lab
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Post by lab on Aug 1, 2007 21:09:33 GMT
Thanks for all your kind wishes, everyone.... We had a lovely weekend, and the visit to my wife was very good for her and my son; she really felt something for him for the first time in a very long while - she's called since to say she was sobbing after we left because she wasn't expecting to feel anything. I'm taking him back tomorrow to see her again, and I'm really glad she's doing ok with him. I know it's a slow process, but I feel like a great deal has moved between her and our son, which is wonderful. As for me & her, well, that's clearly a side issue right now (!), but I guess we'll have to see how it goes. She told me today how sorry she was that everything happened the way it did, and that it was all tied in with escaping him. I just have to figure out for myself if I can come to trust her again. I think maybe I can speak to her shrink, and hopefully come to appreciate just how hard it is inside the head of someone with this dreadful condition. I don't know.
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Post by helenr on Aug 2, 2007 21:47:45 GMT
Hi Lab,
I'm so pleased there has been progess, the fact that she recognises feelings for your son is a huge step forward. I remember very clearly the first time I felt anything for C.J. other than indifference - he was 8 mnths old.
Its hard rto give you advice on your relationship with your wife, on the one hand I understand her reasons for what she did, and on the other I understand how hurt and betrayed you must feel.
Give your son a big hug and kiss from all of us here, love and hugs x
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Post by lab on Aug 3, 2007 6:03:55 GMT
I had another visit with my wife and son last night - she's doing really well. Right now, I'm feeling really positive; she's come closer to him in two days than in all of the last year.
The priory is going to try a day release for her at the weekend, we think.
All known appendages crossed!
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Post by yoyo on Aug 3, 2007 7:20:35 GMT
Lab - that's great The road ahead will be ups and downs but remember the ups - they get you through the downs. Will be lovely to have your wife out at the weekends Great news - tell her we're dead proud of her
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Post by Scarlet on Aug 3, 2007 14:48:33 GMT
Lab, I am so pleased to hear that your wife is making progress. Like Yoyo says though the road to (full) recovery is far from smooth so be prepared for the ups and downs, mood swings, and no doubt some scarring from her experience. Perhaps you could mention this site to her when she leaves Priory as I'm sure she'll be in need of some support.
Keep us updated
Scarlet X
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Post by helenr on Aug 4, 2007 20:55:07 GMT
Hi lab,
keeping eerything crossed for you!
love and hugs x
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Post by lab on Aug 6, 2007 23:13:20 GMT
Well, the weekend was pretty darn good. She's doing a wonderful job. Like you ladies say (and I don't doubt) there's going to be a lot of downs to go with the ups. But I'm so very, very proud of her.
She's allowed to stay overnight tomorrow. Don't really know what's happening between her & me, but it'll be wonderful for her to give our son a bath for the first time in months, and put him to bed. Baby steps! (no pun intended!)
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Post by Jay on Aug 7, 2007 6:21:38 GMT
Hi Lab I have been following your thread. It is nice to read this last post of yours ***Well, the weekend was pretty darn good*** it must have felt good to have written this. Don't forget YOU are doing so well too. None of this is easy. Keep plodding on, things will get better. Jay xx
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Post by sianyc on Aug 7, 2007 14:46:11 GMT
Hi Lab
Glad your weekend went well and hope tonight is ok
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Post by Johanna on Aug 8, 2007 6:24:18 GMT
Hi Lab
I stumbled across your posting the other night, God, I thought we aere having a bad time!!!!1
My best wishes to you and your family, you're clearly a wonderful man......
Hang in there, thinking of you all and sending you prayers....
Johanna
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Post by gizmoracer on Aug 18, 2007 14:55:01 GMT
Hi Lab
How are things going? Please update when you get a chance.
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Post by rachelk on Dec 30, 2007 15:03:00 GMT
Lab, Also new to this site and don't have much to add but wanted to say that the thread attracted my attention because I also feel desperate to run away and can understand why your wife saw this man as an escape. As some of the others have said, depression does strange things to your head and, in my case, it is making me want to leave my husband - not because I don't love him, but because I feel his life (and the life of my kids) would be better without me.
You sound like such a nice guy, just wanted you to know that this desire to flee is something others feel too.
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Post by nishka on Jan 5, 2008 17:30:35 GMT
Hi Lab
Just been reading through your posts. Wow, I am so full of admiration for you. You sound like a truly wonderful caring person and I think your wife is so lucky to have someone as caring as you around allowing and willing her to get better.
How are things now?
I really hope she can recover from this. Its a terrible illness but she can recover with time.
Thinking of all of you, hope you and your son are okay x
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