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Post by Scarlet on Nov 2, 2007 12:19:37 GMT
Liz what a gorgeous family you have... I'm from a large family as well, not quite as big as yours though...well done hun, you are doing a fab job and soon your PNI will be history ~ have no fear.
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Post by southerngirl on Nov 2, 2007 18:29:43 GMT
Well somehow I am holding it together here. My 16 year old went to see the others earlier and ended up being told to stay away by the police. My ex is a joke. There is so much history here its unbelievable. It seems my ex calls the police and lies and gets them to turn up straight away yet when I was getting beaten black and blue by ex they took hours. So much for justice in this country. pete is at work and I could really do with a hug. I feel like all the old stuff is starting again and am scared it will push me back down again. I am trying to tell myself that my ex cannot push me down again and that I will stay strong but its hard. I have made an appointment to see a solicitor on Monday so will see what I can do then. I know that I will get it thrown back at me that I sent the kids up there to live and that I didnt turn up at court. This is where I will have to admit openly to the PNI. Although I have only just started taking something I did see my dr just after the kids went up there so can prove there was a problem then. Just shows that PNI can wreck everything by taking away your control of your thoughts and actions. Lets just hope that I can work through this without slipping back as I feel like I have come so far. Liz x
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Post by winegirl on Nov 2, 2007 20:14:43 GMT
Hi Liz
Think you are doing the best thing by making all this legal, and I realy hope you get the results you want. We are behing you all the way mate x
Winegirl p.s. received that thing in the post today, thanks xxx will let you know how I get on.
Sending you big hugs (())
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Post by southerngirl on Nov 2, 2007 20:20:06 GMT
Well if you need talking through it just shout lol. Thanks for your support, it really does mean a lot. Liz x
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Post by winegirl on Nov 2, 2007 20:27:01 GMT
No worries hun, and I prob will need talkig through it! Prob pm you over the weekend x
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Post by southerngirl on Nov 4, 2007 7:51:24 GMT
Own up, who told my son sleep is not good !!!!!!!! Pete and I look like Zombies today, he didnt get in from work until almost 1 and Peanut woke up at just after 6 for the day. He was also awake about 4 times during the night. Oh well, it can only get better. Am still feeling OK. Still dont have much interest in things around me but I am getting there. The main thing I found was feeling like crying all the time and that has pretty much gone. I think I have come to terms with everything that has happened over the last few years and am looking at ways to move on. Liz x
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Post by winegirl on Nov 4, 2007 19:56:12 GMT
Glad you are feeling o k despite your lack of sleep! I guess with having all your lot you are quite used to these sleepless nights! LOL
Hope your day continued on the up x
Winegirl x
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Post by southerngirl on Nov 5, 2007 9:59:44 GMT
well I have the solicitors today so at least we should see what can be done. I am stressing but trying to keep on top of it. Feel like giving up but not going to let ex win this time. I know I am going to get slated for walking away in the first place but what is better, a mum who is falling apart or a stable life. Yes it will be hard as a lot of crap will be thrown at me but I know that I have support from this site and also a great hubby. On a good note, Peanut slept for 6 hours last night, he then got his own drink and held it himself. He is lazy and usually gets us to do it, looks like we have made a breakthrough. Will update diary when I know what I can do later. Liz x
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Post by winegirl on Nov 5, 2007 18:48:26 GMT
Hope Solicitors went well hun? Would wish you luck but as have just read this guess its a bit late! Will check back in later to see how you got on x
Winegirl x
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Post by southerngirl on Nov 5, 2007 19:09:00 GMT
Wasnt too bad. Solicitor is writing to ex to ask about contact. If ex says no we will go to mediation. This didnt work last time as ex never turned up so we have to try it once and if it fails we will go to court. Solicitor says that there is no reason the court would stop us seeing them. Also been in contact with both schools and I will get copies of reports etc as well as newsletters and things. Means I can go to parents evenings, especially as kids have said ex doesnt bother !!! Now its a waiting game. Still feeling OK though, in fact I feel like I am stronger than I was as I have taken another step that a few weeks ago I couldnt have taken. Liz x
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Post by winegirl on Nov 5, 2007 20:09:36 GMT
Thats great Liz! Sounds very positive to me! Keep us informed with how things go?
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Post by sianyc on Nov 5, 2007 20:29:01 GMT
It's great that the schools will do that for you. Good luck with the letter from the solicitor lovely x
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Post by Jay on Nov 5, 2007 23:47:10 GMT
Hi Liz I have just been on a hunt round your posts and found the photos, and the story and jokes about the birth on the tube. It made laugh. I do think you are amazing to have so many children, did you always want a large family?
I can't belive how awkward your ex is being. It is making things really hard for you especially as you are not well. I hope the solicitor gets it sorted and soon,
I was amazed when I counted 7 children, then read you had 10. Did you ever get any sleep?
Take care Jay xx
Keep fighting, and keep getting well.
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Post by southerngirl on Nov 6, 2007 8:55:17 GMT
Sleep, whats that lol. Ex has always been like this so I dont expect any different. I always kept contact no matter how much it hurt me and Pete but as soon as ex had kids I was shut out, this is why I have no contact as couldnt see them so gave up when I hit rock bottom. Glad I made someone smile I have always loved children but never actually intended on having a large family. Pete and I were only going to have 1 together but have had 4 lol. No more though due to back problems and the fact that I need some sleep lol. Liz x
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Post by southerngirl on Nov 6, 2007 17:40:54 GMT
Should have known things were going too well. Pete has gone out and has told me he doesnt care if he doesnt come back. We had an argument over him not doing things and then everything got thrown in, you know how it is. Just really feel like I need his support, not him telling me he doesnt care. Liz x
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