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Post by monica on Feb 23, 2017 11:21:07 GMT
How did the group go? Excellent news and I bet it'll really help your recovery as it'll be the perfect distraction.
Did you specialise in and thing health and beauty wise ? X
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Post by Kirsty on Feb 24, 2017 0:40:21 GMT
group was good and i had a great day yesterday, today however has been horrid. i left my phone on top of my car and drove away and didnt realise. couple of hours later i realised that it was missing, anyway we tracked it through find my iphone and managed to get it from the person who found it but it had been run over and is smashed. i am getting it repaired its just more money i dont have. i had arguments with my dad and had to endure seeing his dickhead gf who i absolutely HATE HATE HATE and she met sophia which i never wanted. just been a really shit day and feel i have taken a step back. plus i went back to slimmers and i have gained 5 stone!!!!! 5 STONE!!!!!!! i truly hate myself. im such a failure
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Post by monica on Feb 24, 2017 11:01:05 GMT
Firstly, big big hugs . It sounds as if yesterday was pretty rubbish. Try to rationalise it and don't blame yourself !
Your phone - yes it's crap especially when it's yet another expense but these things happen to everyone ! I shattered my screen after spending months thinking about getting a case.
Your dads gf. Why do you hate her? I'm playing devils advocate here as I know if you don't like someone you won't want her having contact with your child. But will her seeing Sophia harm her? I'm sure your dad wants to see Sophia and I guess it puts him in a difficult position if his gf can't see her too. Maybe it's worth considering just accepting she might have contact if it helps your dad? Obviously I don't know your situation nor why you don't like her - I'm sure you have good reasons to, so forgive me if you don't like what I wrote . I remember a friend telling me about her husbands parents . The mother left him for another bloke also leaving him with 3 kids to bring up. He was devastated and even though 30 yrs has past has never got over it. His mum is still with the same guy and my friend has 2 boys. The dad doesn't want the mums partner having anything to do with their boys. The mums bloke is essentially a nice bloke good with kids etc doesn't have the best of relationship with her husband. My friend always felt bad that this guy couldn't see their kids. Just food for thought...
Weight - pregnancy/meds/PNI etc can lead to weight gain. But hey you're doing something about it which is brilliant. Focus on the positives ! Maybe join a running group or download the NHS couch to 5k app. I'm doing it with 2 friends one of whom is very unfit and overweight. Doing it together has really spurred her on and she's gone up to the next level! You can do it too!
Really hope today is better for you x
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Post by Kirsty on Feb 27, 2017 9:01:13 GMT
Saw her again yesterday as I had to pick up my phone from my dads......I just hate her she makes my blood boil. I just can't let Sophia have a relationship with her she was so horrid to me as a child, I will never let anymore treat Sophia like that especially her!!! Silly cow!! She has all her granchimdrens pictures all over the front room and our pictures are stacked up in my dads gun room, I had a go at him about it! She is such a selfish bitch! Very much dead to me!!!! HATE HATE HATE!!!!
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Post by monica on Feb 27, 2017 9:11:45 GMT
Big hugs Kirsty. She clearly has had such a negative impact on you. It must also hurt that your dad is with her. Did he never intervene when she was being horrible to you as a child? I hope seeing her didn't spoil the rest of your day yesterdayx
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Post by Kirsty on Feb 27, 2017 13:43:19 GMT
No not really. He always thinks it's me and my sister, she can do no wrong in his eyes. He always says that we don't make an effort but he forgets everything she has ever done ie being horri, taking him away, treating us differently, chucking us out of his house, banning us from their home and even calling their home, not letting dad help us out with money she he has to not tell her or not help us, didn't invite us to his 50th birthday party she threw him we knew nothing about it until our dad moaned at us for not going. This isn't even all of it. Worst of all she was my mums best friends looked after us all the time! Said my dad was a wanker for cheating on my mum and yet first opportunity she had she was in his bed. Makes me sick. How are you feeling? Xx
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Post by monica on Feb 27, 2017 20:29:00 GMT
That's a lot to contend with. I can see why your feelings run so high. It must be so disappointing that your dad refuses to see your perspective. I'd be incredibly hurt too. I hope at some point you'll reach the stage of acceptance where you don't feel angry (must be bloody hard no doubt about it ) - anger costs lots of energy x
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Post by Kirsty on Feb 28, 2017 8:13:04 GMT
I had accepted it that's the funny thing and accepted my relationship with my dad for what it is, for some reason the other day just brought it all up. Xx
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Post by monica on Feb 28, 2017 15:02:50 GMT
Possibly because your daughter came into contact with your dads wife? We all have expectations of our parents - that they love and protect us. it seems his wife fulfills some need or weakness that makes him appear oblivious to everything she does - it must hurt at times x
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Post by Kirsty on Feb 28, 2017 15:33:51 GMT
Yeah it does. She tried to get us out his will too. That will be the next thing silly cow. I'm in Guildford now enjoying the peace and quiet xx
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Post by monica on Feb 28, 2017 18:56:52 GMT
Enjoy! Will text you some dates for a meet up x
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Post by Kirsty on Feb 28, 2017 22:54:44 GMT
Yes please would love to meet you xxx
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Post by monica on Mar 4, 2017 7:40:06 GMT
How did Weds go? How are you? X
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Post by Kirsty on Mar 4, 2017 17:34:12 GMT
Yeah it went well thanks I'm not too bad had a massive wobble yesterday. How are you? Xx
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Post by monica on Mar 5, 2017 10:39:02 GMT
What happened in Fri? Hope today is better.
I'm cream crackered after day out in London with my family - got in just before 2! Sleep....
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