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Post by stevensmummy on Nov 12, 2007 21:10:33 GMT
Hi, just a quick thankyou really. You give me so much support and I really appreciate it. Thankyou!
And a question. Have you had councelling? what is it like? I am afraid to go that far. I am considering starting a thread for advice. I'm so scared of asking for help. Its like I cant admit it out loud. Does it really help?
xx
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Post by Scarlet on Nov 13, 2007 8:47:33 GMT
Morning Sarah,
I hope today is a good one for you hun. I had some psychological support when I was at my worst and in hospital, but to be honest I was so acutely ill that I didn't benefit from it, because I was too wrapped up with thinking I was losing it, that I couldn't actually put my fingers on any issues.
However during recovery when going through ups and downs, I think counselling can be enormously beneficial, and I wish I'd have had counselling during this time, to perhaps talk through some of the things I felt contributed to my PNI. So yes I wholeheartedly believe counselling can help speed up recovery.
Never admit asking for help hun..Is there a possibility you could be referred?, if so I would definitely go for it ~ you are at a stage where I think it will help you with your recovery, and maybe get you there quicker.
Here whenever you need to talk.
Hugs
Scarlet X
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Post by winegirl on Nov 13, 2007 18:23:33 GMT
Hi Sarah
Just wanted to say that I never had counselling hun but really wish I had. It is really beneficial for the long term of the illness and any other issues that need sorting. I really think you should conside it babes.
Always listening mate x
WG x
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Post by Scarlet on Nov 15, 2007 12:00:32 GMT
How are you doing today hun. Have you heard anything about the move yet?
Scarlet X
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Post by stevensmummy on Nov 15, 2007 16:01:23 GMT
Hi,
been a bit hectis what with getting blood tests and stuff, going to see the doc 2 nite at 5 so will update on the results as soon as I get a chance.
Lady about the houe phoned 2day, meeting her at 2.15 2moro. Need 2 take with us the rent till end of month, and if we like it we sign agreement and get the keys there and then. Scary! Only thing si its got no carpets at all. We both said we cant afford the outlay at this time of year 2 carpet the whole house. So she offered this scheme they do. Its £22 a month for 5 yrs. They carpet/floor the house at low cost. All done by them and its pretty simple. I thought not bad really thats about £1320 if i can count. Its 2 bed, bathroon, toilet, kitchen and sitting room, with upstairs so hallway, landing and stair. Does that sound reasonable? Only thing is if we take it I need to get choice of carpets, I'm not having horrible colours. What do you think? I get the details 2moro but from what I have said u reckon thats good or what?
Cheers for everything, be in touch as soon as I hear details. Keep your fingers and toes crossed for me girls!
xx
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Post by monica on Nov 15, 2007 16:08:08 GMT
Hi
All the best for tonight. Good luck with the house. I think the carpet scheme sounds pretty reasonable. I think you'd pay that amount or more at a carpet shop and obvyously you don't have to shell out the whole amount in one go. Let us knwo what you think.
Lvoe
Monica
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Post by winegirl on Nov 15, 2007 20:18:54 GMT
I think it sounds reasonable. I recently spent 200 quid on a cheap carpet just to go over my living room floor (which is tiny), so if you get all that for your mony then I think you have done well!
WG x
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Post by Scarlet on Nov 16, 2007 8:40:00 GMT
Sarah,
Like the others said, I think that it's a reasonable price for the carpets, especially if it's the whole house. Are they going to give you a choice of colour/pile? and what about the kitchen floor will that be laminated, or have tiles, or washable carpet tiles?
It's great that you are getting the keys today.
What did they say about the blood tests, and when do you get the results hun.
Let us know.
Hugs
Scarlet X
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Post by Scarlet on Nov 21, 2007 8:54:51 GMT
Sarah hun?
How are you doing ?, are you in the process of moving house. Let us know how you are when you get the chance.
Love and hugs
Scarlet X
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Post by stevensmummy on Nov 22, 2007 8:50:28 GMT
Hi girls,
Very hectic so very little time to do anything other than sleep lol.
We took the house and now have the keys. Bit of a case of one disaster after another. There are problems. The floor in the downstairs toilet is stinking. There was apparently a dog shut in there and she had 15 puppies in there the poor little thing. So its covered in god knows what! They are lifting the floor and outting in another one apoparently. It looks like some of the pee, etc run out under the door and settled at the front door. So its wet and stinking there too. What will be our room all humpy on the floor boeards. Some are dropped about an inch in places. So they are lifting it to take up packing to see why. The kitchen has ben refloored, well by that they only just put hardboard over the initial floor, it was warped from a leak. They made a terrible job, all bumpy and with sharp edges, so I'm going to get the joiner to see to that too. The taps in the toilet are the wrong way round, ie hot and cold. I couldnt understand why there was no hot water, its was cold i was running, even tho it has the red spot. Steven could have burnt his hands on that so I wasnt happy about that.
The carpets. Complete disaster! We got to see a sample, dont get to choose colours, its the same one throughout the house and you just get what you are given its apparently neutral. But it was cheap crap. Felt lined stuff you could split peas thro, and hard and scratchy. So we're doing carpets ourself. Have all but the kitchen and bathrooms organised. So feel less stressed about that.
The woman that showed us round was a real cow this time. Wen we started to complain about things and point out faults she got real nasty. I got the counciler to represent us and put forward problems. I have since found alot more and am planning comtacting the woman myself today as there is no word from the joiners and we cant move in till the floors are put right.
One dilema sloved to maek way for another. I feel less stressed than b4 although we arent organised or painted yet, we'll get there eventually. prob wont be around for a few days but thanks you for all the well wishes. Just wish me luck for the next stage, lol.
Hope you guys are all well. Have a nice week and weekend if I dont make it back b4 then!
xxx
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Post by winegirl on Nov 22, 2007 20:01:36 GMT
Hi Sarah
Hope you managed to get it all sorted asap! Best of luck with it and we will speak to you when you have more time!
Thinking of you
WG x
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Post by stevensmummy on Nov 25, 2007 7:58:44 GMT
Hi,
Thanks for the thoughts WG, I think we neded them. The waters have settled slightly and we are now planning makin g a formal complaint thro the counciler, but after all the work has been done. The woman who is organising everything, Lynne something or another, is a real cow and treats you like shit now that we have actually taken the house. But nevermind we'll get there.
The stress of moving is taking its toll. i'm short with everyone esp the kids and I cant really sleep. It doesnt help that we've all been bad with the cold and babies with colds just arent fun. he always wants mummy and of couse my head spins constantly and I get stressed out. I keep getting stressed at the lack of work we've done, but the slow rate of movement with the floors is holding us up anyway so I guess its not all that big a deal if I'm not finnished painting on monday. tues I reckon they come so heres hoping.
Stuarts growing so fast and begining to come so much more independant. Hes about 5 and half months now so its getting easier. Still wakes up to 4 times in the night tho. I've given in and he sleeps with us after he wakes the first time. I'm thinking imay just put his cot next to our bed with the side off when in the new house. There is space for it. Any of you done that b4? I'm told it works well when breast feeding as you can just shift them back and forth. Any advice?
I'm going to go have a rest and a cup of tea b4 steven wakes. Love to you all xx
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Post by winegirl on Nov 25, 2007 10:35:39 GMT
Crikey Sarah it is all go for you guys isnt it! You should definately put your feet up when you can!
I am not sure about putting the cot nxt to the bed. My LO has been in hert own room since she was 4 months old as I wanted her to be used to being on her own in her room, and it seems to have worked. But every child is different, and I have to say if I was getting up 4 times in the night I would want the convenince of having bub with grabbing distance!
I hope the move gets easier for you hun and is over quickly so you can start to relax a bit x
WG x
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Post by stevensmummy on Nov 26, 2007 8:40:19 GMT
I'm knackered! We carried on till 7.30 last night then came home and put the boys to bed so I'm really tired. The fridge is a bit like mother hubbards so we'll have to go past asda 2nite. I'm not going to buy much it just means I've all the more to move. I'll just get essentials. Well I def need them anyway, lol I've not even got any butter!
Cheers WG re the advice, I think Ill start a thread so see if anyone had advice. I think its coz hes been so ill that he still gets up so much and he feels the cold rather alot. He also wakes easily and I'm afraid if I put him in with steven he'll wake from steven as he has night terrors and often screams out of him. I may also wake steven getting up to stuart all the time. So I'm not sure. I'll see what ppl think.
Better get on hectic day ahead. Let you know how it goes
Love and hugs x
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Post by Scarlet on Nov 26, 2007 8:51:51 GMT
Morning Sarah, It's all go isn't it for you hun. Are you in your new house yet, or just in the process of packing up your things? Did you get that skip hun *winks* I have my little one in the cot near my bed as he wakes up about 4 times in the night as well. He's been next to me all the time, and it's definitely easier that way. My eldest actually shared a bed with me until he was toddling, it was much easier to breastfeed him when he was smaller. I personally would find it difficult if my baby was in a room on his own, as I like him close to me, and I don't have trundle to another room everytime he cries, besides we don't have the space anyway.
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