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Post by nicola1712 on Sept 22, 2009 19:04:20 GMT
Ooh exciting! Keep 'at it' though cos you never know if you get a speedy sperm overtaking the others!
xx
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Post by Bookwormprincess on Sept 22, 2009 20:27:17 GMT
Ha ha ! Don't know if we have the energy.
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Post by Bookwormprincess on Sept 26, 2009 21:42:03 GMT
Just found out another of my friends is pregnant, 9 weeks. Really pleased for her since she was trying for 2 years for her 1st and had to use Clomid and had 2 miscarriages. This was her 1st month of clomid this time round so they didn't have all the agony of trying for ages and being on meds. Still, I'm a bit jealous. I think that makes 8 of my friends currently pregnant!
Well, Monday will be 10 days past ovulation and that's when I found out I was pregnant with my son, so I am tempted to do a pregnancy test but don't know whether I should wait. I know I am going to be disappointed if I'm not pg this month.
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Post by winegirl on Sept 27, 2009 10:08:43 GMT
leave it till 14 days after as you will be gutted if you get a false negative...
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Post by Bookwormprincess on Sept 27, 2009 12:05:06 GMT
Yeah you're probably right WG, so I will have to wait till Friday in that case.
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Post by nicola1712 on Sept 28, 2009 18:37:11 GMT
Yeah, defo leave it till it will be sure. There are probably loads of people pregnant you know all the time it is just you are more sensitive to it at the moment.
Friends of ours got pregnant with thier first on their honeymoon and me and DH had been married for nearly nine months by then and were talking about it. When they rang to say they were expecting I was gutted and soooo jealous. Obviously I was pleased for them but it really hit me. That's when I kinda knew I was ready to start trying.
Good luck for Friday and let us know how it goes.
xxx
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Post by Bookwormprincess on Sept 29, 2009 13:22:03 GMT
Yeah will let you know. But I am having cramping already and feeling bloated so ... (although maybe hope is not lost since I had cramping and spotting in early pregnancy with Ellis, so I don't know).
I have had constant butterflies since yesterday about waiting for Friday and feel on edge. I am nervous/worried that it will be negative and nervous/scared it will be positive (talk about ambivalence!). I definitely want another child but I am back to being scared of PP again and scared of having to cope with a newborn and a toddler, to the point that I don't even know if I could enjoy pregnancy because these anxieties about giving birth and immediately afterwards are the main thought in my mind at the moment. I am worried I will be useless with a newborn - it's probably because I didn't fully bond with my son till I was off the meds when he was 16mo. I really need to get over these worries. Any suggestions?
I know it might sound that I am not ready to try for another, but I don't think that is the case. These are just anxieties, I'm pretty sure of that. I really do want Ellis to have a brother or sister. I just need to remember I am just as likely NOT to be mentally ill afterwards as I am to be ill. I really wish it could be like it was with my first pregnancy where I was mainly just excited and nervous in a good way. I wish I could forget all the trauma of what happened to me the first time.
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Post by monica on Sept 29, 2009 15:27:39 GMT
Hi
Good luck! I recall vivdly the stress of waiting to find out if I was pregnant or not! But it's a good idea to wait a few days just to be on the safe side.
Your anxieties are perfectly normal given what you've been through. however, this time you can be prepared just in case PP comes back but there is a significatn chance it won't...... You've informed drs, midwifes seen a m&bu so you've done everhting to help yourself at this stage. Also you are experienced now so everything isn't new and that helps alot in managing birth, caring for baby etc.
I didn't have PP but I always felt anxious and even guilty when I found out I was pregnant, eventhough each pregnancy was very much wanted.
Love
Monica
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Post by Bookwormprincess on Sept 29, 2009 19:15:44 GMT
Thanks Monica, helps to know someone else felt the same.
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Post by Bookwormprincess on Sept 30, 2009 12:15:41 GMT
OK, I know everyone said I should wait to do a test, but I couldn't ... wait, that is. So I took a test this morning, and .... it's positive! I'm shocked. This is only our 2nd month of trying. I don't know how to feel. I'm still scared but also a little excited. However, I am still having period like cramps, so I'm not sure what is going to happen. I did have cramps and spotting in early pregnancy before, so there may be a chance this baby will stay around. Flipping nerve racking though. I forgot how fraught with worry the first 12-14 weeks are - every twinge is potentionally worrying. Please don't mention anything at all on facebook. It's way too early to tell the world yet. But since you all knew I was trying and waiting to test, I had to tell you how it had gone. I have major butterflies now ...
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Post by monica on Sept 30, 2009 12:35:12 GMT
Huge congratulations! that's brilliant! So pleased for you.
I found the whole pregnancy thing quite stressful and used to worry about every sign...however, try not to worry, take each day as it comes. Especially with having had PP you might see every stressful moment, every bad day as it coming back, but those things are normal too for every pregnant mum. And if you are worried about anything , go and see your dr.
Huge congratulations!!!
Love
Monica
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Post by Bookwormprincess on Sept 30, 2009 14:19:14 GMT
Thanks Monica. Yes, I am worried about PP returning during pregnancy. I didn't know that was a risk until recently. I found this article about cramping which has reassured me slightly: www.familyresource.com/pregnancy/birth/cramping-early-pregnancy-symptomSo now I just have to wait and see .... wish I could relax, I'm just so full of butterflies. It's also hard keeping it a secret when it's all I can think about. We might tell my parents at the weekend because they will be involved with caring for me if I become ill again and I think they may need time to get used to the idea. Plus, if I lose this pregnancy in the next week, I think I would like their support (sorry, I am feeling negative, I know I should think positively). One good thing, the baby will be due in June, which is such a different time of year from my son (December baby). I don't think I could have coped giving birth again in December - it would have just all seemed too much like the horror of last time. ;D Oh my goodness! I can't believe I am pregnant! Aghhhh!
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Post by cheshire on Sept 30, 2009 15:19:38 GMT
That is lovely news !!!!
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Post by nicola1712 on Oct 2, 2009 19:19:52 GMT
YAY!!! Woop woop!! ;D ;D ;D ;D
CONGRATULATIONS!! Sooooo pleased for you - you had best stop reading about my moans and groans of being pregnant now then!
Yes the worrying starts all over again I am afraid and not sure what the article is you have a link to but you can get cramps from it all bedding in apparently. I was also told by my GP that you can never get a false positive preg test only false negatives.
The first 12 weeks are pretty nerve wracking but take each day at a time (and don't worry I won't say own on FB till you have officially announced it) I found it really helpful to have told people on here though cos I could rant and rave and scream excitement to someone other than family.
As for the PNI coming back - IF it comes back while pregnant you can take safe meds (which I am doing) and yes you will know the difference between that and just pregnancy hormones and at least if it comes back after you will recognise it quicker and they will be keeping a close eye on you anyway. Apparently I will be having a psychiatrist coming to see me in hospital now too.
Anyways so very pleased for you and June babies are great - my LO is a June baby (although it rained that whole summer) and she is very happy and LOVES being outside all the time.
Hope you are not feeling too knackered and sick too.
xxx
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Post by Bookwormprincess on Oct 2, 2009 23:02:49 GMT
Thanks Nicola. I don't mind reading about your "moans and groans" as you put it! Do you know, yesterday, I really wished my husband could carry this baby this time round and put up with everything that goes on during a pregnancy. If partners took it in turns to carry babies in the womb and men went first, they'd never be more that 2 children families I bet you!
That's reassuring that there are no false positives. I've been testing each day now because I had a batch of 10 test from ebay and the lines keep getting darker which is a good sign.
No sickness yet (it started at 6 weeks with my son and turned into hyperemesis so I'm hoping I won't get any this time round). Have been quite tired, and went to bed the same time as my son last night, but today I am being a night owl because I know hubbie is giving me a lie in tomorrow. The major symptom at the moment is the cramps.
Yes, I am looking forward to a June baby. It'll be nice to have lighter evenings as the days are long with a newborn. When I was in hospital with PP in December I couldn't tell whether it was day or night sometimes because of the early dark evenings.
At least when I vist the MBU at the end of the month as planned ages ago, I won't feel so silly now becasue I will be pregnant!
Glad you will have a pyschiatrist visit you in hospital. That will be good for you to have someone in the know check up on you other than midwives (who didn't spot anything wrong with me after my son was born, even though all my family were worried).
Thanks for keeping quiet on FB. 8 weeks and I can let everyone know ... gosh, they will be a long 8 weeks!
Hope baby comes soon for you and that you can rest beforehand. Take care.
p.s. glad there is someone else on meds while pregnant. Even though I feel well, my GP wants me to remain on anti-ds throughout this pregnancy. It's hard to feel ok about taking drugs though. Maybe it's for the best - I'm already feeling more irritable and snappy, oh dear and it's barely begun!
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