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Post by southerngirl on Oct 8, 2007 9:43:27 GMT
Just to say my friends deserted me long ago when my ex was ill ( bipolar and self harmer) Ex lied so much and sadly friends took exs side not mine. Still I go on Well I am actually feeling a lot more positive at the moment. Hubby and I went to the gym last night and I managed most of my plan that I follow which I was really proud of. We are hoping to go together again tonight if daughter will babysit. Side effects dont seem to be as bad now, not feeling sicky much at all. Still get light headed but not as bad. Dry mouth is still a problem. It is really strange but so many people I know have been on fluoxetine and they talked of a fog lifting and being able to see through it clearly. Well I am actually starting to realise what they mean. For the first time in months I can actually think about things without falling apart. I am not crying at everything now although I still drop down when kids are stressing me but hubby then takes over which is great. Maybe I am just one of the lucky ones or maybe I was already starting to recover by the time I went to drs I dont know but I feel like I am going up not down now. I am quite a strong person anyway so maybe I just needed that little help just to help me gain control again. Going to go shopping in a bit, oh the excitement lol. Liz x
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Post by Scarlet on Oct 8, 2007 10:22:25 GMT
Hi Liz,
Sounds like the fluxotine is doing the trick for you hun and that you had a better couple of days. Great that you managed to get up the gym and that you have a live-in babysitter *winks*
Have a great time shopping, I'm just going out myself for a bit of retail therapy..
Take care hun
Scarlet X
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Post by southerngirl on Oct 9, 2007 9:47:15 GMT
Managed to get to the gym and did my whole plan. I actually feel quite proud of myself today. Exhausted but happy as well. Now need to sort dinner out as its pouring down and need to go to Asda Liz x
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Post by winegirl on Oct 9, 2007 10:51:32 GMT
Well done Liz!! You will have to give me some tips on how to try and shift the post pregnancy belly as you seem to be the guru on all things fitness related!
Hope the shop in asda goes ok x
Winegirl
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Post by monica on Oct 9, 2007 15:33:06 GMT
hello
Just catch up on your thread andwanted to say I'm so pleased things are picking up for you. You sound so motivated especially with the running. Good for you!
Monica
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Post by southerngirl on Oct 10, 2007 10:07:48 GMT
Not bad, 2 days running I have got to the gym and done everything I intended. 15 year old gone back to being a nightmare but I am not reacting to her as much as I would have before. She would have had me crying my eyes out by now but I am actually feeling able to deal with it more. Winegirl, there is loads you can do for your baby belly. After 10 kids I dont think I will ever lose mine. Hubby is at work tonight so will start a thread somewhere ( not sure where) with some tips. I have really found that exercising is the thing that has lifted me the most. It is hard to get motivated but it really does help. Liz x
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Post by Scarlet on Oct 10, 2007 10:52:55 GMT
Liz, Was that a typo, or did you say 10 kids If you have any suggestions on how to get rid of a pregnancy belly, flabby thighs and arms...do let on. Scarlet X
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Post by winegirl on Oct 10, 2007 11:54:36 GMT
Yes, I just nearly fell off my chair when i read 10 kids! I cant cope with !
Yes, I look forward to your thread on excercise. And i think you are doing an amazing job with all the training you ar doing!
Winegirl x
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Post by southerngirl on Oct 10, 2007 12:28:47 GMT
No it wasnt a typo lol. Yes I have had 10 children but only 6 are at home now. 3 live with my ex and I dont see them. I sent them to exs when (looking back) I was really sinking and couldnt cope anymore with the hassle my ex was giving me. Using kids as a weapon etc wasnt my game so I walked away. Hardest decision I ever made but it was the only way to stop my ex using the kids to hurt me. Things such as phoning me to say kids would have to stay with me at weekend instead of going there then telling the kids I had stopped them going, the list goes on. I have 17 year old and 15 year old from previous relationship. With my hubby Pete who is the best in the world I have a 5 year old girl, 3 year old boy, 2 year old girl and 1 year old boy. Yes its tough but some days my kids are the only reason I get up in the morning. My 5 year old is an angel and if I feel down she always seems to know and will go out of her way to do things or just give me a hug. As for exercise, yep I will definitely do a thread with some ideas on exercise. Am hoping to get my gym involved with the PNI Awareness Weekend My own instructor knows all about me and she has been so supportive and really encourages me. I told her I am running next year and she has ppersuaded me to do a run in May , think its Race for Life as the girls from the gym do it :)I am not an expert by far but am learning loads all the time. Am considering getting into it properly and training as a personal trainer or something similar in the future. Better move myself off here and sort my children out. Liz x
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Post by southerngirl on Oct 11, 2007 9:10:29 GMT
Should have known it wouldnt last. I am fed up with hubby not listening to me where kids are concerned. This has always been a problem between us as he wont stick to things we talk about but does it his own way. My 15 year old ignores me and the younger ones are copying. It seems like my 3 year old can do what he wants but my 5 year old gets moaned at constantly for it. Yes they do need to be treated the same and told of when they ignore us etc but hubby cant see he is doing anything wrong. I have told him I am fed up with him going to work then coming back and expecting me to sit by and watch him mess up things I am doing with the kids. I am trying to get into a routine with them but it seems I am allowed to do it when he is at work and not when he is here so whats the point. He decided that I should go find a job if I was so unhappy about what he was doing, wish I could. I used to do care work but dr has advised me not to go back to it at the moment as I am burning myself out trying to do everything while feeling like crap. I just feel like I am banging my head against a brick wall most of the time as he doesnt understand how important it is for the kids to realise they can get away with things with him and not me. Someone come and sort my family out for me lol, need a miracle here. Liz x
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Post by winegirl on Oct 11, 2007 17:15:41 GMT
Hi Liz
Would offer to sort them out for you hun, but i cant even sort my one out let alone your lot! LOL
I really hope your OH starts to listen to you and understand the importance of how he is treating the kids, sounds like you need a break hun!
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Post by southerngirl on Oct 11, 2007 17:27:56 GMT
Now you know why I go to the gym lol. Am going to sit down with hubby and kids tomorrow and set up basic rules Supernanny style. I use the naughty step but it isnt used properly so will enforce it properly. I need to get things sorted out or it will knock me down again and I feel like I am really going back up so dont want that. I think I went to the drs after hitting rock bottom and was possibly already starting to come through it. I am feeling a lot more positive but think this site can also be thanked for that as it keeps me that way Liz x
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Post by winegirl on Oct 11, 2007 19:30:09 GMT
Hi Liz
Sounds like a good idea. Perhaps you could even do one of those family reward charts like supernanny does! I will def be doing one of those for my little one when she is old enough to understand.
Good luck with the `family meeting' tomorrow x
Winegirl x
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Post by Scarlet on Oct 12, 2007 8:32:20 GMT
I love Suppernanny and Nanny 911. Liz, you could give us a tip or two I'm sure, with your 10 (still can't get over that one) have you ever thought of becoming a new Supernanny with your wealth of experience.
I did reward charts for a while with my eldest and they really worked. A bit of bribery never hurt imo.
Know what you mean about the tooth fairy (in the other thread). My eldest is 10 and he is still waiting to lose his last teeth so he can get the money. ;D
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Post by southerngirl on Oct 12, 2007 9:59:13 GMT
I may have had 10 but I am still coming up against things I have never encountered before lol. I will go onto the other bits and see what advice I can give on parenting issues, have tried most things with my lot lol. Am going down the gym in a bit as need some me time. My 15 year old is being absolute hell again. I just wish she would stop blaming me for everything. I do not trust her at all as she can be really nasty and spiteful. She has just said she is going to the library and I asked what time she would be back and I got a mouthful of abuse. My ex allowed her to do whatever she wants without thinking about others and she thinks she can just do what she likes here to. She is almost 16 and has said she would rather live on the streets than be here. I just wish that I could get through to her that we do love her and that she needs boundaries. She wanted to get a Saturday job but doenst see why I should have to sign anything for her. She thinks rules dont apply to her. There is a lot of history with here and maybe I havent been the best parent in the world but when a child basically turns against you then what more can you do. I was hell as a teenager but I wouldnt have done anything to my mum the way she has to me. OK moan over. Liz x
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