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Post by Kirsty on Jul 8, 2016 22:46:45 GMT
Thanks Monica. Sorry x
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Post by monica on Jul 9, 2016 6:07:58 GMT
Don't apologise - these doubts worries are truly horrible, upsetting and very draining. It's really good you're getting them Putin paper do to speak.
what have you got planned for today? I love Bournemouth - haven't been there for yearsx
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Post by Kirsty on Jul 9, 2016 14:10:58 GMT
We are here for a cheerleading competition, my niece is a cheerleader and my sister is the coach we do this every year. We love it down here. First time with Sophia too which is nice. Have just come back to the hotel so Sophia can have a nap and me too hopefully lol! Mum is having Sophia later so my husband and i can go have a drink together. Are you having a nice weekend? Xx
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Post by Kirsty on Jul 9, 2016 20:54:13 GMT
To top it all off we are having major problems with my husbands ex!!! Argh!!
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Post by monica on Jul 10, 2016 11:11:51 GMT
Oh no what's going on with ur hubbys ex? Not what you need.
I hope you enjoy the rest of your break. It sounds like fun. Just go with the flow.
My weekends going ok although my kids are winding me up. The eldest has two months off as he's finished GCSEs -he can't be bothered to do anything and it winds me up. Grr... Must try and do somethingx
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Post by Kirsty on Jul 10, 2016 13:07:42 GMT
She contacted me saying that they are sleeping together (it's not true) so it's caused a massive argument and divide in my family at the moment. She says she done it to hurt me because she hates her life and I have everything she wants! Urgh! So anxious and frustrated today.
Awh no that's not good. I hope he helps you out soon Monica. That would wind me up too. Is he going to college? X
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Post by monica on Jul 10, 2016 20:10:57 GMT
What a horrible thing to do . Clearly she has serious problems but even though it's stress forvyou you know what she says is utter rubbish. Wow cheerleading is a serious sport! Sounds like fun. How was today? Are you back home?
My day did improve . Kids and I visited Oxford and it was lovely. Eldests mood only improved towards the end of the trip and he admitted he'd enjoyed himself. I hope he gets a job soon as he needs something to focus onx
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Post by Kirsty on Jul 10, 2016 22:24:48 GMT
She did it to me when I was in labour too would you believe!!!!!
Yeah he has twin boys from her so it's all a massive problem right now. She has stopped me from seeing them now because of all this! Is so hard! Looks like we are going to court.
Awh glad its improved for you! That sounds nice Monica. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you that he does find something soon.
Xx
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Post by monica on Jul 11, 2016 18:13:57 GMT
Oh no that's so sad for all of you . Hopefully the Family court will see what's going on and resolve this but I know they rarely work quickly.... I know it's hard when anyone splits up but for the sake of the kids it's better to keep things amicable.
How r u? X
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Post by Kirsty on Jul 12, 2016 8:01:27 GMT
I'm ok thanks Monica, it's been a really rough time. I have just found out that my husband has a gambling addiction and we are in trouble with debts now. I'm devastated. My whole Marriage has been a lie and I don't know what to do! I'm going to stick by him so he can get help and we will fix it together but I just don't know how to feel. I'm anxious as anything today. This is going to slow down my recovery isn't it!!!! Why is life so crap right now this isn't how it was supposed to be when we started a family. Truely heartbroken right now. Sorry to go on but this is the only Place i can really talk! Xx
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Post by monica on Jul 12, 2016 10:23:29 GMT
Glad you can be open here - I've always found that too.
I'm so sorry - I can only begin to imagine how hurt you must feel for so many reasons. How did you find out? What is he saying? Does he want to get help?
As betrayed as you must feel gambling is an addiction like any other - there are problem many reasons why he does it and why he couldn't control it. He probably felt ashamed and that's why he did it so well.
However it's there out in the open and hopefully he can move forward. It will take take time for you to get over the shock and build up the trust but it is possible .
I was just thinking today how shit seems to hit the fan in spectacular style. Hopefully it's onwards and upwards. Big big hugs - you're such a wonderful girl who is stronger than you think. Keep talking x
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Post by monica on Jul 12, 2016 12:18:44 GMT
Sorry my typing is rubbish today One sentence should read Why he hid it so well.
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Post by Kirsty on Jul 12, 2016 18:09:32 GMT
It has got to the point where he couldn't hide it anymore due to the debts being so high! He ended up telling my mum and then telling me. It's just been such a hard day! We are hoping the debt management scheme will help us but your looking at the next 10 years paying it all off and then after that our credit score is shot to shit! I'm just truely heartbroken. I don't want to end up hating him because of this because I love him and want out Marrage to work I'm just so so bloody angry and disappointed I never thought we would be in this situation, I am very careful with money. What if I lose everything I have worked for and then lose my husband? He said he keeps thinking that I'll be better off without him and he wants to crash his car etc! I'm devestated Monica. I don't feel strong but thank you for saying. My mood has been at an all time Low again today and the thoughts have been going crazy! Iv got hypnotherapy tomorrow so hoping it will calm me down a bit. Thank you for listening xx
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Post by monica on Jul 12, 2016 19:56:46 GMT
It does sound like a nightmare. Could you go to citizens advice bureau as well? Is there any chance your husbands credit rating could be affected only? It's very overwhelming day for you - anyone would feel the way you do. Hope the hypnotherapy helps. www.gamcare.org.uk/www.nhs.uk/Livewell/addiction/Pages/gamblingaddiction.aspxHope you don't mind I found these links - they might help Monica
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Post by Kirsty on Jul 12, 2016 20:53:05 GMT
Thank you for the links and the advice Monica. Really appreciate it. It's been extremely hard. Just feel there is no way out at the moment. So hard!
Thanks again
Kirsty xx
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