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Post by winegirl on Dec 17, 2007 8:44:36 GMT
Hi Anita
I am like that, dreading not knowing whether I am going to be ok or a mess! So totally sympathise there.
I hope baby is settles a bit more for you today. If it is particularly hard work for you today I will be around on and off if you need to chat hun. x
WG x
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Post by nishka on Dec 17, 2007 13:10:04 GMT
Hi Anita
Sorry to hear you are feeling so down. I remember the days with my daughter (who is now 4) when she wouldn't stop crying and I think I tried everything I could possibly do! Its not easy, is it? You have a lot to deal with at the moment including your own feelings and you mustn't be too hard on yourself lovely. If you don't feel like going to the park etc I am sure little one isn't going to mind, its going to be okay.
Sending you hugs xx
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Post by Bobyn on Dec 17, 2007 17:14:54 GMT
How did today go Anita? Sometimes the thought of a day alone is worse than the actual day itself. I hope that was the case for you today. Love, Bobyn x
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Post by winegirl on Dec 17, 2007 20:17:11 GMT
Hi Anita
Hope today was ok for you hun. I know how tough it is spending all day alone with baby and it can feel so isolating too. We will be here if you need us xx
WG x
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Post by anita123 on Dec 18, 2007 13:52:32 GMT
Monday wasn't too bad, although i felt so lonely, same today, my husband doesn't get home until 10pm which means i am dealing with the baby all day on my own...she is very restless today and is being really testing, I love her to peices but sometimes find it hard to cope with her which makes me feel guilty. I am also worried that she is not being socialised because i don't go out....everytime someone else apart from my husband and me play with her or talk to her she cries and will only calm down with me.
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Post by winegirl on Dec 18, 2007 14:09:19 GMT
Hi Anita
I thought that bout my LO too. She was home all day everyday with me for months and i couldnt go out of the house either. Then when other people would interact with her she would just cry and cling to me. She is 18 months now, and still like that! Despite going to nursery 4 days a week and me getting out and about a bit more with her, so i guess its just how she is. I am sure this is the same for your LO too. Please do not feel guilty, just concentrate on getting yourself better and doing what you feel you can manage at the time x
WG x
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Post by Scarlet on Dec 18, 2007 17:16:07 GMT
Hi Anita,
Glad you had a better day yesterday.
I know how you feel being alone til late. My hubby is a workaholic and always comes home late as well, so I spend long hours on my own with my two boys.
Please try not to worry about your little one not socialising, she's still young at 6 months. As time passes you'll get a wee bit more confidence to get yourself out and about more and things will improve hun. Some children can be more clingy than others as well and tend to favour one parent over the other. My LO is the same, he's a mummys boy I can tell.
she is very restless today and is being really testing Has she got a tooth coming through? My LO has been a bit cranky lately and I notice 4 back teeth have popped through.
We are here whenever you need to talk hun.
Love and hugs
Scarlet X
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Post by sianyc on Dec 19, 2007 15:12:54 GMT
Hi Anita My first was a bit of a screamer and I used to put her in her pram and push her around the living room. Failing that, cbeebies while strapped sitting up in her pushchair was another tactic (yes even at 6 months) I didn't take her to any mother and baby groups as she was in nursery 3 days a week while I worked and that sort of removed any guilt over not socialising much on my days off. I used to really enjoy hanging around the house, watching crappy telly and doing my own thing with her tagging along. It was all different with my second (and the PNI) as I couldn't stand being trapped in the house but felt unable to get out on most days. I wanted to reassure you about the crying at people thing too. My second has also been in nursery since she was 5 months and is now just gone 2. If strangers talk to her when we're out, she glares at them at looks away. If they try to play with her then, she shouts at them to go away (I find this very amusing although I think the OAP's it's direected at are not amused ) If anything, she's been 'socialised' more than the eldest and still only mummy will do (followed closely by my sister who she adores)
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Post by anita123 on Dec 19, 2007 18:54:28 GMT
Thankyou Sianyc for your reply, puts my mind a little at ease. She is a right little screamer and sometimes can get herself in a right state which then makes me feel really unhappy and anxious.
In the night garden seems to be a lifeline at the moment...she loves that! and she doesn't cry at all when that is on, but alas i is only on once a day but at least i can get some rest then.
I have managed to get out today, well it took me 3 hours to pluck up the courage and calm down the anxiety, and i only went to the end of the road to post some letters, but i am real proud that i managed to do it, think Lily liked the short walk too. Maybe i will give it another go tommorrow if i am feeling upto it.
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Post by monica on Dec 19, 2007 19:49:57 GMT
Hello
I hope you don't mind me posting in your diary. I just wanted to echo what the other girls have said - welldone for starting your diary. I hoep it helps you to offload as they say. You will recover, please believe me, it can be a rocky road but you will get there.
WEll done for getting out. that is a huge step as I imagine it must have been very hard but taking that risk does help in the long run as as you challenge the anxiety, you will be able to do more and more. Huge pat on the back.
Glad you have the night garden. I can remember my eldest would sett;le when getting out the bath for teletubbies so we used to tape it and play it then otherwise he would scream the house down.
Take care
Monica
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Post by anita123 on Dec 20, 2007 12:51:35 GMT
Having another good day today, wow two in a row thats the most ever! Managed to do some housework and even managed to do some christmas present wrapping. Don't want to go out though just feeling anxious thinking about it so will stay in and try and have a good day. Still have a bit of a headache though it doesn't want to shift, think it may be the tablets?
Thanks monica for your kind words it is so good to ofload stuff and also have support from other people who know how i am feeling...thought i was alone X
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Post by Scarlet on Dec 20, 2007 16:51:46 GMT
Hi Anita,
It's a great achievement to have had 2 good days in a row, well done hun. No worries about getting out and about, it's too blooming cold outside, I think it's hit sub zero temperatures today and it's been snowing over here, so best stay in and get the radiators on...I should.
Glad that you managed to get your packing done, and housework! you are doing so well and no you are not alone. Come and tell us your troubles whenever you feel the need and we will be here to provide you with a listening ear.
Here's wishing you a third good day tomorrow.
Love and hugs
Scarlet X
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Post by smiley on Dec 20, 2007 19:09:23 GMT
Hi Anita
Just read your diary (hope you dont mind!). I just wanted to add to what the other girls have said and say that it does get better hun. I remember suffering the same symptoms as you and feeling scared as hell but in time they have lessened and although I do get blips and find some things hard its got easier and I am smiling more..
I never thought I would be posting a supportive thread to anyone 6 months later. Please feel free to read my diary if you havent already. You are doing so well just give yourself time to heal and accept your situation so the guilt lessens. I didnt feel any better until I accepted I was ill and that I need time to get better. I also read a book called Overcome Your Postnatal Depression (Life Survival) by Denise Robertson which helped and gave me hope. I am now in therapy and trying to beat this illness forever.
Smiley
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Post by Bobyn on Dec 21, 2007 14:55:43 GMT
Hey Anita, How's today going for you? Hope you've made it three in a row Love, Bobyn x
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Post by anita123 on Dec 21, 2007 17:32:52 GMT
Hi Bobyn, Well it was all going so well, woke up feeling good, thought i had made 3 in a row, well that was until this evening. Lily is constantly screaming again i really feel i am unable to cope and can't stop crying. again i have tried everything even wheeling her up and down in her push chair in the house...everything but nothing seems to be working. I have had enough of feeling like this and just want to give her my full attention....when will i stop getting these blips. I have also moved to a new house and so don't no anyone, no-one visits and i am feeling all alone again. Its friday night and all i want to do is go to bed!
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