningitis. OMG thats 4 1/2 yrs.Since posting this and really thinking hard about it. I have regained a couple more memories. One of my friends had a daughter 6 mths before my son and I joined in with her baby group a couple of times, I remember 1 lady really helped me when I was literally suicidal about giving up breastfeeding. We also had a group at the docs and I vaguely remember them coming over to the flat for Jasons 1st birhday. I remember crying my eyes out holding Jason who was desperatly hungry waiting for my mum and dad to get back from mothercare with nipple shields but they were caught in football traffic and hubby begging me to give him a bottle. I alos remember driving 13 miles to take and collect my stepson from school for a couple of weeks when his mum went away. Then from when we were in the hostel, the day we moved in and the bloke being held with a machette to his throut, an old friend of my husbands taking me under her wing and a young bloke who kept getting nicked. After moving into the flat, almost feinting whilst building bunk beds, and feinting in tesco's a few weeks later. The horror of my old midwife turning up the day after Jodie was born and refusing to let her in and a memory of feeling pressured and closed in because my in-laws were here for the first 3 weeks after Jodie was born. OH and his dad redoing the garden and mil trying to help me but making me feel worse. You know there are photo's of my Nans 80th which was soon after Jason's 1st birthday but I don't remember it at all and all of the above memories are about 5-10 mins long. It's just something I felt I needed to post as a reminder to myself and so if I start to feel like this again I can see that it's not a new thing. Perhaps I should start to read my old diary and fill in a few gaps. Anyway off topic. We had a phonecall from the survayer yesterday who wanted to confirm how many flats were in our block coz the computor has it wrong surprise surprise. He also asked if I'd heard from (I think he sais EPS)? Which I haven't. Told him how I phoned HA but they haven't contacted him and asked loads of questions about when because health situation is so bad. He says he will ring again next week and if we still haven't heard from this company with a date I WILL hear from them 'about 10 seconds after getting off the phone' to him. So thats pritty good at least he has taken it seriously. Jodie lost her 3rd tooth on Monday, it has been wobbling for over a year and last night hubby and I went back to one of our old racing clubs with a view to starting up again. To be honest I'm a bit concerned about it because I was very ill when we raced before and he was so stuck on what was going on that he didn't notice. However things are very different now and he is checking everything with me and will give it up at the first sign of me not being right. He has also decided to go with the cheaper and more fun option of racing mini's instead of the high end expensive touring cars. We should be starting in a few weeks. Just him racing and me going along. Gives my mum a chance to spend an evening with the kids without them having to go round to her's. LOL I've just noticed one of the cats laying on his back begging for attention, he's just like having a toddler around.
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Post by gizmoracer on Apr 30, 2010 9:16:36 GMT
Feeling really sorry for myself today. The pain in my hips and back is getting worse, is now on both sides and I'm too much of a coward to go see the doc. Got a really nasty headache that I can't shift. Got lots to do today and don't want to face any of it. Probably just stressing over the kids having friends round tonight. I have to walk to school to get them but I can hardly stand up by school pick up time.
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Post by gizmoracer on Apr 30, 2010 19:22:44 GMT
Had a really good cry today, did wonders for my headache not. But in the lonmg run feeling loads better now. A big thank you to those of you who have put up with my paniked whinging today, it's really helped. I phoned the midwife only to be told by the receptionist if its an emergancy I have to go to the hospital. Hense the tears its just so frustrating when you can't ask for simple advice. But the midwife did call me back and confirmed that I probably do have SPD and told me to buy a support belt. She wasn't at all fazzed by me saying I'm waking up paralysed in the morning and by lunchtime it kills to sit, stand, walk, drive basically be alive. And no mention of physio, just that I will definatly have it til baby is born and it will either stay as bad as it is now or get so bad I may need crutches. Gee thanks for the help Anyway like I said had a damn good cry and feel loads better now. Can't get a support belt here so will have to order online and will then bring up the whole thing with the GP on the 11th at least he listens and understands me.
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Post by juppster on Apr 30, 2010 19:26:22 GMT
Hey Giz....glad you're feeling a little better after having a good cry..i always find this makes me feel better too!! Sorry you're suffering with the pain though, not nice and obviously not a lot of sympathy from the midwife xxx
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Post by Weeble on Apr 30, 2010 21:29:19 GMT
Poor you giz, never had it but understand it really hurts. Really push for the physio I have heard it is the recommended treatment. At least you have a friendly GP. Midwifes who would have them seems are lives mirror each other, we both had midwife run ins today
Hope you have a good weekend, any more news from HA or surveyor??
Kat
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