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Post by juppster on Feb 24, 2014 8:34:44 GMT
Hormones are definitely the work of the devil!! They can affect everything and make things seem 10 times worse than they are. Take it a minute, hour, morning, afternoon at a time...don't think too much in the future, try to stay in the here and now. Focus on looking after your poorly little one and everything else can wait xx
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Post by quantumrose on Feb 24, 2014 9:54:50 GMT
Thank you, such good advice x
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Post by monica on Feb 24, 2014 16:49:35 GMT
Hang on in there it will pass.
Joe advise is spot on. Also he very kind to yourself - try not to let urself get too stressed, do nice things for urself. Anything that will lift u is greatx
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Post by monica on Feb 24, 2014 16:49:52 GMT
Hang on in there it will pass.
Joe advise is spot on. Also he very kind to yourself - try not to let urself get too stressed, do nice things for urself. Anything that will lift u is greatx
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Post by quantumrose on Feb 24, 2014 18:28:11 GMT
Today has been better than I thought it might be. Still bad, but I've coped. I had a massive cry this morning, couldn't help it, I just couldn't go on pretending everythings ok, felt better after though. My partner was so lovely, I was honest with him for the first time about how scared I've been and how bad its been at times. He hadn't realised. He said he'd take the day off work so I could sleep but I dont want to give in to the desire to go to bed and shut out the world, so I said it was ok and that he should go to work. I missed him today...feel stupid for not taking him up on his offer, its just my crazy control freak side not wanting to relinquish responsibility or admit I need to rest. Being tired scares me, now that's weird!
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Post by juppster on Feb 24, 2014 21:03:07 GMT
It's not weird hun, it scares me a little too as for me it's a sign that I'm having a bit of a dip...but...sometimes it's your bodies way of telling you you need to rest. Well done for coping with today xx
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Post by quantumrose on Feb 25, 2014 15:47:57 GMT
Well, not quite sure where to start. Went to the docs today, my dream like state was freaking me out. She was jokey and kind at first. Then she said that PND can make you into a 'martyr'. Then she said that I was only breastfeeding my 1 year old 'this late on' because I was 'making up for lack of bonding'. Then she said that my baby was 'manky' because he had 'scratches on his face' (which is actually Eczema). All this washed over me, I took it on. I accepted that 'I wasn't coping' and needed medicating. I left feeling like shit. I love my baby, he's not manky and I am coping well considering.
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Post by quantumrose on Feb 26, 2014 9:23:00 GMT
I've caught the little ones tummy bug. Feel awful. Added to that I'm so angry with my partner. He's so good at emotional support but right now, in the mood I'm in, it feels like lip service. I always get the kids ready in the morning, with all that entails. I font think about it normally but this morning I was too busy being sick to manage. But he was asleep on the sofa till 8, having given the littlest cereal which he's tipped on the floor. My daughter was 30 mins late for school. Im left with such a terrible mess that I'm not sure if I can bear to go downstairs. Couldn't he have put just one load of washing on? Picked up the kids pyjamas? Made a small but clear space in the kitchen? This has really scared me because I can't let myself be sick. I want to say something but a large part of me is scared that if I do, he will withdraw the emotional support too, out of anger. This, I realise, is a running problem in our relationship and is probably a large contributing factor to my exhaustion. S horrible thing to think but one I must deal with once I'm not being sick!
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Post by juppster on Feb 26, 2014 9:53:51 GMT
Oh dear, poor you, sickness bugs are horrid. Your doctors choice of words sound very unprofessional to me! As long as you know you're coping and looking after your little ones then ignore those words! It sounds as though you really need to tell your partner you need some practical support as well as emotional...some men just don't realise how much of a difference these small things can make. Really hope you feel better soon xx
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Post by monica on Feb 26, 2014 21:12:13 GMT
How r u? Poor u with bug. That can make ur emotional state plummet too. Men are really from Mars! I think they see things completely differently. Maybe ask ur oh for practical support - set specific tasks.
Hugs to youx
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Post by quantumrose on Feb 27, 2014 9:42:59 GMT
Hi lovelies, I feel SO much better today. Like a cloud has lifted. Still a bit wobbly but much happier. Glad I didn't take medication, otherwise I would have contributed my mood to that! Although still not ruling it out...Onwards and upwards for now xx
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Post by juppster on Feb 27, 2014 13:23:48 GMT
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Post by quantumrose on Feb 27, 2014 14:45:28 GMT
Jo, I'm feeling ok, just trying to juggle tummy bug, brain fog and anxiety. Today hasn't been as good as I'd hoped. Trying not to give myself a hard time about it.
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Post by juppster on Feb 28, 2014 18:51:46 GMT
Sorry, I'm not sure why that came out as a sad face! It was supposed to be a happy face with lots of kisses!! x
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Post by monica on Feb 28, 2014 21:29:32 GMT
Hi
Glad things on the up. Take it easy or as much as you can. When I had pni being physically ill used to drag me down. What do u have planned for the weekend?
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