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Post by muzzpat on Oct 14, 2005 9:36:53 GMT
Sun?? We live on Edinburgh in Scotland, so none of that up here now! Its pitch black when I leave for work and dark by 6pm! Unfortunately we don't have a garden yet, saving for a house with one, but thats a year off, so still need other ways to help her just now, otherwise she would spend a lot of time in the back garden.
My other fear is it is now very wintery up here so encouraging her to get out is fine, but its going to be bitterly cold, so its not going to help if she gets cold/flu. Also I dont want Aidan out too much in the cold, tho he never seems cold with all his layers
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Post by natalie1985 on Oct 14, 2005 9:38:16 GMT
I know what you mean. Our main day is sunday to. My hubby works mon-fri, then has a full day of cricket on saturdays, so sundays are our catch up day. We live with my folks, so i have that advantage of me and mum doing the household work together. We are saving up for our own house, so we live in a seperate part of their house. Babies are very demanding. My son when he was younger never wanted to be put down, so it was VERY hard to do anything. It'll get easier as they get older. Mine is 10months and he can play with toys, sit by hinself, crawl and loves kids shows. So they do eventually begin to ammuse themselves. Which then leaves you time to do other things.
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Post by natalie1985 on Oct 14, 2005 9:40:11 GMT
Sorry, i didn't realise the season difference! We're in spring at the moment! Yeah you don't want them getting sick!
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Post by muzzpat on Oct 14, 2005 9:43:11 GMT
Yes Aidan is the same he is very advanced for his age, he will sit and play, but only at certain times and I don't think she has mastered the art of knowing when this is. The other thing is because she is tired and feeling down when he does ammuse himself she sits and does nothing and is bored.
I just wish I didn't have to work and then she wouldn't feel like this, as we'd be able to do lots of things together. I guess the main battle is accepting things won't change over night, I wish they would tho!
c'mon the lottery numbers that would certainly help!
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Post by muzzpat on Oct 14, 2005 9:44:43 GMT
No I don't want them getting ill but need to find a balance between that and getting them out the house, but not in the car. She always takes the car and it doesn't help her exercise. A trip to oz would be just the ticket ;o)
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Post by natalie1985 on Oct 14, 2005 9:46:38 GMT
oh they would wouldn't they! I wish! Things will start getting better soon, especially once she sees her gp. It will help getting everything off her chest and getting some help. I'm on anti d's, and they are helping enormously. She'll figure out which options are best for her, but i do suggest she comes here for a visit this place and all the women here are fantastic. It's a comfort knowing you're not going mad!
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Post by natalie1985 on Oct 14, 2005 9:47:23 GMT
Yeah come here and visit the beaches! It's lovely and sunnny
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Post by muzzpat on Oct 14, 2005 9:58:07 GMT
Yup I agree with that, definately shows she isn't alone and its not something to be embarassed about. I would love to come visit, we both have friends over there I'd love to meet, plus it would really help my hockey career as you guys are so much better at it!
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Post by natalie1985 on Oct 14, 2005 10:01:42 GMT
Why not. When Aidan's a bit older and finances are better you should plan a family holiday together! Something to look forward to. Me and Brett want to go for a weeks holiday in the snow when Peter is at least 3! Bretts never seen the snow, so we though it'd be good for himself and Peter to experience it for the first time together. Plus we can't wait to get into the family holidays, lots of fun!
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Post by muzzpat on Oct 14, 2005 10:20:33 GMT
well we will get plenty snow i'm sure, can't wait to get aidan out in the snow.Australia is very expensive for us to go to, its cheaper to come here for you. Something I will get round to sometime. better start saving up the pennies!!! he he
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Post by natalie1985 on Oct 14, 2005 10:24:34 GMT
Everything revolves around money doesn't it?? I forgot to mention before, if your partner doesn't want to go onto anti d's, a natural anti depressant is St Johns Wort. I don't know if she's heard of it, but i used to work as a pharmacy assistant, so i knew alot of people who took this, and they found it very effective with treating anxiety, depression etc. The only thing is, if you take this, you can't take prescribed anti d's and if you take anti d's, you can't take St Johns Wort as they aren't good to mix together. Hope this offers her another avenue to look at.
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Post by muzzpat on Oct 14, 2005 10:26:58 GMT
I don't think she has heard of it, but I printed off the section on the forum regarding alternative medicinces, perhaps try them first, but its up to her.
thanks for that though!!!
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Post by natalie1985 on Oct 14, 2005 10:49:47 GMT
Well a BIG goodluck with the gp and health visitor. Make sure you keep us updated! Or even see if your partner wants to come here and post, we're all here to listen and support each other. Take care of yourself and family. I'm off to spend time with hubby, then sleep before little one wakes up! (His 6th tooth is breaking through so we're up most of the night!) Good Night. Natalie
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Post by muzzpat on Oct 14, 2005 10:53:35 GMT
I will do thanks again for all your help and advice. Hope you get a good nights sleep! Christ its only lunch time here he he
Night!
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Post by Charles471 on Feb 1, 2006 9:40:58 GMT
I have read that the herb St John's Wort can work as an anti-depressant.
Before trying anything of this nature though, please read up thoroughly on the subject. Just like everything else, you need to find out if it has side effects, and how they may effect you. Please do not just believe the blurb that the vendor gives you.
Good luck. I hope everythings improves for you.
Oh, also - when with your son - make a show of how every good thing he gets from you comes from his mother as well. Teach him that his parents are one team, not two separate people who treat him differently. Otherwise he will learn to manipulate you against each other, which will probably make your situation worse.
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