Post by clarabeth on Sept 14, 2018 9:49:00 GMT
Hi,
I’m a first time mum with a gorgeous 6 week old baby boy who was very much planned and wanted (it took us quite a while), since the birth I’ve just been feeling like I’m not getting any of this right, I’m irritable and short tempered, and have started to bicker with my oh which make me miserable.
For a bit of background, the end of my pregnancy didn’t quite go to plan, I had extra scans due to bleeding, a short hospital stay with hydronephrosis and infection and was eventually induced due to cholestasis , throughout the pregnancy I’d not wanted induction and had pictured a pool birth. The induction didn’t work properly and after a three day period I was given an emergency section. I accepted this as I know birth rarely goes to plan. Since coming home my little one struggles to sleep, suffers horrible reflux, wind and colic due to cmpa, the poor little guy is on prescription formula, gaviscon and ranitidine. His level of discomfort meant he would cry inconsolably unpredictably, which made me nervous about taking him anywhere (we had a very stressful trip to Tesco) so I would sit in the house trying my best to soothe him. He was breastfed initially but I ended up stopping after a week as he constantly seemed hungry and distressed, I feel guilty and like a failure for not keeping up with it.
My partner and I were initially doing a shift pattern arrangement so one of us could always get some sleep as he would scream if put in his Moses and would cry inconsolably overnight. Through working with the gp and hv we trialled different things and now medicines are in place and helping ease the symptoms. Despite this my little one still experiences colicky symptoms and reflux meaning he sleeps very little, with no routine and two hourly feeds. As my other half has insomnia, he finds it impossible to sleep in the same room as us, so we’ve not shared a bed for six weeks.
We’re bickering about stupid things and I feel as though I’m constantly being negative about my little ones sleeping/feeding and that I should just be able to get on with it and enjoy his baby stage, instead of feeling frustrated and guilty 😞 every slight problem makes me over react hugely and then I just end up tearful and over sensitive. Initially blamed this on lack of sleep and hormones, feel embarrassed and weak for feeling like this and know I need to just get on with it, but feel useless and ineffective, sorry for huge post xx hoping to see if anyone’s felt the same
I’m a first time mum with a gorgeous 6 week old baby boy who was very much planned and wanted (it took us quite a while), since the birth I’ve just been feeling like I’m not getting any of this right, I’m irritable and short tempered, and have started to bicker with my oh which make me miserable.
For a bit of background, the end of my pregnancy didn’t quite go to plan, I had extra scans due to bleeding, a short hospital stay with hydronephrosis and infection and was eventually induced due to cholestasis , throughout the pregnancy I’d not wanted induction and had pictured a pool birth. The induction didn’t work properly and after a three day period I was given an emergency section. I accepted this as I know birth rarely goes to plan. Since coming home my little one struggles to sleep, suffers horrible reflux, wind and colic due to cmpa, the poor little guy is on prescription formula, gaviscon and ranitidine. His level of discomfort meant he would cry inconsolably unpredictably, which made me nervous about taking him anywhere (we had a very stressful trip to Tesco) so I would sit in the house trying my best to soothe him. He was breastfed initially but I ended up stopping after a week as he constantly seemed hungry and distressed, I feel guilty and like a failure for not keeping up with it.
My partner and I were initially doing a shift pattern arrangement so one of us could always get some sleep as he would scream if put in his Moses and would cry inconsolably overnight. Through working with the gp and hv we trialled different things and now medicines are in place and helping ease the symptoms. Despite this my little one still experiences colicky symptoms and reflux meaning he sleeps very little, with no routine and two hourly feeds. As my other half has insomnia, he finds it impossible to sleep in the same room as us, so we’ve not shared a bed for six weeks.
We’re bickering about stupid things and I feel as though I’m constantly being negative about my little ones sleeping/feeding and that I should just be able to get on with it and enjoy his baby stage, instead of feeling frustrated and guilty 😞 every slight problem makes me over react hugely and then I just end up tearful and over sensitive. Initially blamed this on lack of sleep and hormones, feel embarrassed and weak for feeling like this and know I need to just get on with it, but feel useless and ineffective, sorry for huge post xx hoping to see if anyone’s felt the same