Emma
Email Support Volunteer
PP for 7 months after my daughter was born. She is now 4 & being her Mum is my full time passion.
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Post by Emma on Oct 7, 2009 20:26:16 GMT
We're in North West London, so Cardiff can be done in a day - it has been done before for the purpose of football! I will chat to Naomi to see how she thinks to best go forward with seeing Dr. Jones and also speak to my GP - and of course my husband!! He's not been speaking to and e-mailing people who've been there, did that and I know his understanding of what happened and why is still tampered with the view I was just being really, really naughty - behavioral problems and personality disorder were the Mother & Baby Unit's diagnosis. I have a copies of my notes so have a clearer perspective on why and how and what happened, not only to me but to Sophie.
I really do wish you well over the coming months and please, please feel free to get in contact with me at any time if you think my understanding and experiences may make this all a little easier for you through the coming weeks and months.
I will let you know how I get on with Cardiff both in their PP and Bipolar studies and if and when I make it to Dr. Jones himself!
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Post by Bookwormprincess on Oct 7, 2009 22:29:12 GMT
Well if it can be done for football, it can be done for Dr Jones!
Yes, Naomi may have a good idea, but your GP is worth talking to as well like you say. It sounds like you and your husband could do with an expert going over your notes and giving you a clear diagnosis. It was comforting to hear Dr Jones say that I had a typical, if severe, epsisode of PP or Mood Disorder as he called it.
Have you posted your full story anywhere on the site? I'd love to read it.
Thank you. It is good to be in touch with others who have been there. In a couple of weeks we're going to look at a Mother and Baby Unit just in case. I wasn't in one before and it was awful being separated from the baby and often fuelled the delusion that he was dead or that I had killed him.
Take care x
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Emma
Email Support Volunteer
PP for 7 months after my daughter was born. She is now 4 & being her Mum is my full time passion.
Posts: 159
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Post by Emma on Oct 8, 2009 11:59:02 GMT
Go in to my profile and ask to see my last 35 posts - there is a thread entitled "first hello" and my story is there. I'd love to know what your thoughts are on my experience! Which Mother & Baby Unit are you seeing - I was in Coombe Wood for six/seven weeks, so again happy to chat to you about that too!
Much love and you are right - we do need a diagnosis to enable us to understand what happened to us and enable us to stop swinging on that pendulum!
Much love, Emma x
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Post by winegirl on Oct 8, 2009 15:51:04 GMT
Just wanted to add my bit that I think Dr Jones ROCKS. Would love to meet him one day to pick his brains...
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Post by Bookwormprincess on Oct 8, 2009 20:04:28 GMT
Emma, I will look your story up as soon as I've had dinner.
Winegirl, you really need to meet him! He is a lovely person too as well as a very clever man.
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Post by Bookwormprincess on Oct 8, 2009 20:11:13 GMT
Oh yes and my nearest MBU is Bethlem Royal Hospital in Beckenham, Kent, which when I say near, is still 1hr30mins drive away, or maybe more. They seriously need more units around the country.
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Post by Bookwormprincess on Oct 8, 2009 21:50:09 GMT
Emma, I have just read your story and replied in your original thread in the Introduce Yourself section.
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Post by winegirl on Oct 9, 2009 15:55:30 GMT
It disgraces me that there are so few in the country. We are very fortunate to have one here in Nottingham - which I am lucky enough to be spending the day at next week! (might cheekliy ask if I can leave one of our posters there...)
Anyway, an hour and half is a bit of a trek, but at least it is there if you need it? (hopefully you wont!!)
Much Love
WG xx
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Emma
Email Support Volunteer
PP for 7 months after my daughter was born. She is now 4 & being her Mum is my full time passion.
Posts: 159
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Post by Emma on Oct 9, 2009 18:24:00 GMT
If there is anybody on the site who has been admitted to the Coombe Wood Mother & Baby Unit in Park Royal, London I would dearly love to hear from you. I was there for six or seven weeks between the end of June and early August 2006. In my experience there was very little understanding, if any, of Puerperal Psychosis and I therefore struggle to have anything positive to say about the unit or indeed its staff. It would in fact be amazingly cathartic to get in contact with anybody who is familiar with the Unit. PM or e-mail me if you prefer x
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Post by Bookwormprincess on Oct 12, 2009 13:42:50 GMT
My GP appointment on Friday went well. She was really pleased for us and is going to contact my former Midwife to see if she will care for me in this pregnancy too. Now I just have to wait for her to contact me (hope I'm not waiting too long).
Sor far I feel ok, less nervous now and less scared which is good. My GP commented that I seemed calm about it and I said if she'd seen me at the beginning of the week it would have been a different story!
No sickness yet which is good and the cramps are getting milder somedays but still strong others.
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Post by Bookwormprincess on Oct 14, 2009 13:41:51 GMT
A friend of mine has just had some awful news and I feel terrible for her. She had her 12 week scan today only to be told there was no heartbeat and the baby probably died at 8 weeks. She'd told her family and a few close friends a few weeks ago that she was pregnanct with baby no. 2 and was so excited since it had taken years to conceive her first child. She had two miscarriages before her son, so this is her 3rd.
I feel terrible for her. She knows about my pregnancy because she knew I was trying and asked how it had gone so had to tell her. We were due 6 weeks apart from one another. It's every woman's worst fear to have no heartbeat at the first scan. Must be devastating. I'm petrified of it happening to us too.
Also, her little boy is 2 but very advanced in his communication skills so can understand a lot of adult conversation, so no doubt she will have to explain to him that there will be no baby now. Breaks your heart.
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Post by winegirl on Oct 14, 2009 19:06:07 GMT
So sorry to hear that hun. So tragic, I cant imagine what she is going through...
She may well find it a bit difficult around you initially with you being pregnant (or she may not!), but if she does do not take it to heart, she just needs to grieve.
My heart and love goes out to you and your friend at this time xx
Much Love
WG xx
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Post by nicola1712 on Oct 17, 2009 19:28:17 GMT
Hiya
Ok have had a chance to catch up on all your news and firstly let me say how sorry I am to hear about your friend's pregnancy but please try not to let it worry you.
At my 21 weeks scan we were going to find out what sex the baby was but by the time we got to the appointment I was terrified something was wrong with it, I was nearly in tears as we walked in and couldn't have cared less what sex it was.
I felt him moving at 14 weeks but with my LO it was 22 weeks so yes you do feel it earlier cos you know more what it is. That fluttery feeling comes back to you very quickly!
Glad you are not feeling too sick yet anyway and hope you are not too knackered as well.
We stayed in hospital for three days in the end - baby was monitored for 72 hours and had some withdrawal symptoms - he was quite jittery and had low temperature. Was on NNU for 24 hours which was horrid cos he was away from me but I was in a bay with other mums without their babies too so that was nicer.
And yes, having just been there and got all the packs and info again, there is very little given to new mums about PNI. I was constantly asked about how Iw as feeling but I think that was just cos it was on my records that I had PNI so they had to check.
xxx
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Post by Bookwormprincess on Nov 3, 2009 14:38:23 GMT
HI Nicola,
Must have been awful when your baby was in special care. I would have been really worried but glad he is doing well now by the sound of things. And you seem to be doing well too, which is great. Are you having extra care and attention from the proffessionals because of the pni last time or are they pretty much leaving you alone?
Well, the sickness started at 6 weeks, just like with my son, but it is more like 1- 2 times a day actually being sick with constant nausea, so not hyperemesis like before thank goodness, although it is horrible enough. I am feeling really fed up of it already and it's only been going on 2 weeks (how will I put up with weeks and weeks of it I don't know). My husband is of-course being supportive but said he is secretly pleased every time I am sick as it's a sign of a healthy pregnancy (although I did tell him a lot of women have no sickness and everything is fine and that being sick doesn't guarantee anything). But seeing him grin does not help when I have my head down the toilet!
I now have a date for the dating scan - 30th November. I just really hope everything is ok. My first antenatal is on Wednesday with the same midwife as I had before which is good.
To be honest, despite being sick every day, I still can't believe it's real. I feel a bit guilty that I'm not as excited like I was with Ellis and that I feel a bit distant from the baby already (doesn't help that I can't tell he or she is there yet I suppose). I don't know, perhaps I'll feel differently after the scan and also when I stop being sick. I have definietly had more down days recently and have been more easily irritated with my husband and son - could be hormones??? Or just the fact that I am constantly exhausted now.
Hmmm, for someone who planned this pregnancy and wanted another baby, I am not being very positive - sorry everyone. I hope it's just because I'm in the difficult first trimester.
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Post by nicola1712 on Nov 5, 2009 19:40:27 GMT
I feel a bit guilty that I'm not as excited like I was with Ellis and that I feel a bit distant from the baby already (doesn't help that I can't tell he or she is there yet I suppose). I don't know, perhaps I'll feel differently after the scan and also when I stop being sick. I have definietly had more down days recently and have been more easily irritated with my husband and son - could be hormones??? Or just the fact that I am constantly exhausted now.
Hiya - hope you are resting when you can hun - the above statement was soooo me when I was first pregnant too. It took me ages to believe it was happening again and even longer to actually 'bond' with the baby so to speak. When we found out he was a boy I felt even more distant because it was the unknown again - and how on earth would I bond and cope with a boy. I couldn't look at boys clothes in the shops cos I couldn't cope with them - girls stuff seemed much easier. Am still a bit wary of the boys section even now he is here!
You will be irritable with everyone and then you will feel guilty for taking it out on LO cos he won't understand. It is more than likely hormones at this stage - they told me if I was still awful after 15 weeks then to go back, which is when they started my meds again. Please please remember that LO won't remember if you are irritable and he will get used to you not being able to do as much with him cos you are knackered and can't sit on the floor!
And yes I have had loads of attention since having him with regards to PNI. I was constantly asked in hospital how I was feeling and I was honest. They said they will ask me again at my postnatal check but if I need to talk then I go to GP beforehand no problem.
Try and rest when you can (not easy I know) and eat little and often. Travel sickness bands took the edge off it for me.
xxx
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