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Post by gizmoracer on Jun 30, 2008 8:44:25 GMT
A brief update on what has been going on here, not sure where I got to before but anyway S had a telephone interview a while back with the OHS (occupational health) the bloke he spoke to was really horrible and wouldn't listen. They then sent a report back to work saying there is nothing wrong with him so work arranged an interview with him to find out why he wasn't back He tried to tell them that he had a doc and physio appointment the next day and put off seeing them til afterwards but they wouldn't have it. Anyway the doc was very good and said she wants him to go see a specialist at the hospital now and not to even think about going back to work. You should have seen the look on her face when she read the OHS report. The following day he got into a very heated discussion with the physio who just kept saying 'they can't do that its against the law' Steve was trying to explain that it doesn't matter what is or isn't against the law they will do it anyway. Not going to get myself worked up about this one She basically said he should go back to work on light duties. He then had another phone call from the OHS because the union had complained for him and they gave him a different case wroker who interviewed him on the phone again a few days back. She was really good and agreed he wasn't in any fit state to go back. I think the fact that she spoke to him when he was really down helped coz he was almost in tears telling her how he hasn't been able to pick up the children for over 2 months. He now has another meeting with work and the OHS in a couple of weeks. In the meantime we have been working in the garden and it now looks really good out there, not much left to do. I have stapled my old gazebo sides to the high part of the fence so the kids next door can't look into our bedroom so easily and so far their mother hasn't complained S went and ordered our new bedroom furniture the other day so we need to get our room sorted quickly now so we can re-paint it. Jason has become stck to the Wii (think we might have to have the controller surgicaly removed soon lol. Least he will be easy to amuse over the summer. Both kids had reports from school which were really good and a class photo too. I'm learning to manage without a car but its hard coz the guy next door bought it so it is still parked right by us and I keep getting upset over it, stupid I know. The walking seems to be helping to keep the weight off, but thats about it at the moment, I put a couple of lb back on but so far have been eating loads and not gone up again so happy with that for the moment. The excersise has also made a difference to my PMT. Personally I thought it had got worse, I am definatly more emotional at the moment which is driving me mad, but the pain doesn't last as long. I had 2 remedies to PMT when I was a teenager 1 was marmite, if you have marmite nearly everyday it ups your B12 intake and keeps the pain down when you come on. The other one was loads of excersise, what that basicaly does is get rid of the pain quicker so you only get 1 day of it but my god that 1 day is hell. This month I could bearly stand up and spent all day hugging a hot water bottle. Anyway its really hot here today so I need to get out in the garden while its still shady and I have to take Jason to the hosp. this afternoon as well for an asthma check up.
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Post by gizmoracer on Jun 30, 2008 16:21:58 GMT
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Post by winegirl on Jun 30, 2008 19:20:05 GMT
Hi Giz
Oh hun I am so sorry. It sounds to me like people are getting the wrong end of the stick here and you are getting the blunt end of it! I am so sorry hun.
But you can hold your head up high and know yourself that you have done EVERYTHING right for your child and anyone who says other wise is deluded. I am disgusted at how they have behaved.
What tablets have they given him? Are they steroids??
Sending you huge hugs (()))
WG xx
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Post by gizmoracer on Jun 30, 2008 21:25:54 GMT
I've mellowed you'll be pleased to hear. Have a habit of jumping in at the deep end. S has pointed out I've not been regular with my tabs either which probably hasn't helped. The tablets they want to put him back on are montelocast (sp?) but S said to me a while back that is a last resort, thank goodness. Our doc did say there were alternatives, a green inhaler is one of them so we will see. He has had steriods before and they are excellent, wish he could take them all the time, they just cure everything ecsma, athma, hayfever, literally everything. But they make him very very hyper and eat loads, he is already on adult meals.
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Post by winegirl on Jun 30, 2008 21:29:04 GMT
Yeah, I used to be on steriods for asthma as a kid. Then went down to brown inhalor twice a day and blue one when needed. Then just the blue one, now none.
Glad you are feeling a bit calmer mate. And dont forget to take your tablets!!!! Otherwise i will start messaging you every day to remind you!!
Love
WG xx
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Post by gizmoracer on Aug 14, 2008 4:36:07 GMT
Well its back again. Been building up for a few days now. Got the ringing in my ears again, started having nightmares again, generally no enthusiasm, perminantly tired but I suppose thats to be expected been as the kids are perminantly hyper and Joeys not sleeping on top of my snoring causing loads of trouble again Just feel so alone right now. I slept on the sofa last night so S could get some sleep. He's been back at work about a week now and as per usual they are making life hell for him and he is back in alot of pain again. I just thought it would be a way of everyone getting so much needed sleep. Joey had me up 5 or 6 times. Jay has been sniffling all night, S has been snoring to the point where I could hear him in the front room and I had 3 nightmares. I gave up about 4 am and tried to go to bed without waking him, but even that backfired and I ended up waking him with my snoring. He clearly wasn't pleased about it either. I just wanted to be near him after all those nightmares H'es gone to work now and the kids have been up again, I can't get back to sleep and have been crying for ages now. Yes I am still taking my tablets for all the good they seem to be doing right now. I've got loads going on next week. Hosp. on Tuesday about my snoring (I'm hoping they might beable to do something to save my marrage) then sodding dentists on Wednesday (thats probably half of whats been upsetting me, I'm terrified) back to the docs on Friday at half past bloody 8 in the morning (with both hyper kids in tow) then Sunday I am going to the Hare Krishner temple with my Dad, he has beeen invited as a VIP for their celebarations. It should be a good day but I know I will be worrying about how badly the kids are winding S up all day long. The kids seem to have settled finally so I'm going to try and get some sleep. Should be fun concidering I can't breath properlly now I've been crying. Take that back Joeys up again.
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Post by winegirl on Aug 14, 2008 7:39:56 GMT
Hi Giz
Its no wonder you are having a blip with all that is going on this week! I am sorry you are struggling babes, but try not to analyse it. Just accept that you have a lot on your plate and it has caused a bit of a blip.
Have you managed to get any more sleep since being up so early this morning? How you feeling now?
Around on and off all day if you ned to chat x
WG xx
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Post by gizmoracer on Aug 14, 2008 8:06:45 GMT
Thanks WG, I finally managed to get Joey back to sleep in my bed about 7ish and then dropped off myself, Jay came crashing in just after 8. Don't really know if I feel better or worse at the moment, got a raging headache and my eyes are all puffed up. Kids are on full hyper mode again and already driving me mad.
I have decided I'm going to my Mums today, we were supposed to have been going to St Albans today but the weather is too unpredictable. I just really need to get out and so do the kids. Got to drag them up town tomorrow school uniform shopping so need to calm them somehow before then. Also its my Dads day off work today so we can get a lift home which is handy.
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Post by winegirl on Aug 14, 2008 8:38:27 GMT
Hope you have a nice time at your Mums hun. Try and relax a bit of you can and let your parents run round after the kids for a bit while you sit down with a cup of tea.
Hope you feel better as the day goes on xxx
WG x
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Post by gizmoracer on Aug 15, 2008 20:50:54 GMT
I managed to talk my Dad into coming to collect us as well :)So that was nice, saved me from stressing over the train. (I still have the ocassional panic attack over getting the kids onto and off of the train after that time the double buggy got stuck under the door with Joey still in it, years ago). Anyway, dad and I had another nose at the family tree, we still can't find any evidence of S's family ever exsisting, not even a marrage record for his parents its weird. Then Mums friend came round with chocolate for the kids, she is waiting on her second grandchild due in a few months. We went up the local shops, the old butcher there has a cheap shop attached now so I stocked up on stuff, compliments of mum The kids made a pizza with her and we came home about 3ish I think. S had decided he was taking the kids into town with his parents today for uniform so I could have a rest but I ended up talking myself into going with them anyway. Not too bad, we got the bus and kids went in the car with the in-laws. We sorted out their shoes dead easy, they had already been in shop and decided what they wanted, then after MIL coming close to a slap for interring we told her to wait out side with one so we could get uniform for the other then swap over. Having S with us means the kids get what they need not what I can manage to get away with for as little cost as possible. We ended up with 2 pairs school shoes, 2 pairs plimsoles, trainers for Jay and S, 2 new school coats, 7 shirts for Jay and 6 for Joey, 2 pairs of trousers and 2 packs of socks. It all came to £90 bloody good going really concidering. Finally got a pump for the paddling pool as well. The rest of the day has not been too bad, til I had a row on the phone with the credit card company just before 9pm. Kids are now in bed and I have hopes that at least one of them will sleep through. :-/maybe. I told S about the nightmares too and we are getting on ok now, just want my hosp. appointment over with so I will hopefully beable to sleep in bed with him again.
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Post by cheshire on Aug 16, 2008 20:30:45 GMT
Hi Giz Just did the uniforms there too - Thursday. Was not too bad - I hit Tesco extra, but as usual, J is in big sizes and will need everything turning up . Lovely job for tomorrow . Shoes - different matter as J decided he was Clarks phobic - esp. the electronic foot measuring machine - nightmare! Hope you're having an ok evening? Hx
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Post by gizmoracer on Aug 17, 2008 17:04:31 GMT
So the mad week begins. Tomorrow I'm walking the kids to my Nan's (they won't be impressed with the walking bit). I have to collect some clothes from her for Sunday's visit to the Hare Krishner temple, Mum is the only person I know who has a skirt that might fir me and she left it at Nan's for me to collect. If only I was still working at my old school I would have been able to borrow a proper sari from someone. Then I'll have to pop into big Tesco for food, with kids in tow back on the bus probably. S has got a meeting at work, then his normal duty and once that finishes he has a physio appointment at the hospital. means he will be up at 4.30am and won't be able to eat til about 3pm.
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Post by winegirl on Aug 18, 2008 12:36:32 GMT
Hi Giz
God you really do have a mad day ahead! I really hope it all goes to plan and you guys can have a bit of a rest tonight!
Thinking of you x
WG xx
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Post by gizmoracer on Aug 20, 2008 9:12:10 GMT
Feeling really freaked out and on edge this morning. I'm actually shaking. Monday wasn't so bad. The kids were fighting most of the way down to the in-laws (I decided to drop S off a change of clothes for after work) that seemed to get it out of their system coz from there to my nans they were fine. Stayed longer at my Nans than was planning but tthe kids were settled so that was ok. Then went onto Tesco. Got the bus home didpite trying to talk the kids into walking. God did I feel sick when I got off that bus. Made a couple of pizzas just in time for S to get home from the hosp. By then it was 3pm. Yesterday was a complete waste of time and energy. I got loads of housework done in the morning, even managed to dry some of the washing before it poured. S said he would come with me to the hospital, I wasn't too bothered about the appointment till we set off then I started worrying about it. He has arranged for his parents to lok after the kids but they insisted we walked them down to their house i the pouring rain, instead of them driving over to us it stopped raining when we got to them but started again when we picked them up. Anyway we got to the hospital early and I was seen really quickly. He basically he had a right go at me over my weight shuved something in my mouth muttered something about bit big and operation then shuved something in my nose and prompty said I have to come back and see a different doctor who will make me saty overnight wired up to all sorts of things then will have another go about my weight then will say I have to have an operation. I'm not a happy bunny. Came home feeling very emotional and couldn't shake it. Then last night I had one of those weird dreams that sticks in your head. Now today we have got the dentists S offered me to wait in waiting room while he went in but I said I would leg it. really not looking forward to it at all.
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Post by winegirl on Aug 20, 2008 10:31:18 GMT
Oh hun you are going through the wars!!
Best of luck at the dentist babes. Is this your last appointment of the week??
WG xx
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