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Post by Bookwormprincess on Aug 24, 2009 13:14:04 GMT
I'm really confused about my cycle and a little worried.
Even though we're being relaxed about conceiving I am still tracking my temperature because I want to know what day each month I ovulate. When I conceived my son it was day 12 or 13 every month like clockwork, but the last few months it has been a lot later, like day 17 or 18. Trouble is this month, the charting software online told me it was day 13, then day 15 and now day 18 because it kept changing it after I entered more temperatures each day. It's such a pain. Using those ovulation prediction strips doesn't seem to work anymore so I can't be warned in advance, I can only go on what has happened in the previous few months.
The things is, there's no way we're going to be able to have sex often enough to cover all the bases for when I might ovulate. Unless we somehow get loads of energy from somewhere!
I'm also worried because if I ovulate so late, there's supposed to be a certain amount of time after ovulation before your period arrives to allow for a possible conception, but last month there were only 9 days which is too short apparently.
I know all of the above doesn't sound like I am being relaxed but I am a worrier at heart. I am not stressing too much because I realise there is no real hurry, especially since my husband needs to get a permanent job first. I just want my cycle to be all neat and predicatable like it used to be so when we are ready to really focus on trying to concieve I will know what is going on. I don't like leaving things to chance which is why I want to know when I ovulate so we can give ourselves the best chance possible of conceiving.
I have friends who have been trying for their first baby for 3 years! And she has never taken control and tracked her temperature etc. She is just relying on a rough day that the doctor told her. Kind of wish I could be that laid back, although I know that each month she's not pregnant really breaks her heart.
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Post by nicola1712 on Aug 24, 2009 19:06:40 GMT
My cycle changed from my first LO to this one too so don't be worried if it has changed. A friend of mine really gets into her ovulating times and dates too when she is trying - she is on her third now, and uses her temperature as a guage. TMI maybe but I used to know when ovulating cos I got lots of discharge for those few days, plus was actually quite horny Will find out what 'equipment' my friend used to help tell her she was ovulating........ xxx
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Post by Bookwormprincess on Aug 24, 2009 22:51:59 GMT
Did it? Well that makes me feel a bit better.
Glad I'm not the only one who goes a bit OTT about when she ovulates etc. like your friend. Yeah, I sort of get that discharge too but not always so it's not a great indicator. I used to use ovulation predictor kits (got cheap ones from ebay). Worked a treat last time and gave good advanced warning. But this time round they aren't working for me - they always show negative, don't know why? I'm sure I'm ovulating because of my temperatures etc. and while I was still on meds which stopped my periods the doctor did a blood test to check my hormones were ok for ovulation etc and apparently they are normal.
All this worry will be for nothing when I do get pregnant whether that's next month or next year so I don't know why I waste my energy. Just can't help it I guess, although this time round it is a bit different because I will always have my gorgeous boy.
Feel so blessed that I can have children because some friends of mine who now live in France have been trying to adopt for 3 years now because they can't have their own, and even that process is drawn out and difficult for them.
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Post by nicola1712 on Aug 25, 2009 18:45:30 GMT
I know, when you see how people struggle to concieve it is heartbreaking and makes you feel very lucky cos it should be such a natural thing but isn't always for everyone.
Ok not sure if it will help/if you are already doing this, but my friend tells me she takes her temperature first thing in morning. She has a thermometer kit with instructions and ready made graphs from Boots. She is also using the ovulation strips but gets them off internet cos Boots bit pricey.
xxx
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Post by Bookwormprincess on Aug 26, 2009 15:58:02 GMT
Thanks Nicola. Yeah I already take my temperature each morning before I get up and I use a free online charting tool called www.fertilityfriend.com which is brilliant. My first thermometer was from Boots but then my LO got hold of it and it is now lost, so I found a new one online for half the price of Boots. I also get the ovulation strips from eBay - they are about £2.70 for a pack of 10, but for some reason I am not showing any positives for the last 2 months so not going to use them anymore. I know I'm ovulating because my temperature chart indicates it, so for some reason the tests aren't picking up my LH surge anymore. Wierd, since they worked when I conceived Ellis. It's a shame because it really helps having advance warning.
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Post by nicola1712 on Aug 26, 2009 19:34:00 GMT
You are so patient! It sounds so complicated and fiddly and makes me immensly grateful I didn't have to do it.
My friend is a nutcase - she is on baby 3 and has two boys and is desperate for a girl - so not only is she charting her ovulation etc she is also on a special diet and exersise regime to ensure she gets a girl. Her poor hubby is on diet too and under a strict 'sex days' routine! Bless her. I feel for her cos I would be desperate for a girl too - didn't mind the prospect of two girls but three boys would scare the crap out of me!
xxx
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Post by Bookwormprincess on Aug 28, 2009 14:09:02 GMT
I guess it does take a bit of patience but it does make you feel a bit of a nutcase at the same time, lol! Especially since my new thermometer says "BabyMad" on it! Hubbie just said "Well, you are!" - thanks mate.
That's so funny that your friend is doing all she can to have a girl. I'd love a girl too, but I don't think I'd go so far as to try a special diet. Sounds like an urban myth anyway. Tell your friend FertilityFriend.com has tips about how to conceive a girl. Apparently girl sperm are slower, but more resiliant, than boy sperm, so you should have sex about 2 or 3 days before ovulation and leave it at that. I don't think I'd like to limit my chances of conceiving by doing that though.
My aunt and uncle have 4 boys and 1 girl! Can you imagine that!
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Post by nicola1712 on Aug 29, 2009 18:29:48 GMT
Ooh talk about keep going until you hit the jackpot!! Yeah the sperm/ovulation thing she has lectured me about and asked me loads about when I had sex and concieved LO and when I did with this one. I had no idea about all that at the time - but we did actually only do it once that month (with LO that is) so that's prob how we got a girl! This time we did it loads (again without really thinking about it...) and have ended up with a boy. I can understand the sperm statistics and facts but like you not so sure about the diet thing. Will you stop at two - or do you want more? xxx
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Post by Bookwormprincess on Aug 29, 2009 20:51:46 GMT
That's a really good question .... Before Ellis came along DH and I actually wanted 4 kids, can you believe it? Then when I got PP, for a little while we weren't going to have anymore because of how ill I was. As I got better, we decided that PP shouldn't ruin our dream of a bigger family so that's why we're trying again. As for whether we should have more than 2 I honestly don't know. It really depends on how I react after another baby and if I get PP again and if so, how traumatic it is etc. If things go smoothly, which I hope they will, then perhaps we'll have a 3rd child, but I think that would definitely be my limit now I know how hard it is looking after a baby. Also, financially it would be a real strain so there are practical issues too.
How about you?
I can't believe you only had sex once the month you conceived LO - that's amazing. We had to do 5 nights in a row to conceive our son (sorry TMI!).
This month we've definitely not conceived so at least I won't have the "am I aren't I" drama when I'm due on. But next month, I hope to get things started again.
One of my friends from Uni just told me she's 15 weeks pregnant today. I was a little jealous when she told me. This is her second baby. Jealous because A: she's pregnant and it didn't take long to conceive and B: she doesn't have the fear of PP like I did (unless of course it happens out of the blue like it did to me the first time).
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Post by nicola1712 on Aug 30, 2009 18:59:21 GMT
5 nights in a row?!! My god, I would be knackered!! Yeah we only did it once that month (when I knew I was ovulating) so I guess hubby was kinda justified in asking if it was actually his when I showed him the test!! Thankfully she does have some of his traits and looks so it is quite clear she is his! We did it more with this one though, thinking there was no way we could be that quick a second time and also trying to get more fun out of the making process Bless him, hope he enjoyed it cos he isn't allowed anywhere near me at the moment - not really feeling very sexy these days... Defo only having two - we said that even before we knew this was a boy. I am one of two and feel that is normal. DH is an only child and just didn't want his own child to be the only one cos he said it was boring as a kid. We really couldn't afford more than two I think - I'll have to go back to work part time as it is after this one which will be a shock cos only worked when I felt like it after LO. Plus this pregnancy has been harder, prob cos have a toddler to cope with at the same time, so don't think I could do it all again. I might have a different opinion when my baby boy is getting big and I have to go back to work!! xxx
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Post by Bookwormprincess on Aug 30, 2009 19:55:27 GMT
Well those were in the days before we had a child, so we kind of had a bit more energy back then and we're both night owls! But couldn't do that this time round, so I hope it works like it did for you.
Yeah, when I was pregnant after the first few months sex became really painful so it was hands off mister, so I know how you feel. It's a joke when they say you should have sex to get labour started if you're overdue - who are they kidding!
I've had to go back to work, but that plan was made when I was still suffering from the after effects depression of PP and couldn't face being alone with LO 5 days a week while DH was at work. So we compromised and he worked part time and so did I, but hubbie is now looking for full time work with the view to us having another baby. I'd love to be able to afford not to work after the next baby but who knows what our situation will be then.
Well you never know with your track record of how quick you get pregnant, you may be surprised with no. 3 unless you're careful!
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Post by Bookwormprincess on Sept 7, 2009 14:56:21 GMT
Feeling really broody because 3 people I know are pregnant. Only just found out my cousin is having her second in 5 weeks, she kept that quiet. And my colleague just told me she is 23 weeks pg with her 3rd. Hadn't seen her for a month and you'd never have known before but today she has a huge bump! Also one of my uni friends is 16 weeks pg with her second.
I'm also envious because all these women don't have to worry about PP (although in theory there is a chance they could get it just the same way it happened to me). I really really hope I don't get it again.
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Post by nicola1712 on Sept 7, 2009 18:50:17 GMT
Unfortunately there is always the chance they will get PP with these babies, but there is always the chance you won't with your second too. At least you will be able to recognise the symptoms quicker though if you do - I have found it easier knowing more what was happening this time round and the docs are impressed I sought help straight away rather than putting it off like I did before.
Not surprised you are feeling broody with all those pregnancies around you (sorry I know I don't help matters there...) but just keep thinking your turn will come soon and you will be so appreciative of it when it does. I have just found out a friend of mine was having IVF and was in between treatments, was told she had a 1% chance of conceiving naturally and just has done! So if they can do it then so can you.
And yes I do tell hubby we have to be careful from now on or number three will turn up unexpectedly - perhaps he should have the snip!
xx
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Post by Bookwormprincess on Sept 8, 2009 15:06:46 GMT
What a great thing that your friend conceived naturally with such a small chance. Just goes to show you should never give up hope I guess.
Yes, I suppose there is a chance they could get PP but I bet all but one of them (my uni friend) have never even heard of it.
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Post by Bookwormprincess on Sept 21, 2009 13:05:12 GMT
So now I have 2 weeks to wait to see if we conceived this month ....
... watch this space!
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