anita123
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Post by anita123 on Jan 15, 2008 22:12:41 GMT
Oh yes staying away from that housework and the stairs!! Apparently i have to take it real easy and relax so that gives me a good excuse to have some R and R I suppose...Its funny its the first thing i actually laughed about in quite a while xx
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Post by Scarlet on Jan 16, 2008 7:42:18 GMT
Bobyn is right, housework is dangerous, that's why I avoid it at all costs Glad you had a little laugh, your old self is shining through bit by bit. Scarlet xxxxx
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Post by nishka on Jan 16, 2008 12:24:16 GMT
Housework? Whats that?? LOL
Hope you are doing okay. Sounds like you are a bit better. Nice to see it. xx
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anita123
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Post by anita123 on Jan 16, 2008 21:31:55 GMT
LOL thanks guys X
I am feeling better at the mo ...may it continue to last....by the way is it normal to feel Very hot all the time...is it a side effect of anti D's?? I am constantly hot all day and night and can't seem to cool down.
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Post by Bobyn on Jan 16, 2008 21:42:08 GMT
I felt like that Anita. They did settle after a while but I used to get soooo hot when everyone else was cold. I'd be sitting there in a t-shirt and my OH would have a jumper on and slippers and want the fire on too! I drink ALOT of water now But that's meant to be good for you so I guess it's a positive side effect?! I bet you can spot the PNI sufferers in Tescos in the summer as we'll be the ones shopping in our bikinis LOL x
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anita123
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Post by anita123 on Jan 16, 2008 21:43:57 GMT
At this rate i will be too....even in the winter lol ;D
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Post by Scarlet on Jan 17, 2008 8:09:54 GMT
Hiya Anita,
I remember this was a biggie for me when I was on the ADs, it's like I had a constant hot flush, which was worse when I felt anxious. I think it eased off after a month or so.
How are you feeling today hun?
Scarlet X
lol about the bikinis Bobyn....
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anita123
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Post by anita123 on Jan 17, 2008 12:42:07 GMT
Yea i'm ok but this family issue is really bothering me along with the work issue i think they are giving me the most anxiety attacks.
I think i am just going to get it all out of my head and write it down.
I have been with my husband since i was 15 that was 14 years ago, since then i got to know his family well especially his brother. My Husband and his brother were extremly close and as a part of that he become my big brother too. About 5 years ago he met a new girlfriend of which me and my husband become very fond of, she was funny, witty and very headstrong. We went out as a foursome to loads of places and all go on really well until the family buisiness arrived. Davids brother started a business of which his mum and dad became a part and then ourselves. His girlfriend worked for the company. At first it was great a whole new venture, i ended up along with my husband managing accounts and the running of the business. But eventually there started being small rifts in the family...due to what else Money also lack of work from my husbands brothers girlfriend who decided then to quit apparently with no hard feelings but decided that she would blame my husband and I for pushing her too hard and decided not to talk to us for 3 months as such my husband and his brother also had a big arguement and also stopped talking. Things were eventually resolved and everyone started talking again (it was not the same as before though the bad feeling was somehow always there!) Anyway to cut a long story short my husband brother and his girlfriend decided to scam the family as all they seem to be interested in was money...they didn't care who it hurt as long as they were ok. My husbands mum and dad don't want to loose his brother from the business and decided to stick up for him or give him excuses in why he did it (he is also the golden boy! so can do no wrong!). My Husband however stood up to him and exposed him for what they were doing, there was a huge row and my husband decided to leave the company, although he is still tied in finacially as his dad will not realese us (even though he can!). Since then we haven't spoken its now been 6 months!!
During this time i was pregnant and during the first arguement heavily, it got me down so much....I could also see my husband was very upset. Recently they too had a baby girl orlly my little girl and theirs were going to grow up together as there is not much of an age gap between them .....but since they had the baby the last arguement happened and I have only ever seen her twice when she was a month old. I find this very upsetting i wouldn't stop them seeing my baby as after all they are still her uncle and auntie but they don't see it in the same way. I was also very close with my husbands, brothers girlfriend but since this has happened she will not talk to me, she is saying horrible things about us and also she is making her best friend her official auntie which she rubs my nose in constantly.
My husband is having constant rows with his mum and dad and is still upset at what went on although he tries not to show it to me and basically we have both had enough of it all.
Probably doen't make much sense when i read it back but its a very complicated story and i know seeing my husbands family having constant rows with him is really getting him down and it is certinatly getting me down....I have really had enough of it. Anyway there you go, my councillor says time heals in this case i am not sure but we will see. Sorry to go on yet again!
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Post by winegirl on Jan 17, 2008 20:19:04 GMT
Hi Anita
Your story is similar to mine in respect of family disputes that my OH and I have had with this family. It has gone on for such a long time and really got me down, the only way I managed to get over it was to not care. I have now chosen to get on with my life without them and i really dont care what they do or what they are up to as they are no longer part of my life.
I know it all sounds pretty harsh, but it has worked for me and I know I am better off without the hassle. I am not suggesting you should do the same, but the `i dont care' attitude certainly helps x
WG x
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anita123
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Post by anita123 on Jan 17, 2008 20:52:17 GMT
Thanks winegirl that really helps xx
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Post by anita123 on Jan 18, 2008 17:58:34 GMT
Well today i am feeling better about things I am on my way to sorting out work and family problems and hopefully that will help with my anxiety. Still feel incredibly lonely and still can't go out which is very frustrating! but one step at a time. I really need to break this anxiety circle and I'm feeling like i am getting there....hopefully My hot flushes are settling down which is great and I'm feeling more positive today. I hope this is the start of recovary.
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Post by winegirl on Jan 18, 2008 18:41:37 GMT
Hi Anita
Thats great! And i think thats how my anxiety started to ease off as I went into recovery too! I am really pleased that you have felt so much more positive today and hope this is the start of good things to come!
Take Care
WG x
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Post by anita123 on Jan 21, 2008 12:04:27 GMT
Had a bit of a blip yesterday and felt a little down although my LO cried most of the day so that didn't help But today i am feeling positive again, going to try and pop out tommorrow going to meet my other half at the train station...I'm going to try and overcome this outside fear whilst i am feeling positive. Getting a few hot flushes again although not as bad. Can't get an appointment to see the doctor which is stressing me a little and no health visitor has been in contact so trying to face this alone at the moment.
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Post by Scarlet on Jan 21, 2008 13:50:57 GMT
Glad you are feeling positive hun, and it's great that you are going to try to make it to the station, I hope you do.
No worries about the hot flushes, they will disappear with time. When can yoo see the doc hun, I thought there was a 24hr~48hr policy (not sure exactly).
Scarlet X
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Post by winegirl on Jan 21, 2008 19:58:43 GMT
Hi Anita
Good idea on facing the outside world while you are still feeling positive hun! Best way to do it x
Scarlet, is right, the hot flushes do disappear as you start to get better. Let us know how you get on when you get your dr's appointment.x
WG x
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