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Post by southerngirl on Dec 27, 2007 11:25:28 GMT
Thanks for all the support. I am through Christmas in one piece Still feeling a bit low but had a really good chat with hubby last night and told him that I have dealt with a lot in my own head just recently and I think he understands more now. I have tried everything with daughter and it is attention seeking as when everyone runs round her she is fine, if we give attention to anyone else she kicks off. Oh well, we will get through it, just really hard to deal with right now. Liz x
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Post by sianyc on Dec 27, 2007 11:49:23 GMT
Hi LIz, I'm one of 3 girls and 2 of us pushed my mum to the limit on many many occasions
She may feel grown up at 16 but the reality is that she can't process things like an adult and she's probably having a hard time dealing with all the changes in the family recently.
Hang in there Liz, I was definately much nicer by 17 :-)
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Post by Bobyn on Dec 27, 2007 18:58:19 GMT
Hey Liz, I know I was a grotty teenager and it was mainly for attention, hang on in there it does get better. Teenagers all think the world should evolve around them so I'm sure you're not alone in your dilemma, not that it makes it any easier for you to deal with. I'm glad you've talked to Pete and you have his support again, and you know how much you're loved by all your children so just remember that through any bad days with the 16 year old. She does love you really, but we always take out our frustrations on those we love the most don't we?! xx
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Post by winegirl on Dec 27, 2007 20:06:47 GMT
Hi Liz
I was the worlds WORST teenager, and I am not exaggerating! From about 15 - 17 years old I was dreadful, but then one day woke up to the real world and started to treat my parents with a bit of respect! I am sure your daughter will do exactly the same.
Well done on getting through xmas and coming out the other side! You are truly amazing to do it with all on your plate!
WG x
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Post by southerngirl on Jan 9, 2008 19:35:35 GMT
Sorry I havent been around but lots of things have happened here. My 16 year old decided to cause a little too much hassle and it has ended up with her moving out. She was supposed to stay at my dads but my niece has stuck her nose in and said she can stay with her as she doesnt like it at my dads. She wouldnt like it as nobody will run after her, my niece has given her what she wants so I have given up. It sounds awful but my life is so much easier. I am still getting the odd blip but it goes down again really quickly. I actually feel like I am moving forward again. I also feel normal !!!!! Pete and I are getting on so much better, he seems to be able to support me when I need it perfectly. I think without the stress of my daughter I can really concentrate on myself again. I have also decided to have a swift career change. I am now an Organiser for Ann Summers It is something I know I can do and I have a great Unit Organiser who will support me all the way. This means Pete can do the odd evenings when I am not doing parties so I can really get back into a life of my own. One thing I am pleased about is that if my daughter hadnt gone to my dads then I wouldnt have got back in touch with my oldest son. Anyway, off to watch my soaps now. Will get on here a bit more often to post rather than just read. Liz x
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Post by cheshire on Jan 9, 2008 20:40:37 GMT
Hi Liz, Glad to hear you and P are getting on well and that you feel a bit more like yourself againx Anne Summers - got a catalogue or website for us to browse Hx
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Post by Scarlet on Jan 10, 2008 8:22:47 GMT
Hiya Liz,
I went to a few Ann Summers parties in the past. Good on you girl, go get em!!! I hope you seel loads.
Glad you are feeling better hun with less stress these days. Keep in touch.
Hugs
Scarlet X
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Post by Scarlet on Jan 10, 2008 17:33:59 GMT
Liz don't know if you have read the weight loss thread lately, but a few of us have joined this site www.gyminee.com/look us up if you have the time to join I'm determined to lose a bit if it kills me ;D Scarlet X
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Post by Bobyn on Jan 10, 2008 17:38:07 GMT
Hi Liz, Ann Summers parties sound like great fun, you'll have to let us know how you get on with that. I'd be far to coy to do it myself - but I bet you'll enjoy trying out the merchanise in the interests of business only of course! I'm sorry to hear about your daughter but glad to hear you sounding so positive. Love, Bobyn x
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Post by southerngirl on Jan 22, 2008 22:14:56 GMT
Well I am still here but having a really busy time right now so not on here as often as I was. I am still full on for the Awareness Weekend so have been keeping ideas on that flowing I finally feel that I am getting my life back. Yes the meds have helped a lot but so has being able to come on here when I needed to talk. I dont know what I would have been like now if I didnt have this place. I am more determined than ever to try and make more people sit up and take notice of PNI even if I dont get onto this forum as often. I feel guilty that after all this place has done I am not on here so much but I am using my time to build up my Ann Summers business and even went on a course to be a Unit Organiser today ( manager) I would never have done this a year ago. Doing parties for women also gives me good access directly to women who may have suffered too and so I can spread the word about this forum and the charity there too. Am just rambling on talking rubbish now lol. Just wanted to show that I am here and that I will never leave my diary behind as it is such a big opart of my recovery to me. Liz x
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Post by winegirl on Jan 22, 2008 22:17:41 GMT
Hi Liz
Great to hear from you! The Ann Summers course sounds great! I have never been to an Ann Summers party but i can imagine they are a right hoot, and you are right, it may be a good place to connect with other women who may have suffered PNI!
Glad you are still all up for the awareness weekend! Try to remember to find some time to chill out too when you can!
Take Care
WG x
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Post by southerngirl on Jan 22, 2008 22:48:31 GMT
I have had more chill out times in the last few weeks than I have in ages. Actually had a 'real' drink ( several actually)and really enjoyed it. Ann Summers parties are brilliant fun to go to so anyone who needs a lift then go for it. I just feel so much stronger now, in fact stronger than I have for years. It just seems like if I can get through PNI with my marriage intact and my family still happy then I can do anything. It is the hardest thing I have ever dealt with in my life and has shown me how much deeper I go as a real person, not the one everyone thinks I should be. Liz x
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Post by gizmoracer on Jan 22, 2008 23:13:23 GMT
Hi Liz I wondered what had happened to you, glad things are generally looking up for you, I hope your relationship with your daughter gets better now your not in each others pockets so much.
Hows the Ann Summers going? Sounds like your having great fun. I have been asked to do partys for my website to, but I have never been to an ann summers before and because we are so similar I could do with going to one to know what to do. So for the time being I will just have to plod along with the online shop only.
Can I be really nosey and ask how many children you have got, all I know is 'mum to lots' but the more I read about you the more of a veteran to all this parenting thing you seem to be. (Not trying to make you sound old by the way).
Take care.
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Post by southerngirl on Jan 23, 2008 9:34:37 GMT
Have got 10 in total. Parties sound a great idea. Can send you a rough guide to what to do if you fancy it. I am still here and reading when I can though, I will get on here more often as soon as I get into a routine of some sort. Am doing lots of geting life in order at the moment and realising that life can actually be good. Liz x
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Post by gizmoracer on Jan 24, 2008 9:28:54 GMT
Thanks Liz that would be great, I really don't know where to start. 10 kids omg I know who to ask next time I have a mummy problem I would have loved a big family but think I will stick with my 2 and wait for friends to want babysitters instead.
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