Having a twine, am I a horrid person?

[andrea1992]

My name is Andrea and I have just had a baby "Joey" 7weeks ago tomorrow!
I've came on here to get all my feelings out as I feel like I never get change to tell people how I feel.
When I was pregnant with joey everything was fine I was a huge whale that found it difficult to walk hehe, my partner already has 3children that live with us so I wasnt worried at all about parenting because if I was stuck he would know what to do, the only thing is I seem to be getting very irritated off him & his children at the minute I feel like whenever I clean the house they just mess it up again and don't help tidying or anything and it's hard to keep cleaning after them as joey need attention all the time, for example I cleaned the kitchen and the living room the landing and my bedroom I sat down for about an hour feeding joey when up to the loo and there was dishes and rubbish all over the landing from his son & daughters room, his son is 17 his youngest 12 and the oldest daughter 19, am I being a pain? I'm just finding it difficult I've already told him to tell them to bring there rubbish down and first clothes but he just says Al bring them down and he doesn't. I Had a c section with joey and I'm still not fully healed but it's hard to heal when I have to clean up after everyone. am I just being a horrible person?

[quantumrose]

Hi, you are absolutely not a horrid person! They should be helping you heal and rest by taking over the bulk of the chores.
Don't doubt you're in the right with this, could you maybe have a chat with your family and explain how youre feeling?
Let us know how you're getting on xx

[monica]

Hello and welcome

I completely agree with QR- you are not horrid at all. Just had enough of being taken for granted . You've got a newborn to look after which is exhausting in urself ; plus having ac section can make things doubly hard ( you should be taking things easier anyway).

I know you've tried but sit down again with ur oh . Try to get a plan with him re kids - perhaps reward then with something at the end of the week if they do certain jobs ?

In some cultures new mums don't lift a finger for a couple of months at least after giving birth - yet you're expected to run a household for 6 plus baby!!

Do keep talking to us - offloading can help hugelyx