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Post by Scarlet on Apr 30, 2008 9:58:23 GMT
Hi Tabbysmum,
I was the same, daily things I looked at would provoke an anxiety feeling, and new fears popped up all the time. Don't worry about the new thoughts popping up, it's the way hun....it's like a generalised anxiety which is common with PNI. It will go, and when you don't get affected by some of the thoughts, these others will disappear as well. You won't have to live in a bubble. I found that if I had a particular (irrational) fear, I would act upon it immediately and this worked for me. I feared putting my son in his high-chair for ages, and so I put him in it periodically through-out the day, and the fear disappeared, and I found that when I becasme less fearful of this, then other fears/anxious thoughts I had disappeared as well, so you won't actually have to work on every individual fear. Did I make sense here. Hope so, cos I'm just getting ready to go out as I type this, and I've left my LO in his cot for a mo, and he's screaming.
Have you done the EFT whilst thinking of these thoughts? Did it work to any degree?
xxxx
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Post by cokey on Apr 30, 2008 11:28:13 GMT
How u doing today tm?
Cokey xxx
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Post by tabbysmum on Apr 30, 2008 13:45:52 GMT
Hi both,
I'm doing ok, can't get this new thought out of my head but so far have managed to avoid putting the offending object out of the way. Have been tapping and don't know if it's helping or not. On Sunday when I had a new thought I was hysterical for hours, this time I haven't been, I'm struggling with it as it's so vivid but I'm not reacting to it the same so maybe something's working - fingers crossed.
TM x
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Post by Scarlet on Apr 30, 2008 14:15:26 GMT
Tabbysmum,
Don't put the offending article away... whatever it is. I was the same with knives and I deliberately put them on a knife wall hanger on the wall. I had chopping and carving knives glaring at me each time I went into the kitchen and at first I had panics, and heart palpatations, and of course intrusive thoughts surrounding them, but then after a while the thoughts disappeared, and these days I have no problem whatsoever with knives.
And if you want to tell us what this offending article is, if it will help you in anyway, offloading it, please do.
xxxx
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Post by winegirl on Apr 30, 2008 14:19:24 GMT
Hi TM
Well done on keeping the thoughts low key hun. Maybe this tapping thing really is working! Have you tried looking at the object while do tapping?
WG x
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Post by tabbysmum on Apr 30, 2008 14:35:35 GMT
Hi both,
It's knives with me now too, horrible vivid images and I don't want to go into details in case I trigger anyone elses thoughts, but if you've had them I'm sure you know them only too well, it's a new one for me so finding it quite alarming.
TM x
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Post by winegirl on Apr 30, 2008 14:37:18 GMT
Hi TM
I think knives is quite a common one. Keep looking at them hun, you KNOW you are not going to do anything about it so challenge the thoughts. It will be draining and upsetting, but the more you do it, the easier it will become - I promise!!
You ok this afternoon?
WG xx
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Post by Scarlet on Apr 30, 2008 14:40:24 GMT
Yes I do understand Tabbysmum I had terrible thoughts about knives, go and look at them as often as you can during the day, and do lots of chopping, even if you have the thoughts... Think of these thoughts as bullies and tell them to piss off, and keep chopping vegetables etc. Honestly this method does work, but it's scary at first. Do you think you could do it hun?.
xxx
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Post by tabbysmum on Apr 30, 2008 16:59:19 GMT
At the minute I think I can do it, as much as this thought is very scary I'm not giving it the attention I have to my other thoughts. Sunday I had a horrible thought about the iron, and immediately put it in the boot of the car, it's still there. I was hysterical for hours and well into Monday too but I've reacted differently to this one (maybe that's down to tapping) and so far am finding it easier to deal with so I will just continue to do what I have to do with them and when necessary, as Scarlet says, will tell them to piss off!
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Post by cokey on Apr 30, 2008 17:36:51 GMT
Hi TM
I had the knives one last time and I think it may be the most common phobia in PNI/OCD. I remember not being able to having sharp knives in the house and then blow me, my dad bought us a big box set of ultra sharp knives. I freaked out and upset him because he was meaning well and didn't know my fear. Paul hid them from me and to this day I don't know where they are.
The good thing is I never have that one now. They do pass.
I think the tapping does work on some level. It doesn't feel like it does but reactions do change.
Glad you are doing so well.
Cokey xx
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Post by tabbysmum on May 1, 2008 9:15:56 GMT
Strange day yesterday, had many new thoughts which didn't bother me, and that in turn did bother me, but I'm feeling fine. The thoughts are coming thick and fast as usual but I'm just not reacting to them at all and feel ok with everything. That has made me question whether there is something wrong with me because I'm not freaking out, but I think I'm just getting bored with them - oh please let it be so! I'm still tapping, whether that's had any bearing on how i'm feeling goodness knows but I shall keep it up as it's obviously doing me no harm.
Hope all you ladies are having a good day today.
Take care
TM x
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Post by cheshire on May 1, 2008 20:06:21 GMT
Hi Tabbysmum,
It's good that you are pushing away the thoughts - so hard, I know.
I'm a keen advocate of distraction - I know it doesn't solve the root cause, but is a good coping mechanism (don't know about you - but sometimes struggle to know what the root cause is?)
Take care
Hopefulx
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Post by winegirl on May 2, 2008 7:33:17 GMT
Hi TM
Sorry wasnt around yesterday. How have your thought been? Hope yesterday was ok for you and you have been making the most of this sunshine xx
WG x
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Post by tabbysmum on May 2, 2008 7:54:35 GMT
Hi all,
Last night wasn't so good. Didn't matter what I did I just couldn't distract myself from the thoughts - which seem to be spiralling out of control. Ended up putting the big knives where I couldn't see them so I'm very disappointed as I'd coped well with them for a few days. Looking at everything at the minute and have a horrible scary thought. I do realise this is OCD and I'm testing myself but it's just so draining. The only positive I can think of at the minute is that I'm not having a major crying hissy fit about it, which I would have done a week ago, I'm tense and agitated but probably no worse than that. Lets hope today sees a return to the positive being I was yesterday.
Take care ladies
TM x
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Post by cheshire on May 2, 2008 9:08:13 GMT
Hi Tabbysmum,
Sorry things were not so good last night - hope today picks up for you.
Hopefulx
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